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a letter to MN from Mr Martianbishop

80 replies

Blandmum · 26/12/2006 15:47

Open Letter to Mumsnet

This is a truly strange thing for me to do, but I find myself in an unfamiliar situation. Recently diagnosed with terminal Pancreatic Cancer, one would imagine this as an opportunity to slip into depression and despond, yet the reverse seems to be the case. I am constantly bemused and amazed by the kindness of ordinary people - never more so than with the denizens of Mumsnet.

Martianbishop, my better half (PC credentials established, yes?), has found great rewards in contributing to Mumsnet threads over the years. Although, with the recent stress of my diagnosis, she has taken cover somewhat, she still haunts the chats and has continued correspondence with a few closer friends on the board. I know that she has found this of great comfort and I offer my sincere thanks for the help you have offered. More bizarrely, I know that there has been great debate over the sad plight of those caught in the mire that is Farepack. I had heard that there was discussion of Mumsnet centred contributions to those affected, which seemed like a really good and charitable act. When my name was mentioned however, I confess that I was aghast. "We've got Xmas all squared away, we don't need charity" I bleated. However, I realise that true charity is in the expression of compassion, not simply the need. I was completely choked when we received some exquisite prepared meals via special delivery - the truth is that Martianbishop is completely overwhelmed sometimes by the need to juggle me, 2 kids and a full-time job, even before you factor in the Xmas madness.

However, the tale is not yet over. Just before Xmas, we received I-Tunes vouchers of considerable value. Now, I don't know any of you personally and my wife (sorry) has taken at least as much from Mumsnet as she has ever given, so this level of giving seems completely beyond the pale. However, it has gladdened my heart and bolstered my confidence in the continuance of life, so it has performed a real and lasting service. Therefore, I would like the opportunity to express my gratitude and admiration to each and every one of you in the Mumsnet web. No matter what the final outcome of my little pocket drama, you have all made a difference. Can any of us ask for anything more?

In praise of Mumsnet, their moderators, contributors and supporters. Keep it up!

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SherlockLGJ · 26/12/2006 19:06

Another one sobbing here.

Thank you for a most wonderful letter. You are in my thoughts and prayers constantly.

Much love

LGJ

imaginaryfriend · 26/12/2006 19:16

A fabulous letter. I'm glad MN has made a difference this Christmas.

Wishing you all the very best for 2007.

PollyLogos · 26/12/2006 19:18

I do hope that you have all had a lovely christmas together. You really are an amazing couple, not least for the fact that you both seem to be finding so much positiveity from your situation.

You are both truely inspirational.

Carmenere · 26/12/2006 19:20

Lovely letter, much love and luck for 2007 to all the bishops of mars!

Skylertnightholynight · 26/12/2006 19:22

Hope you have had a truly memorable Christmas. Your family are never far from my thoughts.

saadia · 26/12/2006 19:23

What a beautiful message, yours and mb's messages have really confirmed my faith in human nature, I would say that you have both made a difference by allowing us, who don't know you in RL, to get a glimpse of the grace and dignity with which you are handling your illness.

FioFio · 26/12/2006 19:25

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Socci · 26/12/2006 19:29

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southeastastra · 26/12/2006 20:02

i have only been on mn since may but mb has been the most human, helpful, memorable and (especially) funny person i've met 'online' hehe

sending you lots of love this christmas

MrsJohnCuSackFullOfPresents · 26/12/2006 20:11

Mr MB - your wife won't 'know' me on here but I certainly know her and have been following her posts. Couldn't let this pass without wishing you all Happy Christmas and New Year, and saying what a wonderful letter this is. So uplifting, even if it has made me blub...

maryhadaharpsichordyeahlord · 26/12/2006 20:15

the thing is mr MB - We love MB. not like you love her, but all the same we love her.
We are always thinking of you both.
Harpsichordcarrier (god that sounds more ridiculous than ever )

andaSOAPBOXinapeartree · 26/12/2006 20:16

What a lovely message Mr MB

It is somewhat bizarre I think, the way that a group of mums (in the main) from very different backgrounds, ages, interests come together in the melting pot that is MN.

There are good times and there are bad - and sometimes there are bad times that turn good And sadly good times that turn bad

Mb has always been a well regarded poster - mostly calm, analytical and giving of herself! Through that we have come to know you, or at least MB's version of you - as a brave, loving, family man. To that list I think we can fairly safely now add 'dignified'.

Your situation is at presernt somewhat 'tricky', and I join with others in wishing you the best of possible outcomes. However, I'm sure that many other posters would join me in saying that whatever happens we will always be here for MB, whenever she wishes for support, kindness or even the odd homework question of that you can be assured!

In the meantime, I wish you a thouroughly enjoyable festive season and more music (from itunes) than you can shake a stick at

Take care Mr MB

DeckthehallsLaDiDaDi · 26/12/2006 20:16

What a nice letter Mr Martianbishop. Your wife always writes with wit and aplomb and whenever she writes about you it is with the greatest of love. I sincerely hope that you and your family have had a great xmas and that you remain as well as is possible for as long as is possible. xxx

Jimjams2 · 26/12/2006 20:21

Aha Mr MB I've heard a lot about you over the years ( all good! don't worry!), so lovely to read something **from you.

Hope you enjoy the iTunes vouchers. I recently had a band called Radiodread recommended to me- a reggae version of OK Computer apparently. I haven't bought it yet (listened to snippets on the iTunes website and pondered), but will pass on the recommendation as this person was very keen!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 26/12/2006 20:23

A lovely letter Mr MB. Ditto what Harpsi said.

xxx

Pruni · 26/12/2006 20:24

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snowfunwhenyoureknackered · 26/12/2006 20:29

Thanks for taking the time and effort to post that Mr MB.

Hope you and your family had a really good Xmas!

All the very best!

ssd x x x

littlemissbossy · 26/12/2006 20:30

OMG
here I am, avoiding yet another game of pool - whos bloody idea was it to buy them a pool table?? but I find myself in tears
what a lovely post Mr MB, sad yet beautiful
I wish you and your family a wonderful Christmas and strength in the times ahead. lmbx

SherlockLGJ · 26/12/2006 23:14

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lulumama · 26/12/2006 23:18

Mr MB & MB

two of the most selfless and inspiring people you could ever hope to 'meet'!!

wishing you the best of time ahead , many more precious moments together

so amazing you have taken the time to write this

xxxxx

Lio · 26/12/2006 23:21

MB is right, Mr MB: you are lovely.

DeckTheHallsWithFRAUsOfHolly · 26/12/2006 23:23

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jollyhollymum · 26/12/2006 23:24

I wish you and Mrs MB and the family my heartfelt love and hugs, Thank you for your letter, you have taught many people the meaning of humility and respect.

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hunkermunker · 27/12/2006 00:40

Mr MB, your wife is brilliant and so are you (plus what everyone else has said).

Thank you for posting - lovely to hear from you.

Lots of love to you all x x x x x

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