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Thinking of you OJ - I know I dont 'know' you - but feel I do. Think of you alot - and teary as I type. Make every minute count. xxxxx

Oh God, mother3. That has set me off crying.

I am alone in the house to get on with tidying but I couldn't start without checking in on how things are. OJ you are the first thing I think of when I wake up in a mornng.

I do hope you all managed to get some rest and Steve calmed down regarding being upset over his leg.

Thinking of you darling. Email me if you want anything or to text.

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we all do hope its not the end buda.Oj can only ask the mac nurses their advice.Death is a very sad subject but seeing your soul mate in pain and confused must be so much worse.Poor oj and the children.How could MIL be so cruel.Oj should should get a knighthood how she is coping .Familys should be by each others side not at your throat.

I think we all agree with that sentiment mother3.

Sorry didnt mean to set any 1 off crying but i had tears in my eyes when i looked up oj.s thread.Every day is a blessing .

have my laptop in bed with me this morning! Thinking of you as always OJ.
I hope you get a bit more time with Steve. Even when you are expecting the end to come, it's still a shock when it does.

I know in my head that the end it getting nearer but my heart doesnt want to deal with it just now how can it. Elliot is right when he says dad can't die cos we haven't finished loving him yet.
Steve has slept all day the sun is shining the patio doors are open and the world sounds like it is out there laughing and enjoying life, whilst here I am sad tearful and scared.

Thinking of you, Steve and your children today.

Darling, you will never stop loving Steve daddy. That is just hard for the children to understand.

I just wish I lived nearer as I am on my own today and would ocme round and do whatever you wanted me too.

Believe me there are plenty of us who are not laughing and have you and the family constantly on our minds.

Take care love.

Have never posted on here before oj but have been following , I'm so sorry for what you are going through.Love to you and children..

OJ - I know you are chasing yourself about, what with kids, meds, MIL, BIL etc. But you know you need to stop and just think sometimes. I'm going through a bit of a bad time with DH at the mo, and spent an hour and a half yesterday just sitting in front of Marble Arch, just mulling. It doesn't sort everything out, but I feel as if I've 'done the filing'. It's not about me, but you must try to get some time to sort your head and your heart out, otherwise when you have to stop, you will probably collapse.
It is heartbreaking to think of you in your dark place, while the day is so gorgeous. I wish we could do more to help.

Oh love. Of course you haven't stopped loving him yet. And you never will.

Life is so sodding well unfair.

Steve is still asleep he looks very peaceful.
the mac nurse has just phoned i always feel much better after talking to her.
Debs the Mac nurse and the hospice consultant are sorting out coming here on one of MILs vists so they can talk to her.
the kids are all ok they are pestering me to make chocolate orange cake and i feel like a bed mummy cos i keep putting it off.

So sad for you OJ. I imagine you want to shout and scream at the rest of the world to stop spinning just now. Know that your lovely Steve has had your constant love throughout all of this and i dont think you can measure how much that is worth. Even when he doesn't seem with it. I know that when my dad was ill, all he wanted was my mum, he didnt even recognise me but it was good that he still held on to my mum right til the end. My Dad had lots of episodes of rattly breathing in his last month or so, people would tell me it meant he was about to die, but it isn;t always the case.

Have a chat to the nurses to see if they can tell you what to expect over the next few weeks or so, that way each change might not be so scary - yeah right, what do i know, you must be terrified.

I too think of you every day, and just wish you all peace, well and that MIL gets a really bad case of heat rash.

Oh love, it seems so hard that it should be such a beautiful day outside and so hard for you inside.

Sending you much love and hugs.

Oj be a bed mummy 2 dayNot all day of course) you must need sleep.Your children will be ok while you have a power nap.Its no ones fault if you are so tired but you realy need to keep up your strenght.XGOD BLESS U ALL.

Just nipped out and came straight on here to see how you all are, OJ.

Would the children watch some tv for an hour while you slept and then you can all bake together?

Wishing you strength and know that we are all thinking of you.

you are all in my thoughts today OJ

You know oj that of course it will be too painful to bear when you finally lose Steve. But part of the way you are feeling now is that you are already part way through the grieving process. You have already lost the Steve that you once had. Thinking of you

we ll have difficult things to deal with but this just seems too much right now thou i guess it would be too much at any time.
we are all dealt completely different cards in life. Just a shame that we can't ask for a reshuffle of the deck and a new hand!
steve woke up and was not too happy
he keeps saying "is it time Jo?"

Oh God OJ. Am just broken hearted for you.

I can't get you out of my head today and keep popping how to see how you are doing.

Oh lovie.

Steve is trying so hard to be streong for you I am sure.

I am thinking of you constantly and wishing you everything you need to face each day.

Take care

OJ - I have never made a cake with my kids - Truly I am a bed mummy. But if I ever make a cake - it will be Chocolate Orange
Thinking of you. Wish a reshuffle was possible - Its not fair, it makes no sense. I wish there was something that could be said to help. xxx

OJ, I wish I could write words of comfort for you, but I guess there really is nothing that anyone can say to make you feel better about things.

You are all in my thoughts, and I am sending you my love and strength to help get you through the next hours, days, weeks and months xx