oh rabbit, I have so many huge ranty rages about this on this site. I won't even TELL you about the shit I have had but I will tell you what happened to dd (sob).
It was clear to us that she had a hearing problem. Took her to GP who said her ears were waxy - told us to use olive oil. She went to stay overnight with a friend - said friend's parents call me aside and advise me, in the strongest terms, to get her seen asap because they cannot believe how bad her hearing is (they took her to a play and they had to move right to the front because she genuinely couldn't hear).
Go back to the doc - told to continue - they say there's no problem with her hearing (because she can hear in a silent doctor's room ). Anyway, repeat ad nauseam - about 5 appointments. EVENTUALLY, I say, give us a referral. I get the letter and take it private - do you know what the letter says - that THEY don't think there's a problem but I do and they apologise because they think 'they are wasting their time referring her'. Seriously. I was apoplectic with rage.
Anyway, long and short - I see the ENT - he is furious with the letter (turns out she did have a hearing problem) and writes back to the GP.
I think they are incentivised not to refer for stuff like this (must be money).
Anyway, you must not see anyone other than AP for kids. She is lovely - take him in, tell her everything you've been through and how long it's been going on - if you tell her you want to go private, she's bound to know someone. Oh, and I too, only found out about the letter because I asked for a copy grrr. Let me know how you get on.