Page 21 | Just had the phone call to say ....STEVE IS COMING HOME ON MONDAY !

Solitaire · 16/04/2008 12:35

OJ. Looked in to see how you are doing.
Can you rig up CCTV so you can film MIL if she tries to get in, that should give you a good laugh!
Hope Steve is feeling comfortable and you are getting some sleep.
Have fun at the kids school this pm
xxx

NotABanana · 16/04/2008 13:01

When did Steve's family stop loving and caring about him as it doesn't sound like they do at all tbh.

They are truly awful.

trulymadlydeeply · 16/04/2008 13:10

Steve's family are a soap opera all by themselves, aren't they? I'm so at their behaviour.

Keep your chin(s) up, OJ. You have behaved with dignity and consideration throughout this whole sorry saga.

Lots of love.

xxx

ChutneyMary · 16/04/2008 13:37

OJ, I don't think you need Power of Attorney to keep MIL out of house as you are the householder so you can say who comes and goes.

As for getting a POA for other things, I am afraid that the rules on POAs changed a couple of years ago and I don't know the up to date rules. I'm a litigation type of girl - always up for a good argument .Have you got a friendly local sol who could give you some advice? If you phone up and ask to speak to someone int he private client department, they can outline the position to you over the phone (for free ) and you can decide if it's a good idea. I'm working at home today so can't access my books but am happy to look it up for you when I am in next week if that would help?

Have a good afternoon at the school.

throckenholt · 16/04/2008 13:48

there was something about the changes of power of attourney that was to do with decisions about medical care. I am not sure if you need that because presumably as next of kin you have the decision anyway ? Definitely worth checking out for the financial side of things - is Steve still able to sign things ?

Solitaire · 16/04/2008 13:54

Would your Mac nurse now anything about POA?
They are used to dealing with issues around chronic illness. If she doesn't know she may know someone who does

NorthernLurker · 16/04/2008 16:27

I've just done a quick google and found a reference to joint assets being frozen if you don't have an enduring power of attorney - but I don't know if that applies when you are married? Definately think you should speak to a solicitor though - I know it's the last thing you need right now though.

ChutneyMary · 16/04/2008 16:54

Lurker, I may well be wrong but it nver used to be the law that a joint asset would automatically be frozen if there were no EPA. If you had eg a joint bank account for which either party could sign, you just carry on.

OTOH, the situation may be different if you need 2 signatures for eg a deposit account. All I am saying is that the existence of a POA may well not affect OJ's day to day. I don't think it would have a bearing on the MIL situation, but I'm not a private client lawyer so may well be wrong. There are several different types of POA. I'd need to go away and look it up.

ChutneyMary · 16/04/2008 16:54

Lurker, I may well be wrong but it nver used to be the law that a joint asset would automatically be frozen if there were no EPA. If you had eg a joint bank account for which either party could sign, you just carry on.

OTOH, the situation may be different if you need 2 signatures for eg a deposit account. All I am saying is that the existence of a POA may well not affect OJ's day to day. I don't think it would have a bearing on the MIL situation, but I'm not a private client lawyer so may well be wrong. There are several different types of POA. I'd need to go away and look it up.

SaggyOldBagpuss · 16/04/2008 16:58

I know that my mum had to get a POA for my grandad when he was poorly, but she never had to get one for my dad as everything was in joint names.

Was a while ago though. I would imagine that the Mac Nurses would know and be able to advise more.

Love to you and yours OJ xx

NorthernLurker · 16/04/2008 17:07

Mary - that's exactly what I thought to be the case as well- which is why when I saw otherwise in my quick googling I thought I'd better mention it just in case iyswim

ChutneyMary · 16/04/2008 17:34

I think OJ had better consult someone who knows as I run the risk of giving completely the wrong advice and making matters worse

How was your afternoon my love? And how is Steve today?

sussies · 16/04/2008 20:35

How was your afternoon OJ, did the Steve's Brother and Ma come over in the end? If they did then here you need this chin chin.

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onlyjoking9329 · 16/04/2008 21:23

thanks for the info on POA i know i don't need it to keep her out of the house but wondered if i needed it for anything else, steve is not able to sign anything, the bank accounts and bills have been sorted i just have NTL and child benefit in steves name plus he gets carers allowance which i have phoned them up and asked them to stop but no they cant do that without a letter from steve even thou i explained the situation to them
his family didn't turn up but i havr had 3 phonecalls from his siter which i have ignored and she hasn't left a message, i dare not answer the phone as i don't know what she will be like to me given the abuse she gave me twice last week.

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Tickle · 16/04/2008 21:27

How are the children doing, with Steve home and the carers about all the time? Are they coping OK?

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onlyjoking9329 · 16/04/2008 21:37

The kids are doing ok with it all, the girls are getting used to different people around but are a bit wary, Elliot is loving it and likes to make them a drink in the mornings.
We are hoping to get steve out tomorrow hoping to go out for lunch but not sure just yet, fingers crossed we can go out.

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Izabella · 16/04/2008 21:59

Oh OJ, sorry to hear that they are now harassing your friend. Steve is facing the fight of his life and all his relatives seem to want to do is to make it worse for him & everyone else concerned. My heart goes out to you. Need to have my tea but will pop back in later to see if there have been any further developments today. xxx

Izabella · 16/04/2008 22:05

Hi OJ, just realised I wrote but didn't I send off my last post until I logged on again. You shouldn't have to live under this atmosphere of fear. Just a thought but would your SW be able to do anything about it? if not then an injunction may be the way to go. If only your SIL had left a message, you could have used that as evidence. Sending you the biggest hug. xxx

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onlyjoking9329 · 16/04/2008 22:09

i phoned steves SW today but she was on a course so i should speak to her tomorrow.
SIL phoned on monday and left a message, saying i see you are out give steve my love and let me know how he is, i was in but didn't pick up the phone, i texted her 10 mins later and said steve ok and fast asleep.

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LilRedWG · 17/04/2008 16:52

How're things tody OJ?

JossStick · 17/04/2008 17:29

Yes - how are things?

robinpud · 17/04/2008 19:23

thinking of you,, everything ok-ish..?

Izabella · 17/04/2008 20:38

Thinking of you OJ. Getting a bit worried that we haven't heard from you. (((((((hug)))))))

littlelapin · 17/04/2008 20:40

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NotABanana · 17/04/2008 20:46

Hoping all is okay. Please let us know when you get chance.