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Very embarrassing problem..

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blushface · 13/05/2008 13:03

Have namechanged..

sometimes when I open my legs, there is an awful smell. Really bad.

Once, I was out with a friend and the smell was so bad, she actually said 'this bar smells disgusting', when it was me..

It makes no difference if I have showered or bathed, if I have used soap or shower gel or nothing at all. I cannot find any reason for this, and it has only started happening in the last few months.

Does anyone have any ideas? I feel so, so but I don't know what to do.

If it helps, the smell is foul. Like rotten, almost.

Oh god

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blushface · 13/05/2008 13:46

Oh.. I don't know what to do. I am so scared, but I know I should go. its not easy..

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hoxtonchick · 13/05/2008 13:47

well you could have a scan & maybe talk to a sympathetic sonographer. i do appreciate it can be scary to go to the dr but you really need to do it. could dh/dp go with you?

avenanap · 13/05/2008 13:47

You have a choice. You can be brave and go, one person will see you and treat you

You can leave it until it causes a severe infection and you collapse. You'll have paramedice, A&E, Gynae and everyone will know. You will be in hospital, away from your family. You also run a huge risk of causing permanent damage, sepsis....

Ask a close friend or your husband/partner to go with you. You need to do this, leaving it is not what is best for you. If you had a friend in the same position what would you tell them to do?

MargaretMountford · 13/05/2008 13:50

you know you must go,it's hard of course but you owe it to yourself and your family to be really brave...you can't go on like this...please

GryffinGirl · 13/05/2008 13:59

blushface - are you anywhere near Edinburgh? My sis is a GP specialising in women's health issues and, like luvaduck says, looking at fanjos is what she does and there is no need to be embarrassed. I could give you her details if that is any help to you. She never discusses her patients either.

luvaduck · 13/05/2008 14:05

why don't you make an appt to just discuss things with your gp and then take it from there
you could maybe ask her to prescribe you a small dose of valium to help before you tell her, or before an examination
but tell her your fears about it all first, and how hard this is for you
write it all down and give her a note?
do you know a good sympathetic female GP?

i wish i could help i'm in london

Weegiemum · 13/05/2008 14:12

If you are in Scotland, there are quite a few of us up here who would help out. I have a friend who works in a specialist Women's unit in Glasgow, she's lovely and would see you no bother (she looks about 12 mind you! I know I am getting older cos the doctors keep getting younger!!)

My dh is a GP in a rural surgery and is very nice = he looks at body bits every day, but it also totally accepting of my hospital phobia and almost all GPs would be the same. I realise you have a real problem, but there are loads of good docs out there who will help out if need be.

Let any of us know if we can do anything for you?

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 14:16

blush, if you are in rural Western Scotland, please let me know.

i'd be happy to come along if you just can't get it out.

i'm so sorry you are going through this and feel like you can't reach out for some help.

any of us would be happy to do what we can if you are near.

please don't let this lie!

a GP or nurse can help and they have seen everything going.

yurt1 · 13/05/2008 14:23

The scan would be internal, but yes you should have had one (I had an early m/c and had several scans until they were sure everything had gone).

uberalice · 13/05/2008 14:25

Could you just check it's not a stray tampon? I've managed to get two in by accident a couple of times .

laidbackinengland · 13/05/2008 14:32

Blushface - this doesn't sound like a normal 'fear of going to the doctors' issue to me it sounds like it is part of your PTSD ? Are you getting any follow up from the CMHT or could you ask for a re-referral ? A good CPN would be able to do some gradual exposure work about going to the GP with you .... this is not the only time you are going to have to visit the GP in your lifetime and you need to get this phobia sorted for your future health my love.

HereComeTheGirls · 13/05/2008 14:36

It sounds like bacterial vaginosis which is VERY common and not sexually transmitted, and is easily cleared up with gel/antibiotics.

pifflewaffle · 13/05/2008 14:38

Blushface it is possible to have a stray tampon stuck as this happened to me when I was a teenager. Like you I had the most disgusting smell - went to doctors and he found a tampon stuck up there. (I was still sticking the tampons up and therefore pushing the first one further up).
I was a very embrassed teenager but the doctor did say this was quite common and that they see alot of cases like this.

Please Please go to the doctors - could you have your husband phone your doctor to say that you need to see him/her but are very anxious and could you have a valium or something to calm you down beforhand.

HereComeTheGirls · 13/05/2008 14:50

Having read the thread properly..was skimming at work...yes, you NEED to go to the doctor's..a stray tampon can cause toxic shock which can be fatal..and an infection after a miscarriage can be very very serious. I don't want to scare you but its SO important that you get seen.

HereComeTheGirls · 13/05/2008 14:51

If you were in/near Edinburgh you could go to Dean Terrace clinic which specialises in women's health, they are lovely there, sympathetic and have seen everything a million times!!

loopylou6 · 13/05/2008 14:51

I totally agreew ith who ever said she is sure its from the MC, i also think there may still be stuff left there. BF you have to do this, not for you but for your child, you are being selfish endangering yourself (yes it could be that serious if you leave it) What would your child do if anything happened to you? yes there is a dad around but every child is also entitled to a mother, so get yourself to the doctors and get this looked at, i dont say this lightly either, have you seen my threads about the optician, i suddenly turned into a 4 year old at the thought of ahving to go, but i went because if therew as anything wrong with me i needed to know so they could sort it out, i went because i am a mother and my children need me so i dont see how i could justify knowingly putting myself in danger

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blushface · 13/05/2008 21:45

Thanks everyone for all the replies.

I tried to go to the clinic. I fainted on the way in

I have made a doctors appointment but its not til next week, and I am not sure I will be able to go through with it but we will see. I will try.

I don't think its a tampon, I have tried to feel one in there, can't feel anything..

Thanks everyone. I will try and go to the doctor.

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PrettyCandles · 13/05/2008 21:59

Blushface, write a letter and post it to the GP with whom you have an appointment. Explain both the physical problem and the phobia problem. It will make it much easier for you when you actually go there, as you will know you won't have to state the problem and they will know you need to be addressed sensitively.

Hope you manage to go and it all gets sorted out easily.

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:59

oh, blushface, i just hate to see you put this off any longer.

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:59

or even print out this thread and send it if you can't bring yourself to write a letter and post it.

sdjones2 · 13/05/2008 22:38

If you do not go, it is more serious, and you develop sepsis and then septicemia you may well disable yourself or die. Simple. Life long or life ending complications.

Call the doctor, or be taken to casualty perhaps. . . You might not have the opportunity to live with the smell.

expatinscotland · 15/05/2008 13:49

i hope you're getting some help soon, blush.

probablyaslytherin · 15/05/2008 15:13

Blushface, I don't know which part of going to the doctors panics you but if you'd be better going just for a chat in the first instance, I second the idea of dropping him/her a note first, explaining a little and asking if it could be understood to be just for a discussion with no obligation to take clothes off/be looked at.

Worth a try? Surely better that than not going at all - and surely your GP will see that, too.

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teasmade · 16/05/2008 13:12

What laidbackinEngland said.

If you don't have a mental health team now why not pick up the yellow pages and find a counsellor/therapist who will see you NOW for phobia work. If you can pay for it. They can give you some practical ideas to get through GP appt.

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