has anyone ever had an abortion and felt it was the right decision or regretted it?

[pregnantbabyelephant]

if anyone is willing to share there story with me id appreciate it, although id understand if you didn't want to

do you get treated better if you go private?

just wanted to say that the decision should be yours, and hopefully will right one for you
seek counselling and talk with who you can, think it all through ...
good luck and best wishes x

hi PBE, just came on to see how you're doing.
was your docs appt today?

I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you have this very difficult decision to make. FWIW, I had a fourth-degree tear, and I was told by both the obstetrician who delivered DS and by the surgeon who repaired the tear that there was no way I would ever be allowed to give birth vaginally again. So I'm 99% sure that you would be offered a planned section if you did decide to go ahead with your pregnancy. I am totally pro-choice and had an abortion about twelve years ago but I knew it was the only thing I could do. You don't sound that sure and you do sound as though you are ready to give another baby a wonderful home. Do let us know how you are.

indeed, let us know how you are

hi just wanted to let you know it went ok at the docs, ive gotta go back on monday so we have the weekend to think it over

thanks for all the support ill let you know how i get on on monday

im feeling more positive already

glad you are feeling more positive.
how does your dh feel about it?

oh good, hope your GP was supportive

Hi, I had one years ago. Although I thought it was the right thing to do I've always felt awful about it. It took me years to get over what I had done. I felt I had murdered that baby. I know it's not logical and I wouldn't have all my lovely children now if I'd gone through with the pg.

I could never have another abortion.

Am glad you're feeling a bit better now you've seen the doc, just wait for Monday now.

hi, just back from gps again, i only have till the end of the week if i want the pill so i really have to make up my mind
as i would rather have a cs than a surgical abortion [i think]
ben thinking about it non stop allweekend and i think i want the baby, well tbh im prtty sure i want the baby ive reread this loads of times and i se how i saying i can love it we can love it we can give it a great home and life

think dh wants the baby too just doesnt want to influence me as he knows i nearly died last time

thanks for all the advice and support but i think im gonna go for it and have the baby
i know i can cope with the pregnancy its just the cs op or birth hurddle that i need to get over

Hi PBE,
Just checking to see if there was any news. Really glad to hear that you're sounding more certain about things. I hope you come to have complete peace of mind that your decision is right for you. Your DH sounds really supportive of you and I'm sure you'll get loads of support here too if you do go through with it. Did the GP think that you'd be able to have a CS given the trauma last time?
You sounds like a fantastic mum, good luck with it all.
Catz

HI honey have been wondering how you are so pleased to hear youre feeling a bit better!!!

hi yes i can have a cs if i want not only due the the trumatic birth due also because if the 4th degree tear

thanks for all the help

Am glad you're feeling nearer to doing the right thing for you, IIRC, you can also ask to see your notes from your last birth. I had a 9 year gap between my two dcs and the (very competent) mw still went through it all with me, when I was pg with dd, because she'd spotted that ds's birth was not straightforward.

yes let us know how you get on honey!