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RIGHT! EVERYONE STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND GIVE---- OJ ---- YOUR THOUGHTS, PRAYERS AND HUGS

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NotABanana · 14/05/2008 20:46

Update at 20:17 - No more trifles today. Steves breathing not good and he won't take his meds. DN is coming in morning and said about fitting him with a driver.

Update at 20:28 - Got some mates here, not sure if tonight the night

Come on girls!!

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littlelapin · 16/05/2008 14:00

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kay1981 · 16/05/2008 14:21

where does oj live? not street address obviously, just area.

Sorry to speak over you oj if you reading this.

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Izzybel · 16/05/2008 14:26

I have never posted either, but I just wanted to say that I am thinking of you and your family (((((hugs))))) xxx

kay1981 · 16/05/2008 14:31

oh i live near sheffield, again id be a complete stranger, but if theres anything i can do.

OJ - stay strong and think of your three wonderful children, they are a credit to you and you are an inspriation to everyone on here and beyond.

xx

susiecutiebananas · 16/05/2008 14:39

Hi OJ. just wanted to say, thiking of you of course Mainly, wanted to ask what is going to be in his driver? I always make sure there is a good dose of Midazolam in my patients drivers, as it is so good for keeping them settled, slightly sedated thought not enormously, and really comfortable.
Gives a pleasant feeling too, as Have had it myself peri-operatively when I had to be awake for some surgery... it basically 'interupts' with the local memory, which sounds horrible, and that he won't know who you are etc, this is not the case. It means for him, he wont be aware of any discomfort, as it just doesn't register, IFSWIM? he will still know you, and everyone- if indeed he does now ( sorry if insensitive question, not sure how he is doing with that regard recently ) Anyway, wanted to suggest you ask for it to be added in, if it isn't already.

oh OJ, I wish more than anything that I could give you some practical help, just that my back is pretty horrific which is why i can't get back to work myself. I miss my ward and patients so much, I really truly wish i could come and help you, day to day with the nursing. If you get to the stage where they are simply not giving you enough nursing support, please let me know and I will happily come to you and at least I can tell you what to do, if that makes sense! Just can't do the muscly bit!

Lastly, this will probably sound so horrible, but if youdo want to know a bit about what to look out for, and how to know things are really changing with Steve, so you can be really prepared,then please email me, and I can talk you through some things... just something I'm often asked, as relatives don't want to not be there Shit, I really hope that doesn't sound insensitive and callus. truly not my intention. HUGEest apologies if it is.

Really really thinking of you. xx

email : susie brett at mac dot com

moodlumthehoodlum · 16/05/2008 17:36

OJ - I've been away but you have been in my thoughts. Wish there was something practical I could do, but in the absence of that, all I can do is send positive vibes, thoughts and prayers for you all.

bamamama · 16/05/2008 17:37

just checking in OJ, I hope you manage to get Steves meds and your back sorted. x

onlyjoking9329 · 16/05/2008 17:44

i will be back to read all the posts in a while, i am very very angry at MILs actions of today see copy of email i got from social worker today.

Dear Jo,
Just for your information. I had a call today from an Advocacy agency,Kate T. Mrs E had asked for the service for Steven. Kate checked out with me if he met the criteria, or indeed if he wanted an advocate. It was decided their service was not appropriate. Kate was to relate this back to Mrs E.
Kate said it was very unusual for a request under these circumstances and that she sensed there may be some difficulty. I was able to give her some idea of the situation without breaking confidentiality so I doubt if Mrs E will be persuing that option again.
Best Regards
Linda

i am f**king livid

MarsLady · 16/05/2008 17:45
ButterflyMcQueen · 16/05/2008 17:46

god how ridiculous

you are a better woman than i - keeping your calm oj

paddingtonbear1 · 16/05/2008 17:52

OMG that woman is not on this planet is she? Am really for you.
Just when you think she can't make things any more awkward!!!!

Saturn74 · 16/05/2008 17:53

Wow

NotABanana · 16/05/2008 17:54

What is wrong with that woman?!?!?!?!??!!?!?

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susiecutiebananas · 16/05/2008 17:56

What a horribly nasty thing to do! WTF is that woman thinking ? As if things are not difficult enough for you at the moment without having her BSh to deal with! shit, oh how i'd love to say something to her.

cocolepew · 16/05/2008 17:56

Sorry I'm a bit late to the back rub debate, but I can recommend Feldene Gel. Thinking of you.

prettybird · 16/05/2008 18:04

Thank goodness you have the support of your SW.

We all know that you have beent the true advocate of Steve's interests - and (ironcailly) your MIL's interests. The sad thing is that your reward will only come inheaven as she will never recognise understand acknowledge what you have done to keepy her involved despite her best efferts.

ttriflenorks · 16/05/2008 18:06

May I be so bold as to ask, what a Advocacy agency is?

fransmom · 16/05/2008 18:12

that bloody woman.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((oj and family)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

i hiope steve managed to eat today xxx

MrsJonnyDepp · 16/05/2008 18:31

She gets worse - I'm so sorry OJ.
As I understand it:-
Advocacy is the process of acting on behalf of another person to secure services or rights which they require or are entitled to. In the NHS, it is an important way of enabling people to make informed choices and remain in control of their healthcare requirements.

What does she think should be happening? Being nursed at home surrounded by your loved ones would be my prefered outcome?

BoysAreLikeDogs · 16/05/2008 18:33

She is evil

cali · 16/05/2008 18:57

OJ, was just checking in for 1st time today and can not believe the actions of that woman. I can't think what she was hoping to achieve because you are and always have been the best possible advocate for steve.
Just wish she was able to see this past her warped view of the world.

Yabbadabbadooo · 16/05/2008 18:58

God MIL's a piece of work isn't she.

Thinking of you, Steve and the children.

VaginaShmergina · 16/05/2008 19:15

Obviously my Angel of the North (use the term angel only to describe size, you understand !) sized voodoo doll has not worked.

I have never come across someone so evil, she has it so wrong about everything. It's not nice to wish bad things to people but effin jeffin hell she's flying by the seat of her pants.

A rather large rum awaits you, that is if you have not had one already and tbh I hope you have

trulymadlydeeply · 16/05/2008 19:43

and at your MIL.

She really doesn't deserve to set foot inside your house any longer. She's had her cake, eaten it and spat the crumbs at you. Just really that what she wants takes precedence over her son and his family's situation, desires and needs.

What goes around comes around, OJ ... however long it takes.

Stay strong. Lots of love.

XXX

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