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RIGHT! EVERYONE STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND GIVE---- OJ ---- YOUR THOUGHTS, PRAYERS AND HUGS

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NotABanana · 14/05/2008 20:46

Update at 20:17 - No more trifles today. Steves breathing not good and he won't take his meds. DN is coming in morning and said about fitting him with a driver.

Update at 20:28 - Got some mates here, not sure if tonight the night

Come on girls!!

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barnstaple · 15/05/2008 14:51

OJ you are inspirational
thinking of you all

(yet another lurker; but you are seldom far from my thoughts)

rosmerta · 15/05/2008 14:53

another lurker here, you and your family are in my thoughts & prayers xx

WanderingTrolley · 15/05/2008 15:25

Hi oj
How did the MIL's visit and the meeting go?
Hope the first was uneventful (but yes, count the flowers in cash she nicked any!) and in the second continuing funding was agreed.

Thinking of you,

xx

missorinoco · 15/05/2008 15:36

thinking of you and your family. xx

Whooosh · 15/05/2008 15:42

Hope the visit was bearable-thinking of you all.....

TimeForMe · 15/05/2008 16:08

Thinking of you OJ. I hope you got through MIL's visit unscathed I also hope that Steve has had a comfortable day. Sending lots of love xxx

WanderingTrolley · 15/05/2008 16:23

oj just a thought about they syringe driver: I have known drips to be attached to ankles to prevent them being pulled out. Is that an option with the driver?

champs · 15/05/2008 16:35

hey OJ!! just adding my thoughts, prayers and hugs

ScoobyDoo · 15/05/2008 16:46

Hi OJ am always thinking of you, steve & the kids, am sending much love & strength to you all xx ((hug))

BoysAreLikeDogs · 15/05/2008 16:52

Thinking of you all sweetheart

lalaa · 15/05/2008 17:01

thinking of you

onlyjoking9329 · 15/05/2008 17:03

MIL didn't speak to me until on her way out when she told me that she would like to vist on sunday evening, she wasn't very pleased when i told her i couldn't do sunday and she stormed out, i texted her later and said sorry i can't do sunday but you are welcome to come monday evening with mike. MIL said at the meeting we had to sort out vists that evenings are no good for her. on sunday the girls are at respite until 8pm and i am hoping to take elliot out for a bit and i ain't prepared to change that and the added stress her vists bring. i have had to cancel elliots annual review next week as it was on thursday morning when MIL vists.
i have just had a text from steves sister to tell me that she is coming tonight with mike, i will get my hard hat ready.
the meeting went well and they are hoping to get an extra carer from 7am - 8am
the mac nurse has sorted out morphine patches as steve won't take his tablets.
they are not going ahead with the hoist as steve doesn't need transfering out of bed as such he just needs turning and moving up when he slips down,
the DN has ordered steves meds in ready for the driver.
thanks for all your kind wishes and thoughts.

WanderingTrolley · 15/05/2008 17:07

Well, I'm glad MIL didn't kick off too badly. Will you have a mate there, as well as the carer, when Mike and SIL visit? I do hope so.

How do you feel about the hoist? I'm assuming you have sliding sheets - hope they're going to be ok. If not, DO let us know - lapin will know how healthy the hoist fund is!

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NotABanana · 15/05/2008 17:07

I would be inclined to reinstate anything you have cancelled to accommodate MIL. She sure doesn't deserve you and wouldn't change her plans for you, I'm sure.

that the meeting went well and that you can get an extra carer. Hopefully, too, the patches will help Steve.

Glad things seem brighter than they did last night.

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 15/05/2008 17:07

Thank you for the update, OJ; hoping that a tranquil visit will happen tonight and pigs might fly

CombustibleLemon · 15/05/2008 17:08

Really glad you got they've sorted out alternative pain relief. Hope you and Steve have a moch more peaceful time now. After your SIL has left.

ajandjjmum · 15/05/2008 17:11

x

littlelapin · 15/05/2008 17:11

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CurrantBM · 15/05/2008 17:13

OJ, sorry to hear MIL is still trying to control everything. You are totally right to stick to your plans and not disrupt the childrens weekend. I would have thought that she may begun to realise how precious these visits are, are that she may have had a little more tact and patience, but it appears not to be the case.

She cannot fail to see how you are doing the absolute best for your family, she is wicked to add to your stress at this time.

Thinking of you all throughout the day, and sending you my love.

onlyjoking9329 · 15/05/2008 17:24

the problem with MIL is that she only speaks to me to tell me what she wants.
she doesn't know that i have had to cancel hair appts and review meeting so that she can vist on a thurs and tuesday, the kids break up from school soon and if steve is still here she will want to come on her mornings and i will have to sort out childcare cos i don't want the kids around when she vists in case she kicks off.
i am expecting that she will be ringing around to everyone she can think of to make a complaint about me

BreeVanderCampLGJ · 15/05/2008 17:27

Tell us where she lives and we will batter her with fruit shoots and sausage rolls.

Huge hugs honey, you are inspirational.

mummylin2495 · 15/05/2008 17:29

oj you tell her when its convenient for her to come ,dont let her try and rule your routine.

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NotABanana · 15/05/2008 17:29

Why not text her and tell her you have had to cancel things to accommodate her and it would be human decency if she could afford you a bit of common courtesy. You are not trying to stop her seeing Steve but she has made it nigh on impossible for you to give her an open invitation to visit.

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CombustibleLemon · 15/05/2008 17:40

your MIL If she doesn't have anything nice to say...

fransmom · 15/05/2008 17:40

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((oj and family))))))))))))))))))))))))

bloody mil for you oj. oh sweetheart, have wondered how you were getting on xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

mn will help you when and if you need it xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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