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Just had the phone call to say ....STEVE IS COMING HOME ON MONDAY !

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onlyjoking9329 · 04/04/2008 14:44

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onlyjoking9329 · 12/04/2008 09:23

i have phoned a locksmith who says they will be here in an hour

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robinpud · 12/04/2008 09:24

OJ- they are an unbelievable bunch and whilst I am sure in their own unique ways they are grieving and trying to come to terms with what is happening, I can only hang onto the fact that grief makes some people mad. (I suspect however that they were well on their way to being crazy before this all happened.)

Every day is special so you must do whatever you feel is necessary to ensure that Steve and the kids have as much time with you as you can.

Take care, and if the worse comes to the worse I will come round with weapons chocolate for you.

LilRedWG · 12/04/2008 09:27

Good stuff OJ. I am so that you have to change your locks. I'm glad that the agency have said his family cannot be there without you and that your mates are being so supportive.

Keep going mate, Steve knows you love him and loves you and the kids - that's all that should matter at the moment.

LilRedWG · 12/04/2008 09:28

Please excuse horrific typos - am not awake yet

AngeG · 12/04/2008 09:29

They do indeed OJ. As if you haven't got enough on without having to deal with them as well. Glad you've got a locksmith coming.

How is Steve today? Hope all the unpleaseantness with his family is going oncer his head.

AngeG · 12/04/2008 09:31

that should say over his head.

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onlyjoking9329 · 12/04/2008 09:49

Steve is still asleep. He was up a few times in the night so probably tired now. Steve doesnt really understand what's happening, thou he remembered that his mum was upset when she was busy telling him that his evil wife was kicking her out.

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Blandmum · 12/04/2008 09:54

My God OJ Steve's family really are a bunch of fuckwits.

Can't they see how he is?

Hugs to you. Their behaviour is monstrous

PRINCESSPEACH · 12/04/2008 10:03

just read your thread I feel for you I really do. So for you that Steve is home but so for you that his family are putting you through this. They are not family at all what family would put theirvery poorly son,daughter in law and 3 kiddies through this???

mother3 · 12/04/2008 10:14

so sorry oj.been watching your thread but thought wouldnt join in as u have lots of love and suport from every 1 and there is nothing i could add only repeating my love and wishes for all of you.I am so angry for you that you MIL and others are making a difficult time worse they should be on your side and your lovely children .I know it must be so hard for you coping let alone that bunch of EVIL PEOPLE puting you down.Dont seem like they are cosidering that steve married you and you have 3 children together.TRY TO KEEP STRONG I KNOW IT MUST BE SO HARD FOR YOU ALL.Sounds like steves family are a load of bullys.No one needs that but in this sad time they should zip up thier mouths and behaviour.Good luck with the locks they deserve every thing they get.Its sad but a blessing steve dosent understand whats going on as he would be horrified 4 u.Wicked lot cant think of a word that is suitable to describe them.

hippipotami · 12/04/2008 10:23

oj, I am so so so horrified with the behaviour of Steve's family. How dare they
I am in awe of your strenth in dealing with all of this.
Yeah for the locksmith, would love to see the look on his mums' face when she tries to let herself in.

Stay strong lovely, you have thousands of women all round the country standing behind you.
xx

KathG · 12/04/2008 10:25

Hi another who doesn't normally post- but I wondered if the care organisation had advice? Like a written agreement, time limited meetings? How you stay calm I don't know and hugs to you.

fortyplus · 12/04/2008 10:43

Hard to know what to say about Steve's family...

At least his bro seems like an ally. You really are amazing to put up with their crap because you know Steve likes seeing them. As others have said - they must be hurting like hell, but why take it out on you? They're just not normal.

Changing the locks is a great idea

I know you think that you're in the final days of all this . Hopefully you can maintain a good relationship with Steve's bro but not have to see the other nutters.

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onlyjoking9329 · 12/04/2008 10:49

Steve has a care plan that was written up by myself and the agency nurse manager, it has been amended and now states. carers not to answer door or phone, steve not to be left alone with any vistors...unlesss i say so
carers not to answer any questions about steves care/meds
vistors are not to be left in the house if i am not here.
his mum and sister were saying they would speak to agency about these rules, agency lady say, they will just be told that they cant tell them anything cos they are not next of kin

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Blandmum · 12/04/2008 10:51

Which is true anyway!

Our Macmillan nurse had to ask Sandy's permission before she could talk to MIL (and it was DH who suggested that MIL talk to her!)

Steve's privacy and yours is their first concern.

Christ, but they sound like a bunch of arseholes. Actually that isn't true is it? arseholes are useful

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onlyjoking9329 · 12/04/2008 11:03

our Mac nurse says it would not be helpful if she smacked talked to his family
our new lock looks lovely, i cant wait for his mum to turn up and try to let herself in

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Blandmum · 12/04/2008 11:05

I just keep wondering what possible good these idiots think that they are doing for Steve?

the sound like the sort of people who crop up on daytime tv and look like fuckwits....

cazzybabs · 12/04/2008 11:14

I feel sorry for hsi family - they are wasting all these precious time by being so angry.

Gosh - OJ you must be so tired having to deal with all the shit. I hope you are managing to look after yourself and getting some lovely time with Steve and your beautiful family.

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onlyjoking9329 · 12/04/2008 11:18

i don't even think jemery kyle could cope with them
i have bent over backwards and made allowances for them but i have finished with all that now.
anyway, elliots birthday on 23rd MILs is on the 24th, i am all out of ideas for a suitable pressie for her, anyone got any ideas?
so far for ideas i have broomstick cleaner and a huge cactus with a sign saying sit on me.

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WendyWeber · 12/04/2008 11:19

Send her the old lock, oj

Blandmum · 12/04/2008 11:24

How about one of those Oxfam unwrapped gifts and send her a Goat

Or a sack of shit?

missorinoco · 12/04/2008 11:31

so sorry to hear this is happening. i would suggest a one way ticket somewhere, but don't think she's worth spending your money on.

WendyWeber · 12/04/2008 11:33

If you're going with Oxfam Unwrapped, it would have to be a cow

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onlyjoking9329 · 12/04/2008 11:35

keep the ideas coming, i am taking the kids out to matlock for a while and then later when steve is awake we are having a take away.

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WendyWeber · 12/04/2008 11:35

elephant poo jotter

(don't think they do cows but somebody does - hang on...)

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