Absolute resounding NO. My husband and I both agree on this. I want to live a normal life and to be as blasé about death as possible. I have a minor fear of dying, but imagine it to be a long time off. When I think about how long I have til I get to actual old age, it makes me really sad, because I think about dying. And I used to be scared I had all these illnesses which made me more frightened.
Having said that, I can see that knowing you have so long left would be beneficial, as it's like telling you how long you have left to live your dreams. At the end of the day, we WILL all die, but it's a case of when. And if that is the case then shouldn't we live our dreams every day? Be happy with one-another and tell each other how we feel?
I'd rather not know, though, that's for sure. It would be like waiting for your head to be chopped off or something.
I should say, though, that my husband and I both have Wills and all our affairs are kept up-to-date; we have no children, so I am taking a purely selfish view of this right now. When I have children, my view may change.
We have had two friends who have been given terminal dx with cancer. One a horsey friend and the other married to a friend of DH. The latter died about 5 months after finding out, so no time at all and I feel a bit unfair to have such a short space of time to do everything. She was only given 2-3 months, though, and got past that. The first had breast cancer, fought that and then a year or so later found out it had spread. She was given terminal dx and not long to live but fought and fought the cancer. It never killed her. A few years after the dx, she died of a brain haemmorhage (sp?). So OJ, both of you KEEP fighting. I know that sounds fickle coming from someone who has never been in your shoes, but life is worth fighting for while it has some quality to it and love within it - a positive attitude can do lots (and I know that is hard for you right now).
I feel bad even having replied to this, because of the circumstances. Best wishes, poppet.x