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We have at best a year or two

369 replies

Blandmum · 02/12/2006 16:58

I said I wouldn't post again, but since MN has been supportive I thought it only fair.

We found out this afternoon, that dh has an agressice adenocarcinoma of the pancreas. With treatment a 'good' prognosis would be a a year or two. I know that in practice it will probably be less than this.

Poor sweet man.

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IdrisTheRedNosedReindeer · 02/12/2006 22:45

I'm so sorry MB .

busybusymum · 02/12/2006 22:45

So sad to hear this. Will be thinking of you and your family.x

giddy1 · 02/12/2006 22:50

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serenitynightholynight · 02/12/2006 22:52

Sorry to hear this MB, please remember we'll be here if you need us

lisalisa · 02/12/2006 22:53

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domesticslobess · 02/12/2006 22:54

Mb I'm so sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you and your family. xxx

MyTwoChocolateCoinsWorth · 02/12/2006 22:59

mb, i am so so sorry to hear this. please think again about leaving mumsnet, i know it can be (y'know) but it's chock full of some really nice people who would want to be there for you, now and in the future.

and its a safe place to talk, rant, clear your head, or say things you might not want to say to anyone in your rl.

edam · 02/12/2006 23:02

Oh Lord MB, I am so very, very sorry. Your pride in dh has always come across in your posts.

FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 02/12/2006 23:03

Oh no

My thoughts are with you, your husband and your children.

I was hoping desperately that things were going to be different.

You are (and will stay) in my heart.

xxx

Saturn74 · 02/12/2006 23:05

MB, such sad news. I am thinking of you all.

realjolly · 02/12/2006 23:08

(((((((((((((((Martianbishop))))))))))))))
I hope that you will have some positive qualitytime with your man/ and as a family....no matter how much time you have remaining.And that he won't have to suffer to much!

myrrhthamoo · 02/12/2006 23:09

Blu, thank you for finding the words I couldn't.

prufrock · 02/12/2006 23:16

Mb I am so so sorry to hear your news. I can completely understand your wish to spend your time with your family rather than your computer, but do know that if you need us at any time there will always be someone here to at least listen to you, even if we can't make things any better.

whensantagotstuckupAITCHimney · 02/12/2006 23:28

i am so terribly, terribly sorry to hear about this, martianbishop, your poor family. can i ask you to document everything from now on - photos, letters, diaries etc?
my father died when i was relatively young and before he died he told me that he wanted to write me a letter but had become to ill to do it. i wrote him one, so he knows how much i treasured him, but i would truly have loved to have that letter from him.
i hope you can manage to make the very most of your remaining time together.

sandcastlesforanaussiexmas · 02/12/2006 23:38

So sorry MB. Am thinking of you all xx

jajas · 02/12/2006 23:50

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JanH · 02/12/2006 23:50

Oh, mb

So sorry to read your post. DD1 and I were talking about you today and wondering if there was any news - we were hoping that the fact that there hadn't been any was a good sign.

Echo all the posts here about getting the most you can out of every moment you have left. I remember what your DS said about his daddy, and while it's heartbreaking to think that your children won't now have his support as they grow up, at least they already know and appreciate what a wonderful father they have. I hope he will have the chemo to extend the time you can all have together, and that it will give you longer than you are expecting, and that it won't make him feel too ill to enjoy life as he plainly always has.

We will miss you very much if you really can't come back.

XXX

Monkeytrousers · 03/12/2006 00:56

I don't know what to say MB..it's the tragedy of being human, isn't it? Take care of him, of yourself, of your children...we're here, you know x

mamama · 03/12/2006 01:22

I'm so very sorry. Thinking of you all. x

psssst · 03/12/2006 01:25

I'm so sorry MB. It's so unfair

swedishmum · 03/12/2006 01:38

So sad. Thinking of you. He sounds wonderful (so do you). Life's just so unfair sometimes.x

DeckthehallsLaDiDaDi · 03/12/2006 01:48

I so want to say something yet I know that whatever I do say will be wholly inadequate. Try to enjoy every moment that you have together. Your love for each other is palpable. I will think of you both. xxx

Blossomhill · 03/12/2006 01:55

I am so, so sorry to hear your news mb

As always my heart and prayers go out to you and your family

Remember there will always be someone here on mumsnet if ever you need to talk. You are so well loved and people care about you and your family a great deal.

Lots of love and hugs Blossomhillxxxxxx

champs · 03/12/2006 02:06

so sorry to hear this

please do come back when you need to. Love to you and your fam xxx

fuchsia0703 · 03/12/2006 11:11

So sorry to hear this - my thoughts are with you.

Whether or not you decide to come back here "properly" there are lots of people who really care about you. I must say I can't believe some of the threads I have read recently which have started out with an innocent question and deteriorated. I hope you will choose to post from time to time. Love to you and DH

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