14 Weeks Pregnant - not ‘feeling’ pregnant and constantly worried

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Hi all,

I know its a late one - thanks to the daunting insomnia creeping in these last 2 nights (which i had regularly before finding out i was pregnant)

I am technically 14 weeks pregnant today and just feel under the weather about the certainty of being pregnant still…

I suffered a MC back in December 2019 and in all honesty I hit rock bottom pretty hard. I started up smoking again as I used it as a coping mechanism for stress (yes, I know thats bad 🙄 - dont come for me in the comments) and just couldn’t find myself again.

After practicing extremely safe sex to avoid disappointment again, I found out I was pregnant this April. And since then I have non stopped worried about whether this pregnancy will be successful.

At my ‘12 week dating scan’ (were i should of been 12+6) I was pushed back to 11+2. In all honesty I cant say whether this was completely accurate as the little one would not stay still and had to empty my bladder twice during the scan making it harder to take the measurements!

Now im ‘14 weeks’ today I just dont feel pregnant and im dredding the worst (partner is really laid back so if i mention any worries he gets annoyed and tells me to ‘stay positive’)

And to add - ive had early scans and all measurements were behind they said but not to worry. Even got put in the ‘under 5mm gestation sac mean at 9w+6’ - which after reading about is apparently impending MC, yet reached the dating scan milestone 🤷‍♀️

Sorry for the essay but what im hoping for from this post is if there are any moms out there who experienced the same as me - cant seem to find similar stories out there.

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Hi OP, I found this a really tricky time during pregnancy as first trimester symptoms tend to stop but you don't have a bump or feel any movement yet so you're in-between the two and not feeling pregnant and just feel normal.

If your early scans and dating scans all put you behind where you thought you'd be, it's likely you got your dates wrong and ovulated a few days earlier than you thought and implantation may have taken a bit longer.

If you saw a healthy baby at your 12 week scan, you aren't having any pain or any bleeding then I wouldn't worry.

My little girl is 9 weeks old now and I really regret that I spent my pregnancy doubting things, worrying all the time and being convinced I'd have another MC. I wish I had enjoyed the pregnancy more and you should do the same

Are you still smoking?

I think a lot of people go through this. The worst of the first trimester sickness is over but its too soon to feel movement. Its like a limbo period.