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I hope you managed to get some rest last night sweetheart. x

OJ it is so hard and unfair and sad and you are doing a marvellous job getting through it. You are giving hime the best you can and no one can ask for more than that. Life will never be the same again for you but somehow stength comes from somehwere to get you through it as it does for Steve.
As for the funeral , you and Steve will know you loved each other and that's all that matters. I am sure on the day you will not really give a stuff about them your thoughts will be on you and the kids and getting through it.
Don't race ahead of yourself just take it a day at a time you need all your energy to get through that.
Massive (((hugs))) to you and Steve and the kids life doesn't get much harder than this xx

Hope today is going okay, OJ.

Thinking of you all.

xx

Hello lovely oj

Like many others, I check your thread first thing in the morning and last thing at night. You are often in my thoughts.

You are a strong, loving wife. Steve is very lucky to have you.
I am sorry you are going through all this, and I wish there was anything I could do to help.

Much love
xx

Hi OJ have not been on for a few days. Sorry about steve lashing out at you but it is just the meds my uncle had liver cancer and he kept lashing out at his children. All they wanted to do was help him but he kept swearing at them to leave him alone it made my cousin cry at times but don't worry it isn't a personal thing.
x

Hope that today is going well OJ

I'm sorry to hear that Steve is lashing out at you, my dad did that and it is heart breaking cos as much as we know it's not them it's still hard to take.

As hard as it is make sure that you look after yourself as well as I'm sure that the last thing Steve would want is you being ill with worry about him.

Sending you and yours love xx

Darling, you are ALREADY doing everything for him that he needs and your wedding vows are being more than honoured.

Take care and know that we are all thinking of you and always.

If you need anything or you just blooming well want something, let me know.

And you know what, it is like when your child treats you bad, it is because they know they can because you will always love them. Steve trusts you 100% and is 100% sure in your love for each other, that he can lash out at the sheer unfairness of it all.

OJ i hope everything is going as well as it can.I'm abit worried you haven't posted yet today.(i aways read your posts even when i don't post anything).I hope you are just enjoying time with Steve and your children,and not having to deal with mil from hell.

OJ just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you, xxx

Thinking of you too.

If you ever feel like a "stranger" to text too, I am here. Email me and I will give you my number. mushy31894 at fsmail dot net

hi OJ just checking in, hope your day isn't too bad xxx

sorry to worry you all Ljg thanks for ringing.

I have been at school this afternoon weds is my helping afternoon and then we got to an after school club, I am posting from my phone so it is. Hard work typing on here and reading cos theres a lot of scrolling.
I will be back later on.

You've done everything right OJ - you have nothing to worry about. You know the love you and Steve share. As for the funeral - it will be a different world then - things may be better between the outlaws and you you never know!!! And remember the good guys always wear white hats!! Thinking of you xxx

OJ- just another one checking into see how things are. You know it isn't your Steve lashing out; it is just the meds.

There's lots of good, practical advice here and it is probably overwhelming. I know you don't want to think about any of the practicalities, but if you should need help with things, we found Grice's were wonderful when we needed them. I know they are on the other side of the city. Also on this side I have a lovely friend who works for the Co-Op in West Bdgfd should you need her.

In the meantime, do what you're doing and get as many hugs in as you can.

Hope you are okay.

Thinking of you, OJ.

Lots of love,

xxx

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow when MIL comes to see SW steve xx

HUGS

Sorry I keep missing you Oj - thinking of you lots xx

Thoughts from me too.

OJ, I've just caught up on the last few days. I can't imagine what it must the like to deal with all the cr*p from yor in-laws all the while watching Steve get weaker everyday. You must be emotionally & physically ate breaking point. I know its easy for me to say, but its at times like this you have to be ruthless. You need to think about Steve, yourself and kids. No one else really matters. Its so hard when you're so low already, but you know your MIL's words are not true and there are many who will see her for what she really is if she dare make an accusation like that. I'm sorry that Steve has been getting aggressive over medication. You're right, it is not him, it is the tunour and it can very acutely alter behaviour patterns. I can also imaigne though that its very hard not to take it personally but hun, you are giving him your very best. You are honouring your love and your marriage vows to him. Steve would be gutted that he was upsetting you but ever so proud of the way that you have coped through all of this. Sending all my love. xxx

it has been a long day Steve has finally settled, it took an hour to get him to take his meds he spat most of them out.
I got a text from MIL saying can you please let me know how Steven is after his vist from nurse & Gp. I replied that he doesnt have an infection but GP has given him ABs to prevent infection & also some mouthwash, she didnt even text back to say thankyou.
today is gonna be stressful we have vist from MIL and her DH at ten then his brother at night time, roll on Friday.

Morning OJ - hope your night was peaceful.

Must be a worry that Steve is spitting out his meds - difficult one to deal with.

Good luck with the visit from the witch this morning. Am v glad the SW will be there for some support for you. And of course you have an ARMY of MNers at your back!

Hope you had a ok night.

Good luck for today.