Why are you fat? Time for honesty!

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COVID19 has brought obesity to attention. The greater risk of becoming seriously ill or dying with COVID19 if you are overweight cannot be denied.
64% of the UK is overweight or obese yet many seem to be in denial or not aware that they are in fact overweight.
Time for honesty- if you are overweight or obese, why? Is it will power? Money reasons? Lack of knowledge of health eating?
Have you been in denial about your weight? Has coronavirus alerted you to the fact you are indeed overweight?
I am speaking from experience as I was in denial for years - thought I could eat anything I wanted and didn’t put on weight. It wasn’t until I went with the friend to a WW meeting (only went to keep her company as she didn’t want to go on her own) and I got weighed and was shocked that actually I was overweight be a good 2 stone!
So- why are you fat and are you going to bother to do anything about it?

I’m 20 stone 11 . I despise myself but I eat because I’m dreadfully unhappy and lonely to the point I physically hurt with it .

I’ve lost weight this year, about 2 and a half stone, but I’m struggling very, very much without my crutch .

The day my mother tried an overdose - so I was told at the time - I was given a mars bar for lunch at school to make me feel better and as a bribe for not telling my school .

The second time she took one , I went to M&S and spent £45 on food while she was being treated . I couldn’t cope with what was happening .

I’ve never yet been able to get over it all in my head and eating shuts that thoughts and memories out . It’s always been my way . I’m fucking massive now but how do you sort it ? No one to talk to in real life now .

"I'm fat because I eat to much. That's it. Nothing more complicated than that."

Well yes it is slightly complicated because the reasons for eating too much are varied - some people are foodies who love to cook and eat beautiful food, some people stuff themselves with junk, some binge and purge, some eat too much some of the time and not enough at other times (yo yo dieters).

Also "too much" can be astonishing small for some people. I gained 30lb over 20 years (which is enough to make me obese as I am short). That's 1.5lb per year. So if, for argument's sake, we agree that 3,500 extra calories = 1lb of fat, then I ate 5,250 too many calories per year for 20 years.

5.250 calories per year equates to 14.38 calories per day.

I will never accept I am greedy or my eating is out of control. I will accept I eat too much for my stature and metabolism but actually I keep quite a tight rein on things. I would be colossal if I ate what I liked all the time.

Because I overeat

I'm a real foodie. I love to eat good food and I can afford good food.

I find it hard to stick with exercise. Even as a kid, though I ran around a lot and was active, my happy place was curled up with a book. Still is (only it's a phone now).

I also have ADD to some degree. Food means a change of focus and it's hard to resist a change of focus. Unfortunately.

@frankgetthedoor I had a mother with schizophrenia who tried to commit suicide many times. Your post resonated with me. I am sorry you’ve been through that. When my mum was whisked off being sectioned in the ambulance for the first time when I was 4 I remember being passed over the hedge to the next door neighbour to be looked after where they gave me jelly and ice cream. Food is comforting.

I'm overweight through comfort eating. I piled on weight after a bereavement and am slowly trying to shift it.

Because I can't keep my hand out the cookie jar?

Chocolate and constantly ferrying family in the car.

Bit of a reverse answer but when I lived in a flat I didn't realise how much of a sedentary lifestyle I'd had until I moved to a house and started walking a lot more, even just around the house. I lost a stone pretty quickly while eating the same.

Because im in a very very dark place, i can only see and feel the darkness around me, i cant see light at the end of tunnel. Im in pain mentally and physically every day. I cant walk far and im just sitting and eating in the depths of darkness.

Three main things for me:

Portion size/greed. I love big platefuls and I always finish them. I can't get excited about a piddly portion.

Snacking. Which has got so much worse during lockdown now crisps, nuts and cheese are constantly on offer.

Booze. I love wine and it's horrendously calorific.

When I give up the latter two I can usually drop a fair few lbs pretty quickly but during lockdown it's food that's getting me through the days and booze that's giving me something to look forward to in the evening.

OP never came back. Wtf was the point in this thread?

I have ptsd and have gained nearly 4 stone since my trauma- comfort eating.
I am trying to tackle it - currently having cbt and trying to increase activity.

Do you get a kick out of fat people denigrating themselves OP?

I was fat anyway, but after a free lunch daily at work, and discovering my personal chef thinks he is James fucking Martin and uses half a tonne of butter on most meals without me knowing I am doomed.

bagels thank you , sending love to you too . It’s shit . I’ve never yet discussed it in detail with anyone . Living with my mother at the moment and caring for her plus two other relatives via the telephone as I’m supposedly ‘shielding’ due to my weight so can’t go to them to do care, I’m mentally exhausted to the point of hallucinating this afternoon and not sure how to handle it at all.

I'm fat and have been doing something about it. This virus has given me a wake up call. I have lost 20lb since lockdown started and now I am 6 lb away from "just" being overweight i.e. BMI below 30. I'll keep going though. I may not ever he slim but I can drop what I can while I'm on a roll with this.
Been doing no breakfast, a meal replacement shake for lunch, a small sized regular dinner of whatever we are having and a snack of about 125cals before bed. Works out about 800-900cals a day. Don't feel hungry or anything. Started walking an hour everyday also.

Sodam people who are over weight generally ‘like food’ but don’t really get excited by lean meat, fruit and tuna with a bit of chutney to liven it up . If that was the sort of food I liked I am sure I wouldn’t be overweight .

I envy people who genuinely get excited by a piece of grilled salmon and salad ... I need more than that to tempt me.

Because being hungry sucks... and having done it before, for me to loose enough weight to have a healthy BMI involves being hungry a large portion of the time. Getting to a healthy weight was the most miserable time of my life, and reaching my goal weight did not make it worth it.

It’s just so hard to be fat AND hungry

If you’re skinny, being hungry isn’t too hard as you’re seeing the results.

I am one and half stone overweight. I suppose I must eat too much but I dont think that I do

I do not snack between meals, ever
I eat 3 meals a day
I dont have large portion sizes, but I do have something sweet every night after my meal
I drink around 2 glasses of wine on Friday, Sat, and Sundays

If I blow my own trumpet, I'm a damn good baker and cook. I love food with a passion and I eat too much of it. I spend my free time baking instead of exercising.

Currently shaking up my routine 😂

I have such a weak will power and really lazy. Always think that I need to do something, but can't motivate myself. This lockdown made me even worse. Can't stop eating just for sake of it.

In the overweight category, though I have lost weight from what I was. Would love to be in the
middle of the healthy weight range but that is unlikely to happen.

Enjoy food, was brought up to finish everything on the plate. Also for a long time I would equate having done some exercise with 'I can therefore eat extra today '. This was a mistake in hindsight.