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How to go about a private GP appointment.

384 replies

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 01/06/2024 15:53

Would be grateful for any advice as I think my brain has glitched.

How do I go about booking a private GP face to face appointment ? It is for suspected stomach cancer. Is bupa better than Nuffield, do I need to find one that specialises in Gastric or pain relief? Or are they generalists? Google is giving me the impression that I need to book a face to face at a private hospital as opposed to a clinic based GP.

Dh has seen his Nhs GP and has been referred on the two week pathway, but is in pain and needs to know what he is facing. Nhs GP has refused pain relief other than paracetamol and has refused a sick note for his work. Apparently they are two separate issues and need two more appointments - the next available appointment is a month away. He only managed to get an emergency appointment after 2 weeks of daily phoning. Dh was prescribed antacids. He had been referred for blood tests, (2 weeks for results) stool tests (2 weeks for results) and endoscopy. Our local A and E has some of the worst wait times (18+ hours) and understandably Dh would rather be in pain at home rather than on the floor of an and e. The hospital wait for scans which are around 26 weeks.

OP posts:
elastamum · 16/06/2024 21:26

Please don't feel guilty. You have done so much to get your DH the care he really needs right now. Let the medical team support you to provide the care he needs to keep him comfortable, whilst you give him the most important thing he needs which is love. Thinking of you both x

notapizzaeater · 16/06/2024 21:31

You have done everything you could and it's helping, your DH Isn't in pain. Take the hugs if you lived near me I'd be holding your hand.

blue345 · 16/06/2024 21:37

Honestly I think you've been superhuman over the last week. You've fought your husband's corner which hasn't been easy at times and still been there for him when he needed you.

No one could ask for more and you shouldn't feel guilty. If he's not in pain and able to chat with you, you've achieved everything you possibly could right now.

Bathoclock · 16/06/2024 22:29

Don’t feel any guilt, you have done so much to support your husband. Everything you have put in place is give him the greatest comfort x

LizzieBennett73 · 16/06/2024 22:55

This is what they do, OP, they swoop in and just instinctively know what you need from them. Let yourself be supported.

Wishing your DH a peaceful journey Flowers

stressedespresso · 16/06/2024 22:59

Sending so much love & virtual hugs OP. I have just read through the thread after not seeing it since your first post and I must admit that I am so shocked at the pace in which things have happened. Genuinely heartbroken for you both but equally I am so glad that your DH is now comfortable and receiving the right care. It must be a big weight off your shoulders. Please look after yourself OP, we’re all here with you even if you just need to vent 💐❤️

Mumof1andacat · 16/06/2024 23:35

Just read through this thread. I can't sleep. Nothing new there, so I'm a wake. You aren't alone and there's many of us with you now x

DPotter · 17/06/2024 01:02

There is no need for you to feel guilty - you have been an absolute rock for your DH, fighting his corner when he didn't have the wherewithal.

Wishing you and your DH peace & serenity

DPotter · 18/06/2024 02:40

Thinking of you Alphabet

Bathoclock · 18/06/2024 08:48

I’ve been thinking about you and your DH @Alphabet1spaghetti2

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 19/06/2024 23:05

He died at home in bed with me holding his hand, at 13:48 today. X

OP posts:
BlossomToLeaves · 19/06/2024 23:07

I am so sorry. You have looked after him amazingly over the past weeks, and your love for him shone through. I'm sure his last days were better because of you; you couldn't have done more.

notapizzaeater · 19/06/2024 23:08

I'm so so sorry, I'm glad you where holding his hand as he went

MrsH497 · 19/06/2024 23:12

I am so sorry @Alphabet1spaghetti2 your love for your DH was evident. My thoughts are with you x

Kitkat1523 · 19/06/2024 23:18

Very sorry to hear this …..you look after yourself

OverCCCs · 19/06/2024 23:21

He was so fortunate to have you by his side these last days. I’m wishing you peace and comfort.

stressedespresso · 19/06/2024 23:48

I am so sorry for you loss OP but equally I am so glad to hear that he was able to have a peaceful passing with you by his side. My deepest sympathies ❤️

DPotter · 20/06/2024 03:08

So, so sorry for your loss Alphabet. Wishing you peace

blue345 · 20/06/2024 05:49

I'm also very sorry and my thoughts are with you. The speed of the situation must be incredibly hard to process so we're here for you if you need us xx

moggiek · 20/06/2024 05:49

I’m so sorry, Alphabet. You were an amazing advocate for him. Take care of yourself.

Theraffarian · 20/06/2024 06:14

So sorry that he has gone , I’m sure you don’t realise how amazing you have been, advocating for him so well that he had this peaceful ending .

I wish you all the strength to get through what comes next . Do feel free to tell us about him prior to his illness if you would like . I have a feeling he was a special person .

MissHavershamReturns · 20/06/2024 07:11

I am so so sorry for your loss and sending you Flowers and so much love.

Barleycat · 20/06/2024 07:47

I'm so sorry xxx

Bathoclock · 20/06/2024 08:03

Sorry for your loss @Alphabet1spaghetti2 , your DH passed away knowing he was loved by you Flowers

LizzieBennett73 · 20/06/2024 08:07

I'm so so sorry for your sudden loss. Take these next days one moment at a time - you must be in deep shock at how quickly all of this has happened. Vitamin C really helps (the soluble ones) especially when you're not able to eat. Look after yourself Flowers