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Brain surgery today, scared

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Gumbo · 25/08/2019 02:39

That's it really.

I'm not afraid of dying, I'm afraid of leaving my wonderful child. We're ridiculously close...we both have Aspergers and 'get' each other, and although he loves DH very much he'd struggle without me.

And most of all I'm afraid of brain damage. The awfulness of the stage between living and dead is horrendous.

It's all so sudden. I was only admitted on Friday night unexpectedly, now they're sawing my head open later this morning to deal with a bleed and tumour. A couple of days ago I was planning an active bank holiday weekend outdoors.

Has anyone had this done and woken up fine and dandy and happy to have had the surgery?

Thanks.

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NoSauce · 25/08/2019 02:51

I’m sorry to read this Gumbo, I’ve no experience sorry but just wanted to wish you the very best for your surgery today. I hope you make a full and speedy recovery. Flowers

Gumbo · 25/08/2019 02:54

Thanks for replying.

It's completely surreal, to look/talk to me you'd never know. I know I'm really lucky it's been spotted early before a massive haemmorrage/ stroke... Still scary though.

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NoSauce · 25/08/2019 02:58

It’s a lot to take in that’s for sure. I’m so glad it’s been spotted early. Try and get some rest if you can. Let us know how you are when you are up and about x

tararabumdeay · 25/08/2019 03:05

The people looking after you are amazing. They're complete experts.
My DH had surgery for a ruptured brain aneurysm. He's fine. I'm in awe about what those dedicated doctors and nurses do.

Please come back to this thread asap to say that you, your DC and DH are fine too.

cakeandchampagne · 25/08/2019 03:07

Best wishes for an easy & quick recovery. Flowers

escorpion · 25/08/2019 03:15

Couldn't read and run. Wishing you all the best for your surgery today lovely. The worst part is the run up to it. But like a pp said, you really are in the best hands. Thinking about you x

CannonCaboodle · 25/08/2019 03:17

Best of luck for your surgery today, OP... Thinking of you. Flowers

NiteWotcha · 25/08/2019 03:19

Oh my goodness what a shock for you! Shock
But you're in the right place and in the right hands - wishing you a speedy recovery Flowers

HelloCheeky · 25/08/2019 03:31

I really feel for you. That is a lot to deal with.

It's one of the strangest and hardest things to think about and go through, but for your surgeons, the anaesthetist and nurses it's something they do every day. And every day they fix people and they recover. My sister had similar surgery to you. Her medical team were amazing and she's completely fine now. It's such a hard and unusual thing to suffer as an individual but routine for the people treating you. They will absolutely do their best to care for you.

I'm thinking about you and wishing you all the very best!

flumpybear · 25/08/2019 03:32

Good luck, it wasn't in the same ball park but at a routine scan for pregnancy (well miscarriage actually ...) they found I had a massive ovarian cyst, ( 22cm long!) the doctor (a friend actually so was nice to have some support as my husband couldn't come to the scan, said you're going to need surgery, so I said ok, how soon? She said 'when was the last time you ate?' And I burst into tears

Needless to say it was fine, they did the surgery the following morning and I've had two children since

Good luck and report back tomorrow 🍀

justilou1 · 25/08/2019 03:47

Of course you’re scared. It’s entirely logical! They have to tell you the possible complications, but this is now routine surgery for these people. They are getting in early (VERY good news!) and the complications are far less likely!!! You are a grown adult and not being affected by that pesky growth hormone (also good!) and I am certain that you have all the very best people around to ensure the best outcomes for a fabulous recovery. My friend’s son had an arachnoid cyst removed last year that formed very quickly (he was nearly 16 and very much affected by growth hormone!) and it suddenly caused uncontrollable tremors, memory issues and a rapid change in temperament as well as enormous headaches. A year on, he has just been to prom, is lifting weights and has been accepted to study dentistry. I hope this gives you some positive vibes. Best of luck, and please check in and let us know how your surgery went when you feel well enough! X

Mar19901 · 25/08/2019 04:32

Good luck on your surgery later today Op please come back and update us when you feel able to thinking of you during this difficult time.Flowers

Ilikesweetpeas · 25/08/2019 04:33

Good luck OP, I'll be thinking about you 💐💐 I'm certain that you will be in excellent hands and that they will take great care of you

Gumbo · 25/08/2019 04:35

Wow, I really appreciate all the responses, that's so kind.

Logically I know you are all right, it's what these folk have trained for and they know what they are doing
It's just the idea of people rooting around in your brain and burning bits off that seems so wrong!

I was sent in an ambulance at high speed on Saturday afternoon to the hospital I'm in now for the surgery... Unfortunately it's nowhere near home so DH and DS can't easily pop in

Also, we've downplayed the seriousness of it to DS as he'd only worry...

I'm calmer now, I can get through this. Dunno how I'll get through not driving for 6 months though, since I drive hundreds of miles each week for my job....

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AverageAvenger · 25/08/2019 06:59

Sending you all good wishes for today. You will be in the hands of extraordinarily gifted and professional people. I truly hope you make a full recovery.

swingofthings · 25/08/2019 08:01

What a awful experience OP, no time to psychologically prepare for it, it's no surprise you are so scared. Crossing all my fingers to you that the surgery is a ful success and you can go back to your normal lifeFlowers

TapasForTwo · 25/08/2019 08:05

Goodness. What a shock this must have been for you. Good luck and best wishes for a successful operation and a speedy recovery Flowers

pieeye · 25/08/2019 08:06

Wishing you luck today OP Thanks

Daisypie · 25/08/2019 08:09

Good luck Gumbo. You will be in very good hands.

Hospitalexpert · 25/08/2019 08:10

I’ve had brain surgery, not in an emergency. I know the feeling about fear about brain damage, rather than death, that’s how I felt.

Best wishes Flowers

justamum15 · 25/08/2019 08:10

Good luck to you. Best wishes.

Egghead68 · 25/08/2019 08:11

Very best of luck x

rainbowruthie · 25/08/2019 08:12

Sending kindest thoughts Flowers

LittleFairywren · 25/08/2019 08:12

Good luck. It's better to catch this early. A friend of mine had similar but it ended in her having a stroke and things have been difficult. I'll be thinking of you.

Mitzicoco · 25/08/2019 08:16

Good luck! This time in a week you will be feeling so much better. Sending virtual hand hold and positive vibes 👍

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