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We have at best a year or two

369 replies

Blandmum · 02/12/2006 16:58

I said I wouldn't post again, but since MN has been supportive I thought it only fair.

We found out this afternoon, that dh has an agressice adenocarcinoma of the pancreas. With treatment a 'good' prognosis would be a a year or two. I know that in practice it will probably be less than this.

Poor sweet man.

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DimpledThighs · 02/12/2006 20:06

I am so sorry to hear this. I can't think what to say - but couldn't say nothing.

Take care of yourselves.

Sugarfree · 02/12/2006 20:08

Mb,I am so very sorry to hear this.
Thinking of you all.

LadyTophamHatt · 02/12/2006 20:10

Oh bloody hell MB.

Every post I read reduces me to tears, I cannot imagine how awful it must feel for you and your Dh.

I wish I had the words to....God...I don't know...I wish I had the words to make it better...to make this all go away.

It's just so unfair.

katiebirdie · 02/12/2006 20:11

fate is so fecking cruel its utter shite. you obviously love your husband so much, he is very lucky to have you. nothing we can say here will help but just want you to know I am sending my love to you and your family. Go make some more memories to treasure xxx

LadyMuck · 02/12/2006 20:11

So so sorry to hear this news - it must be devastating to have hope snatched like that.

Will be thinking of you all.

Sobernoel · 02/12/2006 20:11

You and your dh will stay in my mind, MB. I know you will make him confident that he is one of the most loved men on the planet, if he doesn't know it already.

tigermoth · 02/12/2006 20:13

MB I am so very sorry. I was thinking of you early this morning as I logged onto mumsnet, as I know you are ofter here early am at the weekend. I am so sorry to see this thread.

I really hope you have some good people nearby - friends and family - who will be there for you. I know your mother will not be there for you in that way, and I know this must be more pain for you. I feel for you so much here - having lost my parents, my dh is my main anchor in life and I would be so desolate without him.

I very much believe you made the right choice in backing away from mumsnet to spend time with your family, but please,if anything here helps you through this time, use mumsnet for all its worth when you need it.

I wish you and your family lots of happy times, and will pray like mad for luck to intervene.

Bozza · 02/12/2006 20:13

So very sorry to hear this.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 02/12/2006 20:15

dramatic I know but sitting here with tears running down my face . So sorry its you MB I really am . Life is shit . My OH has cancer NHL . He had chemo .I started to take so many photos . 2ooo and still going strong as I wanted to create loads of memories for Ds . I hope you can keep strong for your journey . Words are not enough . I did keep a diary as it helped to put my feelings down on paper as there are some things you cant speak to anyone about . I remember feeling sorry for my OH but also for my self . you are in my prayers .

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3littlefrogs · 02/12/2006 20:20

I am a "newbie" here, and haven't "spoken' to you before. But I am so, so sorry to hear this, and want to add my thoughts and prayers to all the others that are going out to you tonight.

Marina · 02/12/2006 20:21

MB, I did hope this would not be you
Thank you for updating us - I had lunch with a Mner earlier this week and both of us were wondering how you all are - I should think similar scenes occurred up and down the country...we've all been thinking of you so much.
I too will be praying for you, but also swearing a lot on your behalf. XXX

tortoiseshell · 02/12/2006 20:22

MB, I'm so sorry to read this - thank you for coming back to post. We'll keep you in our prayers - what everyone has said on here is so true, your love really does shine out of the computer screen. It's so hard, keep strong. xxx

Whooooosh · 02/12/2006 20:23

MB-so,so sorry to hear this.
Just enjoy the time you have together and try to create a lifetime's worth of memories.

tamum · 02/12/2006 20:29

MB, I know you know all this stuff as well as I do, but just in case you haven't had a chance to look yet, there is a page here that lets you have details of the 7 clinical trials going on for pancreatic cancer under CRUK's auspices at the moment. My guess is that your dh's consultants will already know, but it might be worth suggesting? It won't let me link directly to the page, but I had a look and some of them sound quite interesting.

Sorry, it's just rubbish not being able to help.

Jimjams2 · 02/12/2006 20:32

oh honey I didn't realise you meant you'd posted yourself.

You know where I am xxxx

turquoise · 02/12/2006 20:42

I am so very sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you.

oops · 02/12/2006 20:43

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JackieNoHoHo · 02/12/2006 20:48

So sorry to hear this, MB.

jampots · 02/12/2006 20:50

MB sorry to hear this news. my thoughts are with you.

Weatherwax · 02/12/2006 20:52

I am so so sorry MB. We undrstand that you don't want to post more here now but if you ever feel you do need us then don't hesitate to post again

pelvicfloorSNOWmore · 02/12/2006 20:54

So so so sorry MB
Dont know what else to say

emkana · 02/12/2006 20:56

I am so sorry, life is so bloody unfair sometimes

MN has been able to give me so much comfort in the past, I hope that it might do the same for you at some point.

My thoughts are with you

Mercy · 02/12/2006 20:57

MB, I have just re-read this thread.

Please come back when and if you want to. I'm sure you are feeling very raw atm, you've had a huge shock to put it mildly. You have many friends here as you know.

Thinking of you on Monday.

I'm sure you have come across bacup)