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Just had the phone call to say ....STEVE IS COMING HOME ON MONDAY !

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onlyjoking9329 · 04/04/2008 14:44

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onlyjoking9329 · 13/04/2008 14:26

we had sunday dinner picnic style round steves bed, steve didn't eat any dinner but did have 2 trifles!

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mammyjo · 13/04/2008 15:01

Hi OJ. I have never posted on your threads before, but wanted to say that I echo everyone else in saying that Steve's family are outrageous. Really hope you get some sense with his brother later.

Lovely to hear that you all enjoyed your picnic Sunday lunch too

Izabella · 13/04/2008 15:19

A trifle picnic Sunday lunch sounds fab! I'm sure its just lovely to do things like eat together as a family again.

Glad to hear that your MIL has not made another appearance. Hope they will just leave you alone now. I'm sorry but saying things like that to the carer just shows up how small minded they are. I hope the carer will make a formal complaint to the agency.

OJ, hope you're ok & managing to get some sleep. Thinking of you and sending much love. xxx

NotABanana · 13/04/2008 15:45

you have had a good day.

Can you get caller display so you can see if you want to talk to who is ringing before you answer? I think they are £10 in Argos.

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onlyjoking9329 · 13/04/2008 17:05

we have caller display, i have even set a special ring tone to alert me to certain people

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NotABanana · 13/04/2008 17:38

Good!

lilyloo · 13/04/2008 17:45

picnic sounded lovely oj

KathG · 13/04/2008 19:28

How about a mumsnet chorus for MIL - sure we could think of a suitable song!

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onlyjoking9329 · 13/04/2008 21:31

i am a bit puzzled, steves brother didn't turn up and he hasn't phoned either so i don't know what is going off.
i will hopefully speak to our Mac nurse tomorrow

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sussies · 13/04/2008 22:06

OJ, How sad it is that your dh relatives are such pricks, do you think there will be much/any contact with them in the future?
I think you are the most marvelous woman for everything you do Full Stop, but especially for the way you are helping Steve to have such an honourable and dignified life at this point. (that doesn't really make much sense but it is supposed to be a compliment)

ShinyPinkShoes · 13/04/2008 23:04

That's strange tht he didn't turn up or at least call

Is it worth sending him a text message or something to see if he's planning to come tomorrow.

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onlyjoking9329 · 13/04/2008 23:44

all i have ever wanted is the best for Steve. all his family have ever wanted is whatever is best for them, at the end of all this i will still be able to hold my head up safe in knowing that i have done the right thing and been the better person.
it is odd that his brother didn't turn up but i am not going to contact him, the ball is in their court. i have enough to do, i would not be surprized if they are sorting out a solicitor thou i don't know what good it would do them.

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onlyjoking9329 · 13/04/2008 23:45

Shiney are you the poster doemally known as shinyhappy?

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onlyjoking9329 · 14/04/2008 00:14

of course i meant formally but the rum has gone to the keyboard

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LilRedWG · 14/04/2008 08:20

Hi OJ! I'm sorry that Steve's brother didn't show

SaggyOldBagpuss · 14/04/2008 08:38

OJ I have never posted on one of your threads before but have followed them.

My dad died of a brain tumour and I remember his family acting like your inlaws have, they started by not dealing with what was happening to him, then going into telling my mum that he would be better off with them as they could look after him properly and then for the last 2 years of his life not being on the scene at all, in fact we are not even sure if they know that he died as mum refused to get intouch with them after the way they treated him and her over the years.

You are doing a fantastic job, making the most of this time for you, Steve and your children. My mum and dad did the same for me and my brother and most of what I remember is the good times, the doing small things as a family.
Remember Steve chose to marry you and have the children, he never chose the rest of his faily, he was given them xx

Tickle · 14/04/2008 09:51

lovely post bagpuss

sending love
x

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onlyjoking9329 · 14/04/2008 10:55

Thanks bagpuss thou i don't think you are saggy.
just spoke to lovely Mac nurse she is going to see if there is anything i should/could do about his family (other than shoot them)
she is coming to see us tomorrow.

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ReginaFalange · 14/04/2008 11:28

Lets just hope you can sort something out it's just so sad that your MIL is treating you like this. Is there a FIL?

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onlyjoking9329 · 14/04/2008 11:54

steves step dad doesnt do visting much so we dont have to see him, he likes women who stay in the kitchen and do as they are told, so he is not keen on me

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ReginaFalange · 14/04/2008 12:05

O right. Do you talk to him tho'? Could you get him to have a word with his wife?

WanderingTrolley · 14/04/2008 12:08

Shame Steve's family still being arseholes. You'd think now is the time to put differences aside - it's not like you've banned them from the house, the restrictions in place are the result of their actions, not your bitchery.

I bet Steve's step dad isn't too keen on his own wife

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onlyjoking9329 · 14/04/2008 14:27

steves brother said that steves step dad is really angry with me cos of course he will only ever hear steves mums side of things. which i guess is fair enough but not much of it is true that she is saying

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throckenholt · 14/04/2008 14:30

sounds like you need to tell them once and for all - you are struggling to cope with a dying husband and three delicate children. They are welcome to come and visit if they can be civil (you are not even asking them to be friendly) - but if they can't then they will be banned because their attitude is unacceptable.

It is an horrendous situation for them - but so much worse for you - and if they can't see that and at least not make things worse then they have to keep away.

Time for them to act like adults.

TimeForMe · 14/04/2008 14:41

Thinking of you OJ. I am so sorry that you are still going through this with Steve's family. Keep smiling sweetie and stay strong! xxx

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