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Just had the phone call to say ....STEVE IS COMING HOME ON MONDAY !

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onlyjoking9329 · 04/04/2008 14:44

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bundle · 24/04/2008 22:01

everyone deals with grief differently (not excusing MIL's behaviour!) but it's really odd that she doesn't do what most people would - busy themselves with eg the routine of life - eg birthdays, etc which do obviously provide some relief from the reality surrounding you all

anyhow - much love to you all, especially you OJ, you're a brick! x

onlyjoking9329 · 24/04/2008 23:15

Lol at bad day for dragons, i am chuckling to myself that steves mum has taken the lovely flowers home and that every time someone says to her what lovely flowers who brought those for you she will have to say that Jo did, i think she should feel ashamed that she didn't get Elliot a present purely to get at me, she will have to live with it, i can still hold my head up high and know that i have done what steve wanted.
steves brother didnt turn up til * he was supposed to be coming at 6,30. he was fine with me and he is finally seeing that his mum is not being honest with him. he took the day off work on tuesday to come to the meeting yet his mum had been told very clearly that the meeting was just for her and me and the SW and Mac nurse.
steves mum was really tearful at the meeting when i said that the carer had told me that she had told steve i don't know if i will ever see you again cos that fucking bitch won't let me vist, my mate also witnessed this.
she cried at the meeting insisting that she has never ever used the F word and she sounded so believable.
she also denied saying that steve has never loved me and that she could see why my birth family didn't want me, every time i think she has found a new level she finds another one. she is on best behavior as her vists are on a 2 week trial

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fortyplus · 24/04/2008 23:20

She has several screws loose, oj. What a bitter and deluded old harpie.

onlyjoking9329 · 24/04/2008 23:24

ido feel for her and i understand that she is angry that her son is going to die but she shouldn't be being angry with me, afterall i brought her flowers

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TiggerTonkerTruck · 24/04/2008 23:26

O.J. you have acted so calmly and with dignity,like you said you have nothing to feel ashamed off. I wonder what she thinks when shes alone and with her thoughts
Good on you O.J. you should be proud of yourself. That woman really needs help.x.x.

fortyplus · 24/04/2008 23:27

How do you do it, oj? You keep so positive despite everything. I'd get huffy with my mil if she forgot my bd, let alone the kids!

I'll tell you an amusing little 'families' story in a min

onlyjoking9329 · 24/04/2008 23:37

My love for Steve and the kids keeps me going, without them i would not cope.
we have had the district nurse out today, steve is not able to move much now so needs a fair amount of lifting, she brought us a special slider sheet to help move him.
steve has slept for most of the day, he woke for 20 minutes when his mum was here and when his brother came, no trifle eating today

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fortyplus · 24/04/2008 23:38

One of my friends is 39 - she's bright, blonde, bubbly and attractive, though just about the most dippy and least reliable person I know. She has a 14 year old daughter whose dad was black African.

She has a 'new' boyfriend. She's been seeing him since just before Christmas and he's recently moved in with her. They are going on holiday together a week on Sat.

Nothing unusual, maybe? Apart from the fact that he's only 22!

As things are 'serious' he thought he'd better tell his family a bit more about her - he's been pretty scanty with the details until now!

It was his grandad's 80th birthday last weekend so he went 'home' for the party. He thought he'd better not detract from his family's enjoyment of the day, but on the Sunday his grandad set the ball rolling, thus...

'I hear you're courting'

'Yes, that's right, grandad'

Why haven't you brought her up for the weekend then? What's wrong with her? She's not black is she? ho ho ho!'

'Errr.... no, grandad....'

He bravely went on to 'confess' that he's just moved in with a woman 17 years older than himself. His family - understandably, perhaps, is horrified. His mum said 'What would a woman of that age want with you?'

fortyplus · 24/04/2008 23:39

oj - xp as I was so long typing. I feel very about the trifle - that always made me smile to think of Steve eating so many even though they're 'unhealthy'

onlyjoking9329 · 24/04/2008 23:43

i can never look at a trifle again without thinking of steve.
so your mates fella didn't tell them about the black child?, some people are just narrow minded aren't they.

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islingtonponce · 24/04/2008 23:49

am so impressed that you still have your sense of humour and dignity re awful mil behaviour oj! wishing you a better day tomorrow.

fortyplus · 24/04/2008 23:49

I think he thought one step at a time - they were so shocked at the age gap that he didn't dare mention a child of any description. If you met my friend you'd never believe she was 39 - she could easily pass for 25. Her own dad was very racist, apparently, but managed to put that behind him when her dd was born and has always been a doting grandad. I suppose it's that generation, isn't it? As the years go by most people seem to become more accepting of different races and cultures. There are always some who will never change I suppose. I have friends of different racial backgrounds and they mostly think that things have improved over the years. Funnily enough (or not) they also think that things are better in smaller towns rather than big cities.

onlyjoking9329 · 24/04/2008 23:55

i still have my rum sense of humour to keep me going thank goodness, i will always keep my head held high and know that i have done the very very best for steve, he deserves no less.
i hate racisim or any kind of "ISM" steve is the same, his family however are very different and it shows me what a truely amazing and special person steve is given the family that he had.

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triplets · 25/04/2008 00:15

40+ loved the story, bit like me and H, hes 67and Im 56 but told (kindly) I look 40! So when I phoned the ITU the night of the op, they passed a message on that your daughter phoned!
Hi Oj, hope Steve needs his trifle tomorrow, lots of love xxx

fortyplus · 25/04/2008 00:28

Night night triplets and oj. Hope you have a good night

LilRedWG · 25/04/2008 09:41

about the trifle levels

TimeForMe · 25/04/2008 10:15

Thinking of you OJ and hoping that the trifle levels are double today! Lots of love xxx

onlyjoking9329 · 25/04/2008 10:41

looks like i will have to eat lots of trifle today, he asked for weetabix and hot milk today, i have never known him to have that so i have been out and got some weetabix when he wakes up i will see if he will eat some.

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TimeForMe · 25/04/2008 10:48

Yuk! My dad used to make me weetabix and hot milk when I was little, I hated it! With a bit of luck it will have Steve shouting for trifle

islingtonponce · 25/04/2008 10:54

mmm. trifle / weetabix and hot milk. know which i'd prefer!

PrincessConsualaBananaHammock · 25/04/2008 13:40

Sherry trifle is the best

onlyjoking9329 · 25/04/2008 14:05

no trifle eating at all today by steve thou me and Abbey have helped a bit
steve has mostly been asleep today and when he has woken he has been very confused and aggitated.

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lilyloo · 25/04/2008 14:07

good job you and Abbey there to eat it, shame Steve not up to it did he have any weetabix ?

PrincessConsualaBananaHammock · 25/04/2008 14:19

Oh thats a shame. I hope he has had some weetabix tho' and will be up to eating some trifle again soon.

onlyjoking9329 · 25/04/2008 14:53

I did him some weetabix and he said I dont even like weetabix
he hasn't eaten anything today so far I have tried him with complan but he didnt have much.

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