Just had the phone call to say ....STEVE IS COMING HOME ON MONDAY !

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sadly US based, but some amusing ideas

Send a Cow

(They are a bit dear though, a goat would be cheaper, but you could think of it as a cow)

I think the only thing you could send to your MIL from hell is a hit man.

Not sure if it's poisonious though!

well done for getting the lock changed! not that it should be necessary, no normal person would expect to let themselves into someone else's house- hope you have found a suitable gift, this must be hard on the kids too. From all this distance, i would echo cazybabs' view of his family, but i know if i was you my compassion would have run out long long ago. Please enjoy your time together as much as you can, I know that's your priority, just wanted to add what others have all said, that WE know you are doing the right things for the right reasons, it just doesn't matter what ILs think you have given them far more than they desrve and not been able to accept in the right spirit.
hope that makes sense
love to you and kids

how about a plant called mother in laws tongue.It does exsist.It a bit like a catus but long leaves /branches with spikes lots of them sticking out.That would be a good idea but i wouldnt waste any precious energy on her or money save it for your self and your family.It shouldnt have to be a battle with them but they seem to have made it 1.THEY SHOULD BE PROUD OF YOU HOW YOU ARE COPING WITH 3 CHILDREN AS WELL as your grief seeing steve in pain.god pays his debts with out money .They will get what they deserve.They prob are hurting but you must be more than hurting too thats why they should keep their gobs shut and not come round insulting you and your family.GOD BLESS YOU ,STEVE AND CHILDREN. XXX

Oooh I am so excited now! I can't wait to hear what happens when MIL tries to get in but can't

Well done you! I was so at first reading your posts from last night but you are fighting back with the utmost dignity.

A gift for MIL, a nice cake made with laxative chocolate? A book on manners and respect? Oooh, and don't forget birthday bumps!
If this were me should would just get a card, the ugliest card I could find!

Thinking of you and sending you lots of love. Enjoy your takeaway! xxx

Really pleased you have changed the locks.

His family really are a piece of work.

Have they always been like that?

I hope you are having a good day.

How about:

Sanseviera trifasciata (mother-in-law?s tongue) has sharp (hence the common name) and spiky leaves.

for her birthday.

Gobsmacked at Steve's mother and sister. What a couple of witches!

Hope you can get his brother on side, and so proud of you for behaving in such a dignified way. Although you shouldn't have to.

Tossers.

Oh OJ - to read about that last exchange.

I was thinking last night that we keep referring to MIL etc as Steve's family. They are not - they are his relatives. You and the children are his family.

Sending love
x

OJ, I can't can't believe the level that they are willing to stoop to all in the name of what's best for Steve. If they really cared for Steve, they wouldn't hurl such abuse at you, his wife who loves him and is caring for him.

Firstly, please see if you can have a friend with you as much as possible. Not only for your own emotional support but also as a witnessed as to what is said.

Secondly, talk to the Mac nurse but also approach the carer agency and see if you can't get some sort of written conditions which Steve's relatives have to abide by when they are in your house. Also could you not run it by the hospice as well. They might be able to get you legal advice on how to make such a document legally binding.

I appreciate that you don't want to stop Steve's relatives from seeing him, but things can't go on as they are. What a horrible spiteful thing to say about understanding why your parents gave you up. That is emotional abuse and you shouldn't have to put up with it, now of all times. You'll need all your physical and emotional strength for what is ahead.

((((((hug))))). I am here for you anytime you have a free moment and feel like talking. xxx

morning, I am just going to grab a coffee and after staff handover I will have a lovely soak in the bath and. Then I hope to catch up on here.
no contact from his family yesterday
we didnt have a take away Steve not up to eating much thou he did have 4 trifles and a southern comfort & lemonade, we watched a dvd until quite late and night carer brought a chocolate orange and some pringles for us which we all enjoyed.

I'm glad Steve's still up to his Southern Comfort OJ

Good to hear the pudding stomach is working well - you know the one that says you aren't actually that full after a massive dinner! - Theres always room for triffle!

Mother-in-law's tongue is a good idea - but it's not just because of the sharp leves. If you cut one and touch it to your tongue (don't try this at home) it will numb your tongue.
Chocolate oranges...hmmm

Chocolate orange is becoming a bit of a theme, I see

So sorry to hear about the crap from MIL and family, what a friggin nightmare - love WW's idea of sending her the old lock though

i am liking the oxfam cow idea, but do you think it is too subtle
i could send her the old lock and keys and the bill for £150.
we are hoping for a quite day today, i am making chocolate orange cakes and hoping that his mother doesn't call
steves brother is coming tonight and he will have spoken to his mum so i will know more later.

I', really glad you haven't heard from them and your night carer sounds lovely- will you have her on a regular basis now?

I hope Steve's brother has been able to talk some sense into his Mum & sister for you x

the carer we had last night has done three nights on the trot with us, the agency have asked her to do next weekend too
the Guy we have today has been a few days and is going to be doing 8am til 8pm every saturday and sunday, he is lovely but did get a lot of crap from sisters sister and boyfriend last week, sisters boyfriend asked the carer if he had a permit to work in this country i have reported this and other stuff that was said to the agency, but understandably the worker isn't going to put up with crap like that, i have told him to complain and that i will back him up if needed.

Hope you have a peaceful day today OJ. Will be thinking of you and sending you love XXXX

Hope you have a peaceful day today OJ. Will be thinking of you and sending you love XXXX

I'm pleased you're having a degree of consistency as at least you can get to know the carers and they you and Steve

at what sister's boyfriend said to the carer. They really do test every boundary there is don't they?

Hoping today is a good day for you all x

I am sorry to say this and please excuse my french but they are
BASTARDS!!!!!!
[ANGRY]