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Scared. Two week urgent referral

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Oneglassisnotenough · 11/05/2023 01:33

I can’t sleep for worry. I have severe anxiety as it is.

I have been referred for the urgent two week cancer pathway. Have had symptoms for a while and an internal scan has found something that doesn’t look good on my ovary.
Got to have blood tests for tumour markers on Friday. Dr sounded very serious when she called me today and apologised for telling me over the phone but due to the urgency she said that she had to. I’m seeing her tomorrow.

Please can someone hold my hand.

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IHateLegDay · 15/05/2023 20:45

I'm so glad your bloods came back ok! That must be such a relief!
I hope that whatever it is can be removed quickly and easily and then you're all clear xxx

Robotik · 16/05/2023 11:55

Good luck today x

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Oneglassisnotenough · 16/05/2023 12:30

Thank you all.

oh my . I feel so sick and shaky .

will update you all later. I’ve made a note of all my symptoms in case my mind goes blank when I’m there. I’m going alone too. Feel so sick.

Hugs to you all x

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Robotik · 16/05/2023 15:28

Not sure what time your appt is but good luck x

coloursquare · 16/05/2023 17:49

Good luck OP

AGreatUsername · 16/05/2023 18:01

You’ve been in my thoughts this afternoon. I hope it was ok.

lightlypoached · 16/05/2023 18:48

Hope it all went well. Here when you are ready to talk

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Oneglassisnotenough · 16/05/2023 21:53

Thank you for your lovely messages.

Don’t know what to think really:

They said they cannot rule out anything so I have got to have an MRI scan and also had more blood markers taken. .
Then they’re going to have a multi disciplinary meeting to discuss next steps . Surgery likely.

I am all over the place. x

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DyslexicPoster · 16/05/2023 22:27

Sorry it was an all clear today. Thinking positively at least they can't be sure it's not good either. I do hope the next news is good news. All its good they are being really cautious. Everything crossed for you

MuchuseasaChocolateTeapot · 16/05/2023 22:34

I’m so sorry they couldn’t give you an all clear today. I’m pleased they are being pro-active though and I hope this will soon be a distant bad memory. Hugs x

Irisheyesareshining · 16/05/2023 22:37

Hi Op a friend of mine a few years had a huge ovarian tumour , she’s absolutely fine now and in fact very well. Treatment now is very good .

notapizzaeater · 16/05/2023 22:39

Another OC survivor here, (nearly 7 years now) this bit is honestly the worse bit you replay it over and over again with bad news always at the forefront. Once you 'know' you can start making plans

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Oneglassisnotenough · 17/05/2023 06:47

Appreciate the replies. I think I had a maximum of three hours sleep last night.

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lightlypoached · 17/05/2023 06:59

This must be so hard.

The old cliche of taking it one day at a time is all you can do.

Try and keep occupied with trivial stuff. Can you pot up some plants ? Gardening and greenery is always calming.

A friend of mine does walking therapy and if you feel well enough perhaps you can go out for a get it stroll and to think, talk and just 'be' ?

Bearpawk · 17/05/2023 07:25

Op. I'm a cancer patient. I understand the anxiety.

May I ask; what are you actually anxious about? I'm not saying it's not frightening, but It may help to rationalise.

Don't correlate the word cancer with death. It's very likely that IF it is cancer, you need some surgery, possibly medication or treatment and you will survive. Many many people live with abs survive cancer these days.

It may help to start discussing the practicals. If you need surgery; DH may have to come and work at home. Do you have any family locally who can help? Etc etc. these kind of things are half of the stress so it may help to start looking into how your cope with those, if the worst should happen.

Bearpawk · 17/05/2023 07:27

Sorry if that sounded uncaring, I just mean it may help to rationalise and plan, and it can help stop you spiralling.
I really do understand it's difficult Flowers

Nicklebox · 17/05/2023 11:48

Try to keep calm and just think about today do not look too far ahead. I'm still waiting for latest biopsy results. Its very good news about low markers. try to hold onto that. I may have to have surgery but am trying not to think about it, making a correct diagnosis can take a very long time it has with me. Just trying to keep busy.

lightlypoached · 20/05/2023 11:45

Hi @Nicklebox how are you today ?

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Oneglassisnotenough · 20/05/2023 20:12

Hi all. Thank you for your replies. Feeling utterly shit ; really down and upset to be honest, more than anything.

I had the MRI yesterday. It was hideous .

I just feel so alone with all of this. I cannot even describe how much I feel alone.

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Eurodiva · 20/05/2023 20:18

The not knowing is worse than the diagnosis. Once you get the results you can either be massively relieved or actually have a treatment plan . Literally take one day at a time and breathe…sending you brave energy OP 💕X

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Oneglassisnotenough · 20/05/2023 20:21

Thank you for your reply.
I think it’s so hard being alone. And having such fucking shit anxiety is just becoming way, way too much to bear on top of it all. Genuinely. I feel at breaking point right now.

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Eurodiva · 20/05/2023 20:23

The tumour markers being within normal limits is a really good sign that even if you have cancer it hasn’t spread…try and get out and about for a walk tomorrow,go for a pub lunch .X

HoleyShit · 20/05/2023 20:30

Oh OP I'm so sorry you're going through this, you sound so frightened (understandably).

Do you have any other family who you can turn to for support?

Tiredmum100 · 20/05/2023 20:30

Oh I'm so sorry. I also have anxiety, and to be going through this must be horrendous for you. Do you have any family near by that you can spend some time with over the weekend? Also remember worse case scenario, there is treatment. I'll keep everything crossed for you.

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Oneglassisnotenough · 20/05/2023 20:37

Thank you all. I am sat here with tears streaming and I feel so lonely and the anxiety. Well that’s utterly utterly awful. Crippling.

Yet that’s not about this. Or me.

I am not sure what to make of any of it to be honest.
I could do with closing my eyes and sleeping for a very long time but that mindset needs banishing , as that is not a good thought.

I feel quite abandoned. My husband. He is abroad so it’s just me and the children. Elderly parents so they don’t know. They don’t need to worry.

So yes just me. Only me.

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