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Peter in pain but wont go to hospital

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misdee · 09/05/2007 13:23

he says they wont do anything. i think with that attitude they wont, he needs to be seen. he isnt living, just exsisting.

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Leander · 09/05/2007 13:24

Nothing to offer but Just had to post , So sorry to hear this xx

princessmel · 09/05/2007 13:24

How frustrating for you and him.

How do you think you can persuade him to go?

DANCESwithaFewExtraPounds · 09/05/2007 13:25

OH misdee Sorry he's in pain. Hope you can persuade him to go, there must be something they can do.

noddyholder · 09/05/2007 13:25

Misdee he needs to go as every visit is documented and adds to his case He is suffering a lot isn't he?Can you ring them?Is it the LVAD that is hurting?He might have an infection

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misdee · 09/05/2007 13:25

i could drag him there.

waiting for call from GP who has already said he wont be able to perscribe anything, but want him to refer dh back to harefield, if we self refer they tend to dismiss our worries a bit, am hoping Gp getting hi ma bed he will be taken seriously.

if i can get him to go that is.

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misdee · 09/05/2007 13:26

LVAD and back. no sign of infection. think it might internal healing around the tubes and as they move it rubs.

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noddyholder · 09/05/2007 13:27

My dialysis lines were agony at times especially when they were changed Can he take painkillers?

MaureenMLove · 09/05/2007 13:28

Hope you can persuade him, although Ican understand why he feels that way.

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misdee · 09/05/2007 13:35

GP just rang. wont do anything as not a new problem

feel so hopeless. he is due to go in on friday, but i bet they send him home.

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MrsWho · 09/05/2007 14:21

poor Peter (and you all))

lulabelle · 09/05/2007 14:29

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misdee · 09/05/2007 16:09

i was very down last week and dint post much, at one point i think threads i'm on went to 20

I am just feeling totally useless about this, as there isnt actually anything I can do.

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hippipotami · 09/05/2007 16:15

O sweetheart, I really feel for you.

Stay strong
xx

fryalot · 09/05/2007 16:16
Sad
littlelapin · 09/05/2007 16:20

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theUrbanDryad · 09/05/2007 16:21

thinking of you all. xxx

BandofMothers · 09/05/2007 16:23

It would drive me mad not to be able to help.

Do you all do stuff to take his mind off it, like family game of scrabble or something??

Sorry, crappy suggestions, and useless I know, but .............don't know really

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misdee · 09/05/2007 16:25

he cant even sit with us to play a board game

he is literally stuck in bed or on his chair.

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BandofMothers · 09/05/2007 16:28

Does the bed sit up and you can get one of those tables to swing over it so it's right in front of him????

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misdee · 09/05/2007 16:28

the bed does sit up, but no room for a table due to his machinary. he is in a tiny room as well

just want our lives back.

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anorak · 09/05/2007 16:29

Perhaps he's happier at home with you than in hospital away from you. If it's healing that's causing the pain then surely there is no cause to rush him off to hospital? Obv his distress is distressing for you too, I understand that but maybe he knows he will be more comfortable at home?

Tell me to shut up if I am talking out of my arse

Califrau · 09/05/2007 16:32

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BandofMothers · 09/05/2007 16:48

God, he must be stir crazy. You all must. Will try to think of something else.

ScoobyDooooo · 09/05/2007 16:50

Sorry to hear this misdee, it must be so so hard for you all, trying to rack my brains but i think it is an impossible situation by the sounds of things

Sparkler1 · 09/05/2007 16:53

Oh Misdee - how frustrating for you. Sounds to me like you could do with a break. Any chance you can arrange for a few hours out one evening with some friends? It will do you the world of good and you'll feel able to cope with the situation better once you've had some "you" time.