Giving Birth 2nd time_--_--_--after 3rd deg tear& Retained placenta...CS or VB what do you reckon? anyone been there?

[VoodooMama]

Thanks so much, its doing my nut which to go for already...

1st dd was 7lb 15oz, oblique position, I delivered naturally (MW said 99% of primates couldnt have done it )
but ended up epis/tearing 3rd degree, then had retained placenta so had to go to surgery, horrid experience but dd OK, thats all that matters,
would another VB end with me being fecally incontinent? or another 3/4/5th degree tear?
The MW at the hosp. are a mix of experienced and not, so do I trust them for such a tricky delivery?
My stitches and scar are nearly healed now...would a CS be better????
I dont like epidurals/spinal blocks so what circumstances could I have a CS under gen.anaesthetic or am I deluded!!!
Help!!!!

flier, why did you deliver on the bathroom floor? surely they didnt advocate a home birth with a prev. retained placenta? was the labour just really fast???

labour was really fast - sorry - meant to say it was an unplanned birth at home! Was relieved though as couldn't be bothered with the drips etc

yeah! lucky you, but a tad stressful at the time, eh!

Hi voodoomama, tbh i think it was more stressful for my hubby!, who was frantically trying to get hold of a midwife at the time my lo was born - its funny how in the end you and your body just cope with things

Will you let me know how you get on with your consultant?

yeah, itll be interesting...

my morning sickness is outrageous this time, and my scan is at 8.30am, genius. How the hell am I supposed to keep 2 pints of water down!!!!

sorry can't help you with that one!

good luck

oh dear no fetal heartbeat felt just a dead little lump of cells. having d and c friday.
Its tough, but thats life. Thanks for your support with this thread

VooDooMama - sorry to hear your news

thanks KatH

Sorry to hear that voodoomama. Best wishes for your next pregnancy.