AIBU to HATE my hip dips (photo attached)

[Mamacita191]

This is getting me really down now. I gave birth 20 months ago, and my hips dip in and then back out again at my thighs. It feels quite hard and think it’s my actual bone structure now since giving birth, they weren’t like this beforehand though! No exercise I do gets rid of them or improves them, nor any dietary changes. It looks absolutely awful in jeans, really squishy and unflattering regardless of the fact I am quite toned.

Did anyone else’s hips go like this after giving birth? Do they go back ever? (I am pregnant again - 6 weeks so I understand they’ll be changing again, I just thought by 20 months post partum my hips would have gone back to normalish).

Is this all in my head? I am wondering if it looks worse to me than to others. And I do realise this may seem really pedantic to people, however it is my personality. I’ve always worried over my body image especially as I’ve always worked so hard to have a good shape.

I have this and I haven't had any children! I hate it

Maybe the only option is for us both to eat more?

I can see what you’re referring to, but yes I think it almost certainly does look worse to you than it does to everyone else.

Not sure how helpful this is, but to me you look normal and toned and slim on those pics!

I have them too , it's just my shape and it doesn't bother me so much anymore, my daughter has them too

You ok OP?? How's things with your mental health in general?

I am looking at a completely normal human female body? I have literally no idea what your problem is or what you are hating

I have them too, they're normal. My DD has them, they're normal.

What you don't see is the hip dips of all of the photoshopped women on the internet.

Look up Danae Mercer on Instagram. She is an ex model who calls out how the industry lie to women. www.instagram.com/danaemercer/?hl=en

Also this www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/body/a32444627/hip-dips/

It's really about rejecting all of the toxic bullshit women have been fed about how we should look (the photoshopped version), instead of embracing how we do look. You look great OP.

Are hip dips the same as saddlebags? I have the latter though mine are more pronounced.

Looks normal to me. If you look at the shape of the pelvis there’s a natural dip in between the upper pelvis (iliac crest) and the hip joint (femur).

I think bodies are all different, and your photos look fine to me.

Mine are worse than yours.

I have them and I've never been pregnant. You look absolutely fine to me, OP.

Hip dips weren't even a thing that registered with people up until about 5 years ago when they started searching around for another body part to get women to stress over.

You look absolutely fine.

Goodness me, yours are barely noticeable compared with mine, OP! I would be absolutely delighted if my hips looked like yours.

Oh well I've just learnt a new thing I have that I'm supposed to dislike about myself as mine do this . I had no idea this was a thing, it's just a normal body shape!

Up until a few months ago I didn't even know what hip dips were. I think the cycle of finding ever more ways to criticise women's bodies need to stop.

Is it you just have really toned strong thighs? Totally normal and healthy

Never knew about hips dips. You look fab

They're totally normal - literally they're just small fat pads over where important bones are to protect them. And because the bones are there, even if you were the skinniest in the world, there'd still be shape there.

Your hips widen when you have a baby, which is maybe why you're noticing it now. It's a good and normal thing your body does and hating them is like hating your elbows - a waste of time, and only causing you sadness and distress. Your body does not look bad, it looks like a body, be kind to it and yourself. ❤

They’re saddle bags. You can get rid of them by constantly doing boring repetitive exercises. If it really stresses you then rather than trying to get rid of them I’d add some muscle to the top of the thigh (running is good for this) and maybe glutes (weights are good for this) which will balance the shape out.

You look great! I think we tend to make things worse in our heads but you have nothing to worry about. All bodies are different. All bodies are beautiful.

I think you have a lovely figure, but if you want to try something you could try ballet or Pilates. These forms of exercise work on the lower glutes and hamstrings so will perhaps work to re-shape the top of your thighs.

I've had them all my life, they're perfectly normal. Nothing wrong with you.

I'm more envious of your thigh gap