RIGHT! EVERYONE STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND GIVE---- OJ ---- YOUR THOUGHTS, PRAYERS AND HUGS

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Update at 20:17 - No more trifles today. Steves breathing not good and he won't take his meds. DN is coming in morning and said about fitting him with a driver.

Update at 20:28 - Got some mates here, not sure if tonight the night

Come on girls!!

Thinking of you all.xx
Know what you mean about feet!

Dear OJ, I can't believe the latest from MIL> Glad she was dispatched on the spot from pursuing that. Who the bloody hell does she think she is? I am sorry to speak rudely of her, but every time I think she can't lower herself yet further, she manages it.

Hope you are OK today love and your back is a little better. Has Steve eaten at all? Hope you have managed some good cuddles today. Thinking of you all and will check in later.

Much love XXXX

Dear OJ, I can't believe the latest from MIL> Glad she was dispatched on the spot from pursuing that. Who the bloody hell does she think she is? I am sorry to speak rudely of her, but every time I think she can't lower herself yet further, she manages it.

Hope you are OK today love and your back is a little better. Has Steve eaten at all? Hope you have managed some good cuddles today. Thinking of you all and will check in later.

Much love XXXX

Vaggy time for the extra large & sharp pins I fear............

As CM says she is breaking new depths every time, I don't think I have EVER encountered such a self-centred, unfeeling heartless bitch in my life....and believe me I've seen all sorts!!!

Oj I do hope that you can put this awful behaviour aside and pretend i shat not happened -

spend time with Steve and let this pass you by

Well Bossy I live next to a church and I have thieved borrowed all of their candles as it is, maybe the vicar will be up for a spot of exorcism (sp?) practice.

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I know that family is crap, I have one myself, but at a time like this it is especially galling.

hugs mean little, but understanding the wish to stab them is here, and I hope that helps a teensy bit

Been thinking of you as always.

Put something in the post for you today. Should go through letterbox so no need for postie to knock with his feather again.

That bloody so called Mother in Law needs to be told to off. She is no help whatsoever. What's her address OJ? I'm sure an army of MNetters would love to pay her a visit!

OJ, please don't waste any energy or emotion being angry about your MIL - it is a waste of time and of your already stretched resources.

Kate's approach to Linda, and Linda's response to Kate, and the outcome, tells you all you need to know abpout how the rest of the normal world does and will view MIL's behaviour.

Has she still not been told she is on a warning, and won't be able to visit any more unless she packs it in? Please get your SW to give her that message.

The thing that makes me so cross is that MIL has never asked steve what he wants.
when he was in the hospice and she was telling everyone but me that she wanted steve home with her, i asked the Mac nurse the consultant and the nurse to talk to him on their own to ask what he wanted, yes he was telling me he wanted to be home with me and the kids but i didn't want to assume that he wanted that cos he may have just been saying that to me and saying something else to MIL, they all came back and said he wanted to be with me and of course that will be on his file, in fact in have it here in a report from social worker, shall i highlight it and send it to MIL?
steve has only eaten two spoons of jelly today

Just ignore your MIL. Don't speak to her unless you really have too and she wouldn't take any notice of the report anyway.

So sorry Steve hasn't eaten much.

Is there anything at all that we could tempt him with?

Take care, lovie.

thoughts of peace to you

OJ

Hope he will eat a bit more tomorrow

Like most of us I wish I was nearer and could actually help.

Yes OJ I WOULD do that-maybe if she sees it in black & white she'll believe it.

On second thoughts get the SW to show her then she can't accuse you of faking the report (which on past showing she bloody would)

sorry you MIL is adding to your problems (in my own experience they usually do! ) love to you allxxx

OJ your MIL sounds very selfish please do not waste any more of your energy on her when you there really is no need to, only speak with her when she decides to pop in or call you, it makes me sooo angry to read this when life is so so hard anyway for you all

I am sorry Steve has only eaten 2 spoonfuls of jelly, god i wish i had a magic wand, i hope you can all have a peaceful night & that he eats more tomorrow, much love to you all, we are all here thinking of you xx

OJ...I am so sorry that you have to live thro this right now....ever in fact

if you like, you can thro your MIL in with my aunt...they would get on far too well I fear.

please believe tho, that if hope and hugs and prayers would work, your MIL would be shot up to the moon as dust right now!!!!

i am annoyed that i have already said she can vist with Mike monday night. i didn't get the email until 5pm so i can't speak to SW or Mac nurse til monday, Mac nurse and hospice consultant are coming to vist on tuesday morning with the intension of speaking to MIL, i am tempted to get SW to cancel mondays MIL vist and see what happens on tuesday.

you have to let it go OJ - don't let it consume you

Cancel if you want but won't she then be even worse?

Oh DO, OJ - please - she needs to be cornered

rise above it OJ, this is her bitter battle to get her own way and be in control, let her stew in her own bitterness. You MUST focus on you and steve now - forget her, pity her, just dont let her ruin your time with your husband, time is so precious every ounce of energy wasted on that bitch is energy you need right now

I would get SW to cancel MIL's visit on Monday. She has no right to take up any of you and steve's precious time together. You should be concentrating only on each other at this time and you do not need the added stress that she is giving you. I'm so that she is behaving in this way.