Hand hold while I wait for ambulance for daughter

[StopTheQtipWhenTheresResistance]

Currently waiting for an ambulance for my daughter. Been sent as category 3. She's not been right for a few days now, not eating, not drinking, just laying slumped on her bed. This morning she collapsed in the bathroom and went really pale.

She has a learning disability and complex mental health problems so she can't tell me what is wrong as she doesn't verbally communicate when she feels unwell.

She was in hospital a couple of weeks back due to an infection (see previous threads) so I hope it's nothing to do with that.

I'm so worried, I feel sick.

oh no. I hope you’re ok. My adult son is non verbal with severe learning disabilities so I get how difficult it can be when they can’t tell you how they’re feeling and also how difficult it would be to get them to the hospital! I’d have to use an ambulance too as it would take 2 of us to get him in the car and someone to sit with him to keep him calm.

I hope she’s feeling better soon and you get some answers.

OP, events today have proved you did the right thing, so please ignore all those dangerous people who are telling you otherwise.

BTW it's possible the ambulance crew weren't paramedics - some are ambulance technicians.

It said SORT Technician on his lapels. The one who made those comments.

Forget the negativity on here OP. You duu I d the right thing. I wish your dd a speedy recovery & that you both get some much needed rest xxx

They are also employees- they are paid to go to the job they are sent to. 111 sent them, the ambulance service spoke to @StopTheQtipWhenTheresResistance twice and agreed that they needed an ambulance- it’s the paramedics job to turn up at the case they are sent to and be professional.

It doesn’t make any material difference to them if they go to a stressful case or an easier one (except an easier one is easier for them), and they are not experts in disability/special needs, so they aren’t in a position to tell the op what her daughter can/cant/should/shouldn’t do.

I know a good deal of paramedics, and not one would object to taking a non verbal disabled woman to hospital when she was in the state the op’s daughter was.

@EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness She currently takes Lactulose and Sodium Picosulfate. Thank you for sharing what you went through with your constipation, it sounds horrendous. I still want them to check her bowels though while she's here.

Despite everyone reminding me to take some food for myself, I went and forgot 🤦‍♀️. I packed a drink but nothing to eat. I might ask for a sandwich as they offered me one last time.

@Willmafrockfit She tends to self soothe by rubbing her fingers and picking her skin so I give her a fidget popper and she then picks at that which is better.

@AmserGwely They have a brilliant LD Liaison Nurse here but she doesn't work weekends unfortunately. I will contact her on Monday if my daughter is still in.

If a call for someone with a more urgent need came in, they would go to them first and rightly so. I would imagine by attending to my daughter, there was an available ambulance.

Exactly. I had 2 heavy bags, a blanket as well as trying to help my daughter down the stairs and hoping she doesn't collapse again. She did amazing coming out of the house today, I'm so proud of her.

I think I might put a complaint in once my daughter is home and better.

Thank you for the updates, OP!
You sound like a wonderful mother.
I hope your daughter will feel better soon.

They have no right to be pissed off. My daughter has just as much right to healthcare as anyone else. If they are going to be pissed off about a non verbal woman with disabilities then they need to get another job.

I think that's Special Operation and Respone Team? I had an ex many years ago who was one. He was a massive cunt too.

Hope your daughter gets well soon.
Why do the British accept such awful service ? a service that you pay for through your taxes btw ?
Someone chooses to do a job they accept that job and then complain when they have to do that job ? If you work in any of these jobs your grievance is with your government not with a young disabled lady and her poor mother.
She has explained numerous times why she called 111 and why an ambulance was sent.
They are not stretched to their limit because of this patient they are stretched to their limit because they are under funded. Can't be doing with people who work in a caring profession that couldn't even show compassion to a toaster ! Pair of tossers 😤 just made the whole thing worse didn't they !

All these posters who know better than 111 and the Ambulance service and the OP what her daughter needs...

She's being admitted, you followed medical advice and you know your daughter

I hope she recovers soon

It’s a failure of the system but you didn’t need an ambulance.

I had 2 heavy bags, a blanket as well as trying to help my daughter down the stairs

I completely understand your predicament but there should be another solution rather than trained paramedics who save lives. No-one’s life was in danger and carrying bags isn’t a trained professionals job.. Perhaps there should be a cat 3 service which isnt trained professionals.

You don't know that!

YOU don't know the diagnosis

It takes a special kind of idiot to question an ambulance service being provided in this situation. The person should be afforded all available services to ensure she has equitable access to healthcare as anyone else.

I hope she recovers soon. Having a poorly child is terrible. Facing this with a child who cant verbalise how they feel most be horrendous.

They have no right to be pissed off. My daughter has just as much right to healthcare as anyone else

yes she does. But they weren’t providing healthcare, they literally just drove her to the hospital. Hence why another solution might be preferable

Exactly. It’s their job to provide a service to the people the ambulance service tells them to, not to be the moral gatekeepers of medical care.

Im glad your daughter is getting the help she needs and deserves.

I wonder if the paramedic ment what he said literally as in the crew can't treat constipation at home so would taxiing you in with out giving treatment?

Ignore the snippy posters. Once my ds had put some lego up his nose. He was 6 and non verbal. 111 said take him straight to A&E because of the dangers of not being able to communicate. Luckily it shot out while I was debating how it got so far up his nose.

That isn’t their call, and it doesn’t make any difference to them. They get paid either way, for going to the jobs they are sent to.

If they want to be the gatekeepers of ambulances then they need to move into politics, commissioning, planning or some other form of bureaucracy.

@Bluelightbaby
I feel so bad for you if only you could all be compensated in some way for giving up your voluntary free time ? Oh wait !

I feel so bad for you if only you could all be compensated in some way for giving up your voluntary free time ? Oh wait !

I would imagine it’s less about money and more about watching people die who they didn’t get in time because of time wasters

@Newstarto you know an intestinal blockage can kill you right ?

That isn’t their call, and it doesn’t make any difference to them. They get paid either way, for going to the jobs they are sent to. If they want to be the gatekeepers of ambulances then they need to move into politics, commissioning, planning or some other form of bureaucracy.

based on this thought process no-one can have an opinion on anything unless they’re the bloody prime minister…..