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good lord that woman is a witch and how deeply awful for you and Steve.

I think you are being wonderful and I think you need to make sure that you have a secure net of friends around you during hte next few weeks so that you are protected at all times

If this si a problem then perhpas this is something Mumsnetters can do to help

What total fuckwits

Is anyone going to be with you when Mike comes tonight?

(((((((OJ))))) - thank God you are not having to convince the SW that she is a bitch, she is managing to do that quite well for herself

My goodness me I hope she never finds herself in your position.
Words fail me.

If only she could have a visit like in the film Scrooge and be shown there error of her ways.

My god, she really doesn't get it does she

Sounds like the social worker was wise to her though, which is good and that the proffesionals realise what a good job you are doing to help Steve and make the most of this time.

As for his brother, if he doesn't ask they won't tell him the dimwit!!

Love as always to you and your xx

When the witch says - that after you lose Steve she will have no more to do with you does she mean her grand children too? As it will be impossible to see them without speaking to you?? She makes my blood boil with anger. It realy is all you need.

tell them to not bother contacting you or coming round any more.It has to be your choice but you dont need the pain and emotional abuse at this sad time.How old is MIL .has she lost the plot ? How dreadfull of her and upseting STEVE as well.If she cant be civil shut her out of your life now.No second/50th time for her to be so cruel.So happy you have lots of friends to support you.You are so strong a lot of people would have been unable to keep their hands off MIL.God pays his debts with out money.MIL sounds like a witch.She dosent deserve any of your family esp her grand children.Keep strong.

She wont ever get it, she abandoned Steve and his brother as kids, she has always been about herself and always will be. She is selfish and evil person.

She will end up a bitter and twisted old woman in a home. The carers will dislike her immensely and may she rot in hell.

What would she ever have to offer the kids OJ, absolutley nothing. Could she ever love them as grandchildren deserved to be loved, hold their hands if they were sad, kiss a knee if they fall, bath them and read them a bed time story, sit with them if they were poorly, tidy up after them.

NO NO NO and another resounding NO

Syeve wants his children to be loved and nurtured, she simply aint capable.

Goodbye and so long and dont ever bother
coming back.

In the words of our dear frienf Lillee

RANT OVER

Have no idea who Syeve is but I'm sure Steve agrees.

TBH I think the carers are within their rights to tell her to shut up, as she is upsetting Steve. Not so bluntly of course but when I was nursing I asked several lots of visitors to keep their voices down or get out as they were disurbing patients. I know they are all tying not to upset her anymore than possible out of respect for you Jo but if they told her to wind her neck in it wouldn't be YOU saying it would it? what could she do? Complain again?? The agency would treat it with all the attention it deserves

Go I wish I could come over & sort her out for you!!

What did the SW say afterwards, apart from reporting it all back to you?

You are a wonderful wife for allowing the old harridan into your house!

That woman is just unbelievable. She has stooped to yet another new low.

OJ, I really hope you are doing ok, lots of hugs to you xxx

well said Vaggy!!

Oj, I haven't posted on your threads before but I have read all of them and you are often in my thoughts.

So mil is going to have nothing more to do with you once steve is no longer here - well at least that's something to look forward to. .

As for the family having meetings with social workers/sending in written complaints to the hospice, who the hell do they think they are? This is not an access case - you are Steve's next of kin and as far as that goes they have no rights. None. If you decide that they shall never set foot in your house again (and tbh I would be sorely tempted), then you are quite at liberty to do so and they have no say in the matter.

A friend of mine had a mil very similar to yours. She also nursed her dh through a long illness, except that unfortunately for her, her mil moved into the house to help out with his care. But on the day he died she made some comment and my friend turned to her and said "I allowed you to stay here because Peter is your son. throughout your time here you have never had a good word to say about me. Now that Peter has gone you no longer have reason to be here. So pack your things, and fuck off out of my house, and out of my life.". She said afterwards that she did feel some guilt, but that all the two years of living with this woman and all the horrible things she had said to her just boiled over on that day and she could no longer hold back.

You owe the witch nothing. And given she already thinks you are abusive towards her you have nothing to lose by telling her to fuck off.

OJ, forgive me if being really stupid but is there anything Steve enjoys that I could maybe send? A cd, light things, etc etc. I can't help physically and wondered if this was something I could do. Take care.

OJ, that woman makes me so . How dare she. I hope the SW told her a thing or two. I'm sorry but it sounds like Mike just can't cut the old apron strings and is playing along to appease his mother, although why she even deserves to be called that I do not know!!!

Did the bed come today? I'm sure you and the carers will find it much easier to lift Steve. How was Steve today? Are you managing to snatch any rest during the day / night? I think of you so often. You know where I am xxx

Karma O.J.....Karma
Its the best form of revenge.x.

Hope you're OK, OJ. You shouldn't have to put up with Steve's excuse for a mother: you have more than enough on your plate.

It makes me to think of how little they know you, and that they appreciate you so little. Their loss.

Just keep focussing on what (who) is important: Steve and the kids and your time together.

Lots of love,

XXX

BUCKET of pins for me, please!

Stupid cow. I suppose she must be hurting inside what with the burden of guilt she must have to carry, but FGS surely she must realise that this is her last chance to be a good mother to Steve and she's blown it?

I just came on to check for any messages. I hope you haven't posted as you are having a lovely cuddle with Steve.

Hope you have a good night.

Take care.

help yourselves girls!

OJ I hope the BIL hasn't worn you out with his visit tonight or given you any grief, have a big cuddle with Steve. xx

Electric beds are fantastic. Is it a vibrating one too? They work wonders.

Steve has finally taken his meds, we call it the tablet challenge it goes something like, take one, spit one retrive one from light fotting/under pillow/ bottom of beaker then start from the begining.
Mike came and was fine with me which made me wonder if he had spoken to his mother
today when steves mum was here and again when his brother was here steve has shouted me and insisted i gio sit on the bed with him whilst he held my hand, i could tell his mother wasmost put out about it cos she had to move from her position on the bed for me to sat there as requested by steve

Steve has finally taken his meds, we call it the tablet challenge it goes something like, take one, spit one retrive one from light fitting/under pillow/ bottom of beaker then start from the begining.
Mike came and was fine with me which made me wonder if he had spoken to his mother
today when steves mum was here and again when his brother was here steve has shouted me and insisted i gio sit on the bed with him whilst he held my hand, i could tell his mother wasmost put out about it cos she had to move from her position on the bed for me to sat there as requested by steve