AIBU to HATE my hip dips (photo attached)

[Mamacita191]

This is getting me really down now. I gave birth 20 months ago, and my hips dip in and then back out again at my thighs. It feels quite hard and think it’s my actual bone structure now since giving birth, they weren’t like this beforehand though! No exercise I do gets rid of them or improves them, nor any dietary changes. It looks absolutely awful in jeans, really squishy and unflattering regardless of the fact I am quite toned.

Did anyone else’s hips go like this after giving birth? Do they go back ever? (I am pregnant again - 6 weeks so I understand they’ll be changing again, I just thought by 20 months post partum my hips would have gone back to normalish).

Is this all in my head? I am wondering if it looks worse to me than to others. And I do realise this may seem really pedantic to people, however it is my personality. I’ve always worried over my body image especially as I’ve always worked so hard to have a good shape.

Oh good grief!

I have never heard of this before this thread.

There is an awful lot of photoshopping in some of the ‘after’ or ‘ideal’ pictures! Now that the fashion is for a big rounded bum.

I am in the gym / exercise class / pool at least 3 times a week, so seeing women in skimpy clothing / Lycra all the time. Not once have I registered this ‘dip’, and if I did it would strike me as being absolutely normal.

No one scrutinises this stuff unless they have issues or anxiety, or spend time obsessing over Insta pics.

OP, have a think about your relationship with your body image?

If your baby (Congratulations!) is a girl, would you want her finding problems with her body like this?

And if a boy… let’s wonder why in general men are not worrying about these things.

Hip dips weren't even a thing that registered with people up until about 5 years ago when they started searching around for another body part to get women to stress over.

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This!

I hadn’t heard of them til this minute!

Your body is totally normal, lovely, strong and toned - don't fall for the bs of surgically enhanced body norms online.

Hip dips are totally normal, that's just what female bodies look like. Mine are more pronounced since I had a baby (three years ago) but it doesn't bother me, it's inevitable things will change.

I have these too

@LadyCampanulaTottington - brilliant link, thank you so much

Hip dips are part of the vast spectrum of normal body shapes.

I have them and either ignore or dress to flatter (a line skirts, skater skirts, 50's style dresses)

Supermodel Lisa Snowdon has them too, it doesn't mean your body is bad!

@TotallySuper

You ok OP?? How's things with your mental health in general?

Are women not allowed to dislike changes to their body following having a child without it being a mental health issue?

I would say that’s big thighs rather than funny shaped hips.

I've always had them too. Didn't know they were a thing you weren't "supposed" to have.

@Marelle

I would say that’s big thighs rather than funny shaped hips.

She doesn't have big thighs. She had normal thighs.

Her hips are completely normal, it's the shape of her muscular skeletal system now.

I think you look absolutely fine and totally normal. l hate that SM is doing this to women. l'd never heard of hip dips until now!

Eh?!

That's what I look like, and I get all the compliments on my legs and bum, so I've always assumed it was a good thing!

Next time actually watch the video first instead of calling it shit.

She explains thats its normal and the different shapes that people have.

I have them too, always have and probably always will. I'm carrying a good stone of extra weight which I'm trying to shift.

I lift a lot of heavy weights, do a lot of squats but still have them, even at my smallest.

Every celebrity photos will have been photoshopped. This one isn't photo shopped but I'm still standing in a way to make myself look more flattering.

I'm trying to embrace the flabby bits and the cellulite but it's tough. Try to go easy on yourself, you have a really small child and are pregnant.

You look lovely OP.

The reason this stuff is in your head is because media has put it there.

Someone comes up with a new imaginary flaw for women's bodies and companies respond with products or something for you to fix it.
Advertisers, influencers etc. push the narrative for money and likes.

Every concern and supposed flaw I can guarantee there is a company hyping something to fix it.

It's done on purpose.
It takes awhile to really see it, but once you do, things are never the same.

@mightbealittlebitmad
Is that picture of you? Because you don't look like you have hip dips at all in it

It's a normal shape & is dependent on the shape of the skeleton and muscles - just realised I have "hip dips" thanks to this thread - I hadn't considered my shape to be odd & still don't!

I suspect slimmer women will notice "them" more as there is less fat rounding out their hips' contours.

Hip dips? WTAF?

@mightbealittlebitmad I'm not sure if you're trying to console the OP, but I can't see any "flabby bits" in her photos. All I can see is a completely unremarkable slim body shape.

I had never even heard about this before today.

I don't know if I have hip dips, but I know I have a chubby belly and I don't like the way my neck looks. Nearly everyone has something they're not satisfied with about their body. That's just life.

The fact that so many here haven't even heard of this before now should tell you that it really doesn't matter or even register with most people.

Hip dips are normal.

I really hate that our culture teaches women to be unhappy with our bodies!

@mightbealittlebitmad you are my body twin! Love the leggings

Christ. The things we worry about.

Well it seems you've removed your pic so I can't comment on that, but what you're describing sounds like a normal woman's body?

@NotMyCat

For those wondering what they are

Thanks. Looks like something triggered by the fashion for leggings as trousers.