Just had the phone call to say ....STEVE IS COMING HOME ON MONDAY !

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~There are some lovely lovely people out there, my DP doesnt "get" mumsnet - hey ho. PMSL at the teeth falling out and toothache - thats soooo evil, but oooh so appropriate .

Hope you have a good day OJ and the kids enjoy the film. You will have to be having daily deliveries of trifle at this rate

How nice! I've used M&S for family flowers before and alwasy been very impressed.

Had a text from steves brother to say could he and his mum vist thursday at 6.30. followed by a text saying could they come weds instead, i have texted him back to say, i cant do weds but thursday is fine, no reply yet.....
intersting vist from Mac nurse, she spoke to the hospice consultant this morning who says she had 2 phone calls from steves mum and brother asking if there was anything she could do as i was stopping them from seeing steve, Cons told them there was nothing she could do it was my house and she was very confident that i was looking after steve very well and making sure his needs were met

the hospice and consultant are lovely aren;t they?

Steve's family though

The hospice staff and your Mac nurse sound great. I hope that Steve's family start to behave.

Stopping them seeing Steve? OJ you bad bad girl!

What are they like!! Lying now!!!!

OJ, karma will get them in the end. By god you got lucky when you got with Steve and not his twin! My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Glad the cons told Steve's relies a thing or two! Its shocking that they'll stop at nothing to try & get control over Steve's life.

Hope the visit tomorrow goes off without out any fireworks & drama. How is Steve doing? You never really get used to having the carers there 24/7 although it does become part of your routine very quickly. I found it hard at times to have a stranger witness some of the most emotional times Mark and ever shared. Hope you are able to get some time alone to snuggle up and have a kiss. xxx

i have not heard back from mike about the vist on thursday.
However my best mate came over tonight and she was upset as she had a phonecall from steves mum which started out ok but very soon turned nasty, there was lots of name calling and my mate wasn't having any of it, my mate won't tell me the things that MIL said about me as she doesn't want to hurt me.
After my mate put the phone down steves step dad phoned her, things don't seem to be getting any better.

These people are calling your friend at her home?

Restraining order comes to mind for some reason.....

It is not unreasonable to say that it's not convenient for them to come on Wed but Thurs is fine, ffs! That's how life works and what we do every day..

Gawd OJ they just don't give up do they?

I am so sorry that they still see fit to interfere/argue/undermine you at a time when 'normal' people try to pull together to get through the shit

OJ they are wasting what precious time they have left with Steve. That is THEIR problem. Don't let them poison this for you.

I wish their armpits to be infested with the fleas of a thousand camels

they are making a lot of effort to spoil things for us but they may as well give up cos it ain't gonna happen.

I am more and more when I read the antics of Steve's family. I really didn't think civilised people behaved so badly.

Have a great day OJ and enjoy time with Steve and the kids. Hope you had a good sleep.

Hope you have a good day today, OJ, minus the hideous ILs.

Sorry to hear that Steve's family are being so negative and unhelpful. But really really pleased for you all that Steve is home.

today I am really feeling sad, I dont want my mate to have to deal with this crap it is not fair, I really really dont know what to do, I can't discuss it with Steve he has enough to deal with without all this stuff.
i still havent heard back from his brother so I dont know if they will just turn up tonight.
I am off to help at school this afternoon, steves mum knows I will be out I wonder if she will come over as she has a door key, she doesnt know I have changed the locks

Hi OJ If she tries to let herself in and can't will she stand and knock the door until someone lets her in though?

and at the way your in-laws are behaving OJ.

I'd love to be a fly on the wall though when MIL realises her key doesn't work.

Get a rotweiller Oj, that will see her off

it is written in steves care plan that carers are not allowed to answer the phone or door, vistors are not allowed to be left in the house unless I am here. Steve needs 24 hour care by myself or carer carer can't be leaving Steve alone whilst the answer the door or phone.

OJ, I am not an expert in this type of law (although I am a lawyer) but the general rule is that, as the householder, you have the absolute right to say who can and who can't come into your house. MIL has not a leg to stand on as far as I can see. You don't need to get an order to restrain her as she has no right of entry to exercise. That doesn't of course help you with the day to day trauma of dealing with the old cow woman, but would I think be the view that the court would take.

I am so sorry you have this to add on to everything else.

Enjoy yourself at school this afternoon OJ. Your best mate will no doubt understand about the ILs, but it may be worth her getting their number blocked from her phone - I think BT do it immediately.

Mary do you think i need to get power of atterny (whatever that means) i am steves next of kins so not sure if it is needed and know nothing about it.