Am I only person who doesn't look after themselves? How to motivate myself to care?

[Glassofwine]

So, yesterday is a fine example. I didn't eat breakfast. On the way back from the school run I bought a pack of choc bourbons and ate them with endless cups of tea inc sugar throughout the day - but nothing else. DH came home not feeling well so didn't want to eat, so I ate a bag of crisps and a couple of glasses of wine.

I never go to bed before 12.30, everyday I tell myself that I'll be in bed by 11.30, but can't do it, even though I'm shattered - I just feel it's precious child free time.

I don't do any exercise whatsoever. I'm a size 16, but in denial and still have size 14 clothes, which are bursting at the seems. Each year I get bigger and bigger.

I wouldn't let my children eat like I do, they have a great diet, but I just can't be bothered with myself. Now I'm starting to look older and feel older (38) and worry all the time about my health. Even though I spend so much time beating myself up about my bad eating habits and lack of exercise do I do anything about it? No - nothing, so how do I motivate myself?

eating with the family is easier if you have 'buffet style'

(dont laugh)

i put most things in dishes on the table and let everyone help them selves

they seem to eat more and talk more

"pass the tatties" etc

Glassofwine, this is a big issue for me too. Sign up for www's 10 years younger boot camp on here on top of all the good advice you've had so far...it really does work.

You may all LOL @ this but... I used to hate walking in the rain so I bought a really trendy unbrella that i love and now I like showing it off LOL LOL

GLASS

my dh doesnt get home from work til 730 sometimes too

i eat with the girls becuase i feel its important for them

maybe twice a week i eat with dh, weekedns we are all together

even if you are not eating, lay the table for your dc and have a cup of tea at the table with them

they will appreciate it

MOH LOL!

i did the same but with a pair of £10 wellies from Asda

I don't eat with my child (only at weekends) but I'm at work through her mealtimes.

Cook in the evening for you and your DH.. I do (although we eat veeeeery late)

We do 'buffet style' at the weekend too Nailpolish- it does work well and dd's eat more veg too.

Ok, so I've said spilled the beans now - I wouldn't tell anyone in rl how bad I am, but am going to start looking after myself from today.

Starting with water - have kidney stones so I'm supposed to drink lots and never do, you'd never believe that I am an intelligent woman.

your children will pick up on it - stop!!!!

I know what you mean about the child free time though. BUT for a week why not try NO alcohol in the week and in bed by 11pm.

If I carried on like that (the eating) I would have a seriuos depressive crash so I am careful to eat little and often (maybe too often ).

GLASS can you go to the shops and get some nice luverly body lotion etc?

and use it EVERY day

are you bothered about losing weight? or just not gain any more

i was going to say buy some new clothes but dont do that if you are going to go down a size

Glass of wine - just change a couple of things at a time. Otherwise you get all overwhelmed and give up.

More water is easy. Get a sports bottle and keep it with you.

Have breakfast - if you can't do it before the school run. Have some as soon as you get back.

There you go - you've started already!

I know how you feel I am sitting here all three kids have had breakfast I am chewing gum whilst drinking a cup of tea!!! with skimmed milk as this is a new thing I thought I might try wonderig what to eat that pases as healthy I had a baby 8 months ago and havnt lost any weight a all I know its my diet that is rubish but I just cant seem to change it I also paid for 12 months gym membership that I used 3 times so far because always have the kids

I only have a small frame but is carrying a size 16 body at the moment

your not alone x x

eating tea with children

but I always sit with them and chat - I make myself a cup of tea

(we do tend to eat lunches together at the weekend)

yes have porridge for breakfast too, it really works

sometimes i have it for lunch too

could ahve started this thread too

will follow closely

sniff did you draw breath during that sentence?

Oh Enid - you are so wise, I have been suffering from depression on and off this year. Feeling fine right now, but I know that my 'lifestyle' doesn't help.

Right, am off to get on with the studying now, but now have a jug of water next to me and will walk to school later. No crap from Supermarket, In bed early tonight (dh out) with a good book. Bet I feel better tomorrow.

thank you ladies

no I am rubbish at grammer whilst writing

I have what I fondly think of as a Power Breakfast - I have it at home when all kids gone - slice of wholemeal toast with no sugar peanut butter and a mashed banana, cup of lovely milky coffee, big glass of water.

I have hot water and lemon while the kids are breakfasting and I am running about.

If I don't drink [boo!] and eat sensibly - ie not too much sugar and little and often with plenty of veg, I rarely get depressed. When I am exercising too I feel like super woman !

just do it in stages but most important is
Breakfast nobody should ever leave the house without it.
Give yourself a pep talk not in your head say it out loud to yourself it doesnt matter if you feel daft
Also you obviously love your children very much so look after yourself as they look to you for guidance and support.

Porridge for breakfast has caused me to lose half a stone with no other dieting involved. It makes you feel virtuous too.

Im not much better, if any!
On 4th coffee and had handful of mini chedders for breakfast!
Think will hang around this thread for inspiration.

TOTALLY agree about porridge

glass of wine , its february for goodness sake ,dont try and get motivated until march ,its statistically impossible ! When it gets to march then pick one thing youd like to change ie exercise more or lose weight or even just start eating breakfast and concentrate on that one thing for a month , after a month add on something else and see how you go .