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husband seems annoyed that I want to book gp appointment

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pinklemonade84 · 15/07/2019 12:26

I'm so sorry for the long title

I found what I thought was a spot on the side of my breast a few weeks ago. Squeezed it a bit and found a lump. At the time it was the size of a small marble maybe. I've tried to leave it alone, as I've had them before and they've gone away. But this one is still there, much smaller though

I've also had a lump come up in my arm, kind of in the bingo wings area if that makes sense. That also started off quite large, and seems to have shrunk too

I'm scared and have tried to talk to my husband about it and he just keeps telling me to ignore it and it will go away.

I'm 35, and I have a 3 year old girl. She won't remember me if anything happened. I'm petrified and have decided to face fears and try to book a gp appointment tomorrow morning. When I told my husband, he almost seemed annoyed and said "what's the point, you said they're going down?"

I wish my mum was still alive as it would be her that I would have gone to about this 😔

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madasamarchhare · 15/07/2019 12:31

Please go and get check out. They are more than likely harmless and probably cysts, fatty tissue or calcium build up. But it’s far better to get checked for your peace of mind. Your gp will have no problem with referring you if necessary (and still doesn’t mean there’s anything sinister). Tests will be quick and you’d normally be told an outcome in the same day. If the worst came to the very worst, it is so treatable it’s far better to treat a problem than give it chance to escalate.

username95 · 15/07/2019 13:03

I agree with @madasamarchhare

The GP's are there to help you, from a small worry to a potential big worry. Always better to go and have it checked out, if anything just for your peace of mind.

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pinklemonade84 · 15/07/2019 13:08

That's what I've been trying to tell him, that it's better to get it checked and it be nothing. Than for me to leave it festering and it be something more sinister

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CitadelsofScience · 15/07/2019 13:12

Your husband does not get to decide when you need to see a Gp about your body. There's nothing else to say about it.

Chloemol · 15/07/2019 13:24

Go and get checked now. Don’t bother telling him, just do it

LabradorsandTiels · 15/07/2019 13:38

That's really hurtful to hear from your hubby's side, these things are often times harmless but best to check them out, I recently went to check one out despite being relatively young but my GP didn't think I was wasting time, they'd rather you go sooner

Don't listen to him you know yourself best and hopefully it puts you at ease.

We're all here

augustusglupe · 16/07/2019 12:14

You sound like me many years ago. I lost my mum 20 years ago and suffered all kinds of health anxiety and it wasn’t helped by the ‘just get on with it’ attitude. I’m sure it’s fine, but do go, you’ll feel so much better. Just listening to his opinion, as much as he’d clearly like you to, isn’t enough. In fact it would be bloomin daft to have something wrong with your bust and not get it checked out.
Hope you’ve made that appointment

Sexnotgender · 16/07/2019 12:16

Your husband gets zero say in this. Please go get checked out. It’s probably absolutely nothing to worry about but definitely go to your doctor.

EyesOpenWide · 16/07/2019 12:16

You’re bonkers for having a lump the size of a small marble in your breast for ‘a few weeks’ and not going to the GP already.

Time to book an appointment.

NoBaggyPants · 16/07/2019 12:20

augustus, the OP has found a lump. That's not health anxiety, that's something that should always be checked.

Have you managed to book an appointment OP?

Rachelover40 · 16/07/2019 13:37

Blow what your husband said, it's not him who has the lumps. Go to your doctor. They probably aren't anything but at least you'll be reassured.

berghg1710 · 16/07/2019 13:46

It's better to make an appointment and find it's nothing to worry about, than to assume it's harmless and for it to get worse. If there is something wrong, the sooner you get it treated the better. I am sorry your Mum has passed away. I am old enough to be your mother. I think sh'ed tell you your husband is being a jerk. He probably won't mind your daughter for you, so take her to the appointment if you can't find a baby-sitter.

anon812 · 16/07/2019 13:51

Just ignore him and go get it checked out. You don't need his permission to go to the GP, I would just do it. Don't tell him if it's simpler that way. Do it for your daughter and peace of mind ❤️ good luck x

ChicCroissant · 16/07/2019 13:55

Do you have health anxiety, OP? You should certainly get the lump checked out but if you have the same response to any (or every) health issue it would make your husband's response a little more understandable.

Hope you've got an appointment now and that it turns out to be nothing serious OP.

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pinklemonade84 · 17/07/2019 19:55

I've booked an appointment for first thing Monday morning, with a Dr that I like and trust, once I've dropped dd off at nursery. I've got no one to have her this week and I don't want to get upset in front of her

@EyesOpenWide Ive had them before after a spot or bite, but they've always gone away. This one has almost gone, but I've got the appointment booked just to be on the safe side

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anon812 · 18/07/2019 15:35

Good idea to book the GP appointment. Hope it goes well

flowery · 18/07/2019 15:38

Goodness, my husband would have been marching me down there ASAP.

Teacakeandalatte · 18/07/2019 15:40

If it's nothing it's better to know asap for your own peace of mind and if it is something time is of the essence in getting the best outcome. Forget your dh and listen to MN!

Orangesox · 18/07/2019 15:45

Your husband’s response is indicative of the “typical” male response to health issues. Until something floors you, falls off or leads to an inpatient hospital stay then it’s better to not know and just leave well alone. Ostrich syndrome as it’s known in our house

My husband is like this and it drives me crackers; he also thinks that drugs for chronic health conditions are optional, and that I can’t possibly be in pain every day with said condition... infuriating!

You are not being unreasonable or over reacting in any way, shape or form. Best to get it checked out and find out if there’s a problem or if it’s totally fine and you can relax

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pinklemonade84 · 19/07/2019 06:41

They've both shrunk even more, which I'm hoping is a good sign

I'm still keeping the appointment, just to be on the safe side. The Dr I'm seeing is the nicest I've seen at this surgery and as soon as I saw she had an appointment free, I jumped on it. So I'll head straight there once I've dropped dd at nursery on Monday

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CruellaFeinberg · 19/07/2019 06:52

The dr will have a look at and either tell you not to worry, or say you need further investigation. Further investigation doesn't mean that's it, it just means they're not sure so DONT panic if if they refer you Ok?

augustusglupe · 21/07/2019 01:36

NoBaggyPants Ok
Hope you’re sorted now OP and feel a little better

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pinklemonade84 · 22/07/2019 10:21

I've had my appointment this morning

The Dr examined both of my breasts and said the lump didn't feel cancerous to her. She thinks it's probably a spot that has got a bit infected and has given me an antibiotic cream to use. And if it's not gone in 3 weeks to go back

She said she'd always much rather check over things like this, than have me not go in and it be the worst case scenario

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anon812 · 22/07/2019 11:33

Glad all ok. Yes agree, checking is always the best thing to do.

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