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Wishing you both strength and peace OJ.

Thinking of you OJ and your family.

OJ my heart really goes out to you.When the time comes you will cope,and you will know what the best thing for the kids will be.You have been so strong so far and you will get through it.There is nothing to be scared off.You will have your kids and mates to look after you,and of course everybody on here.

Dh and i went with best mate today to scatter C's ashes.I never thought i would be able to hold him in my hands,but i did.I finally felt he was free from all the pain.When we turned around to walk away,there was a shower of fairies,it looked so beautiful.

OJ i really hope that you both don't have to suffer for much longer.I know you must want him with you forever,but we all know that isn't going to happen.But he will be in your heart forever.

Lovely post, mommy6, if heartbreaking.

OJ, my heart really goes out to you. You will know when it's time and you'll know what do as well. It must break your heart everytime Steve asks you though because it means he is aware of what is to come as well. Like everything uptil now, you'll go through it hand in hand and althuogh you can't physically go with Steve, he will always be your gorgeous husband. Love to you, Steve and the kids xxx

OJ {{{{hugs}}}} for you and your dear family. you are always in my thoughts. Much love to you all xx

Thinking of you and Steve and the children as always.
We Steve goes you know he will be at peace.
Everything you have with each other can never be taken away from you.
You are in m thought each and every day.
I wish you strength and love for the time ahead.
I know I don't know you personally but much love.

Wishing you all lots of love and strength OJ. XXXX

How has your day been?

Thinking of you all OJ.

xx

Thinking of you OJ, praying for you and sending lots of love, as always. XXX

Thinking of you OJ, as always.

Oh OJ. So sad to hear Steve is asking if it is time.

It might be.

My Gran needed someone (me) to tell her it was - that she had done all she could, that it was time to let go.

It must be that hardest thing in the world - I cant imagine, or contemplate, what it must be like.

A little boy (age 7) in my dd1's class at school died last monday with a brain tumor. His Mum had come in to school the previous week to talk to the children and explain it was time for him to let go.

I hope and pray that Steve can stay as long as he needs to, and yet can let go peacefully when the time is right for him, and for all of you.

We are all with you in Spirit, holding you and Steve and the kids up, as you deal with the time you have left.

With all our love, care, hopes, dreams, feelings and prayers for you all/

Dearest OJ,
Sorry I have not been in touch for a while, I am having trouble with my own patient! Just caught up on your posts. I so know what you mean about the lovely day outside, you sit there in your four walls wondering how on earth eveything can go on as normal out there when inside your home, your life, it is all falling apart, you want to scream....Don`t you all realize?" My heart breaks for you, for your wonderful children, for Steve, for the future you are being robbed of together. Thats how I still feel about Matthew, robbed, he was robbed of learning to shave, driving a car, first girlfriend, his life. We were robbed of watching the baby we concieved grow to manhood, his wedding day, his children, not, not fair. Now we have a similar road to yours to walk, not one I want to. Poor Steve, poor you, poor kids, poor us, and I still get so angry about it all. My love to you as always xxxx

Some beautiful posts here

Sending love, as always
xx

You are in the thoughts of so many OJ - sending you and your family love and prayers

Thinking of you every day, love to you all.

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Steve woke up at 5pm and had a cuddle but no trifle
he woke up again at 8 for the tablet challenge, he is now asleep but doesn't seem very settled.

oj and triplets, thinking of you both
xx

Night night OJ, I hope Steve manages to settle and therefore you can get some much needed sleep.

PS Doll nearly completed

Oh OJ...

I hope that you and Steve can share this precious time that is left with each other and your children, and that when his time comes it is as peaceful and calm as possible.

When he asks if it is time do you think he is asking for your permission? Maybe he needs to hear that you are giving him permission to go, as awful and sad and tragic as it sounds. It sounds like he is suffering and so are you, and maybe holding him and telling him it's ok will ease the inevitable, if he feels comfortable in going it might help the passing on be calmer? He obviously adores you beyond measure and having your blessing in this last stage of his life might be just what he needs, and you need too, to make the process even just a teensy bit less painful.

I don't know if I am helping or not, I mean what can anyone say to ease your pain. I just hope and pray several times a day that you as a family are surrounded by peace and love in this sad, sad time.

xxx

Oh Oj, we are al here for you, I shall be thinking f you all night, it is so very hard. When my mil had cancer, Harry and I nursed her at home, this was 3 yrs after losing Matthew. One morning she just looked up at me and said, "I think its time you put me into hospital". She went in that day, we were so lucky in our little local hospital to have two new hopice rooms, she was their first guest, and I slept next door. She died 10 days later, but we had the time together and could say goodbye, so very important.

thankyou all for your lovely posts, i have told Steve that he can go whenever he is ready
Triplets i think of you and yours often.