I am to lazy ?

[Julia34]

For over week I am spending most days in my bed. I go out only if nessecary. I want to do many things but I lack the motivation like in one part of me I know I want and should get up from the bed and do stuff but the other part of me keep me in bed. I don't know what going on. Do I have health problems or is my laziness hit the highest level possible ? I don't want mention this before cause I am new there on this forum. My house needs good cleaning it was taking me 3 days to wash up the dirty dishes I clean bit by bits when I find enough motivation to get up from bed . The cold weather not help either. I don't know what going on with me. Does everyone had same problem? Thanx for any advice

Don’t you have to go to work, even if it’s a WFH job?

Are you depressed?

I am sick note until January

But what does the sick note say? It can’t say “laziness”!

I don't know. Maybe is depression. I don't know. I feel mentally and physically drown right now like I hit pit bottom in my life

I was had surgery

You sound depressed

Have you had your B12 checked? I was sleeping up to 19 hours a day at weekend, and I couldn't stay awake at work. When I got every other day B12 injections, I noticed a difference after just 3 weeks. I could stay awake all day, I actually wanted to do things too!

I'd get all your vitamins checked - B12, folate and D as a minimum as I had all of these through the floor, and get iron checked too (my ferritin was also right at the bottom of the range). It took getting all of those treated to help me.

Good luck. If you've had surgery, it's possible the anaesthesia used could have made all of the B12 in your system inactive - so you might show as having a fine level, but it isn't actually doing anything!

Thank you. No I not check my b12 level but I am taking b12 supplements so I don't think so is this vitamins issue

You do not owe anyone an explanation for your laziness.
It is yours, enjoy it. Many people on here are secretly admiring you, though they won’t admit it.

I think I am just don't know for what reason. Nobody died, my daughter is healthy ok, I got my house always wanted. But I have just no motivation I can't enjoy my house I can't even be bother to clean it. I got some financial problems but was had them before and never feel like that. I don't really know what going on. I plan to go doctor next week for sure because I started get weird symptoms also when I outside at shop etc sometimes I feel dizzy, anxiety, stress like come out out of blue I feel like I gonna faint and sometimes when I eat sugar it does help the symptoms to go away but sometimes last longer this also drain me out of energy. I don't know what is going on need go doctor. I was think it will go away in time but start get worse

I understand but I want to stop this laziness not enjoy it😅 oh 50% of me feel motivation to do stuff I want to do stuff another 50% of me is stop me. I don't know what going on. I need go doctor for sure

I don’t know about that… OP hasn’t drawn a picture of a life I’d swap mine for yet… staying in bed all the time with a dirty house etc.
I guess if you don’t want to achieve goals or connect with people or go places or buy things you like or have experiences or earn money etc… then yeah, just stay in bed I guess.

Ultimately OP, it’s your life.
So have at it as you will in which ever fashion you choose 👍
As harsh as it sounds, nobody really cares more than you what you do, so just own it without seeking permission or excuses.

Wow that's a weird thing to suggest that people admire someone who's depressed, unmotivated and not enjoying life. Not helpful to the OP at all, who sounds quite lost and not happy

I need first go doctor to rule out any possible health issues and then if they are off the list I will be think is more like depression stuff for sure

Belive me you don't wanna have the type of laziness when you don't trust to be lazy but you physically and mentally drown down is like my brain want do stuff but my body don't- is hard to explain 😕

Supplements won’t help a B12 deficiency. If you can’t absorb from food, you won’t absorb from a tablet. All of the vitamins need to be high enough to work together. Eg B12 injections can’t be absorbed if your folate levels aren’t high enough.

From someone who thought they were dying because they were so, so exhausted constantly and was shocked at what “just a vitamin” could do - don’t rule it out! For the other vitamins, it’s possible you aren’t taking enough if you are deficient. Most of them are designed to keep you ticking along at the right level - but if you were low before you started taking them, it won’t help you get to a decent level.

Vitamin B12 deficiency can cause tingling/pins and needles, exhaustion, depression, anxiety, headaches, pain, MS symptoms…. I could go on as it basically affects your entire body.

I would urge you to see a doctor and get checked. Stop taking the supplements before being tested for at least 5 days. Your B12 result will already be artificially high, but your other test results will help paint a picture of what’s going on. Try to persuade your dr to trial B12 injections based on your symptoms - if you can’t absorb get 1 injection done by a dr/nurse you can then buy your own to self inject. Also, if you’ve ever been diagnosed with a B12 deficiency, you need those injections for life - many drs seem to stop them for some reason.

Honestly you sound depressed.
First steps really are get up, shower, dress, eat nutrition, go outside, tidy up a bit.
Yes those first steps will feel exhausting.
But do them anyway.
You have to break the cycle.
Only you can.
And you can.
You will.

Take one step forward. Go on. Just fucking do it 😁

If you have a sick note because of surgery, you are probably still recovering from the surgery, so entitled to take it easy. How long ago was the surgery? It's not uncommon to feel dizzy and/or a bit down after general anaesthetic. Even if you have healed on the outside, you might still be healing inside (depending on the surgery/timing) and you do need rest to heal.

Good idea to see your doctor anyway.

Thanks for advice I for sure will check the vitamins level too. I will book my apoitment on Monday

I even think I could have some vitamins deficiency because I notice I keep having bruises in my legs without hitting nothing or being beaten by someone. Just think good is winter and I can cover it my legs. I was not take notes of it before that much

I think if you don't have routine cause pd sick it might just be that life is catching up with you.

I can continue with the chaos of life whilst it occurs but my god when it stops due to illness / surgery (had 5 in last 4 years) / school holidays / bad weather I just feel it's harder than the routine of having to go on 🤷‍♀️

As a b12 deficient anaesthetist, that's absolutely rubbish! It's nitrous oxide that depletes b12. We don't use it in adults, only for 5mins to gas a kid down occasionally and you'd need to be exposed for many many many hours to make an actual impact on your b12 levels

Yes I know. I need go doctor to check what going on

The doctor will still probably want check my vitamins and minerals level and possible run the blood test to check for other diseases. I hope I not have it