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a letter to MN from Mr Martianbishop

80 replies

Blandmum · 26/12/2006 15:47

Open Letter to Mumsnet

This is a truly strange thing for me to do, but I find myself in an unfamiliar situation. Recently diagnosed with terminal Pancreatic Cancer, one would imagine this as an opportunity to slip into depression and despond, yet the reverse seems to be the case. I am constantly bemused and amazed by the kindness of ordinary people - never more so than with the denizens of Mumsnet.

Martianbishop, my better half (PC credentials established, yes?), has found great rewards in contributing to Mumsnet threads over the years. Although, with the recent stress of my diagnosis, she has taken cover somewhat, she still haunts the chats and has continued correspondence with a few closer friends on the board. I know that she has found this of great comfort and I offer my sincere thanks for the help you have offered. More bizarrely, I know that there has been great debate over the sad plight of those caught in the mire that is Farepack. I had heard that there was discussion of Mumsnet centred contributions to those affected, which seemed like a really good and charitable act. When my name was mentioned however, I confess that I was aghast. "We've got Xmas all squared away, we don't need charity" I bleated. However, I realise that true charity is in the expression of compassion, not simply the need. I was completely choked when we received some exquisite prepared meals via special delivery - the truth is that Martianbishop is completely overwhelmed sometimes by the need to juggle me, 2 kids and a full-time job, even before you factor in the Xmas madness.

However, the tale is not yet over. Just before Xmas, we received I-Tunes vouchers of considerable value. Now, I don't know any of you personally and my wife (sorry) has taken at least as much from Mumsnet as she has ever given, so this level of giving seems completely beyond the pale. However, it has gladdened my heart and bolstered my confidence in the continuance of life, so it has performed a real and lasting service. Therefore, I would like the opportunity to express my gratitude and admiration to each and every one of you in the Mumsnet web. No matter what the final outcome of my little pocket drama, you have all made a difference. Can any of us ask for anything more?

In praise of Mumsnet, their moderators, contributors and supporters. Keep it up!

OP posts:
Overrunderthemistletoe · 26/12/2006 15:55

I'm not some one who has had a lot of contact with your wife on MN, but have read about your situation. You seem a remarkable couple to me, whilst I am sure that behind closed doors there are tears (and rightly so), your positive and dignified approach to life impresses me greatly.

PartridgeinaRustyBearTree · 26/12/2006 15:59

The thing that shines through martianbishops tales of her family is the love and admiration she has for you. Your letter realy shows us why.

foxinsocks · 26/12/2006 16:02

hope you both had a lovely christmas

and mb, you can tell dh you were/are a legend on here anyway - you've always given a lot to mumsnet and it's people like you who have made mumsnet the type of place your dh talks about

JoolsToo · 26/12/2006 16:10

Dear Mr MartianBishop
How wonderful of you take time from your family Christmas to send us all this special message.

I think about you and the family a lot, the courage and the strength of all of you is quite amazing.

I sincerely hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a peaceful New Year.

JTx

JanH · 26/12/2006 16:16

MB is recognised here as a wonderful person, and the two of you truly deserve both each other and all the goodness and "charity" (ie love - "and the greatest of these is love") you have received and will receive.

Lovely message, Mr MB. Thinking of you all. XXX

Yorkiegirl · 26/12/2006 16:20

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Kristingle · 26/12/2006 16:28

Thank you for your letter Mr MB. I hope you all have a peaceful Christmas

Sobernoel · 26/12/2006 16:31

People on here hold MB in very high regard - she has written about your cancer with great clarity and honesty. The way she writes about you yourself is really touching. I am sorry you are facing such a tough time as a family, but it is clear that both of you are great parents and I know you will handle it in a way that will help your children cope.

I hope you are proud of what you have achieved during your life, Mr MB, because she certainly is proud to be your wife.

anorak · 26/12/2006 16:33

Bless you Mr mb.

May your words stand as a permanent reminder to all those who grouse about how mumsnet has changed, that there are still wonderful people at the heart of it, people with beautiful caring hearts, like you and your family.

What a lovely unselfish man you sound, no wonder your wife speaks of you with such adoration.

HarkTheAEROdAngelsSing · 26/12/2006 16:34

What a lovely message Mr MB. Wishing you all a peaceful and special Christmas.

MerryMellowmas · 26/12/2006 16:47

I am welling up again here!!!!

Hope you all had a wonderful christmas.

Much love to you and your family Mr MB.

FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 26/12/2006 16:54

You're a good bloke MrMB

Wishing you nothing but joy!

Monkeytrousers · 26/12/2006 17:04

Take care

ledodgychristmasjumper · 26/12/2006 17:11

Thank you for taking the time to write such a lovely letter Mr Mb. I hope your Christmas was a special one and wishing you more happy times with your family.

brimfull · 26/12/2006 17:15

hope you had a lovely xmas,thanks for posting that lovely message

FairyTaleOfNewYork · 26/12/2006 17:17

oh mr mb you ahve made me blub [wipes away mascara running down her cheeks]

JackieNoHoHo · 26/12/2006 17:20

MrMartianbishop, thank you for such a lovely message - hope you and your family are having a peaceful Christmas.

tamum · 26/12/2006 18:15

Bless you, you are more than welcome, really. Your wife is much loved and respected on here, as I'm sure you know, and we will do anythign a bunch of virtual strangers possibly can do to help you all. That was a wonderful message, it really was.
With love to you all,
tamum xxx

blueshoes · 26/12/2006 18:34

That was a very moving and eloquent message. All my love to you, Mr and Mrs MB and family. You are truly an inspiration.

Judy1234 · 26/12/2006 18:37

What a good open letter. So nice.

The beauty of the internet really, which is such a force (I think) mostly for good in breaking down barriers and putting people in touch with others they might never contact.

suedonim · 26/12/2006 18:47

How lovely to hear from you, Mr MB. This Christmas MN has made me believe that ultimately there is more good than bad in this world; usually good is working quietly away in the background but sometimes it bursts forth in all its glory and then, what a wonderful vision it is to behold.

Mercy · 26/12/2006 18:50

Mr MB, how lovely to hear from you.

I agree with Sobernoel when she says MB is held in high regard on MN; my over-riding impression of her is as a dedicated wife, mother and teacher. And a terrible typist at times!!

So glad to hear you had a great Christmas. Hope you have a good New Year too.

best wishes

Heathcliffscathy · 26/12/2006 18:50

I wish you pleasure and joy and peace this Christmas with your family. Please send all my love to your wife who is one of the reasons that this site is so wonderful. xx

DonnerDasherDancerDior · 26/12/2006 19:00

What a fab couple you are. So in love and strong together. I hope you had/have a Christmas and New Year. Take care of yourself Mr MB. xx

jalopy · 26/12/2006 19:03

It's lovely to hear from you, Mr MB. Take care.