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Original poster

We have at best a year or two

369 replies

Blandmum · 02/12/2006 16:58

I said I wouldn't post again, but since MN has been supportive I thought it only fair.

We found out this afternoon, that dh has an agressice adenocarcinoma of the pancreas. With treatment a 'good' prognosis would be a a year or two. I know that in practice it will probably be less than this.

Poor sweet man.

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AllieAndTheIvy · 02/12/2006 19:26

kind wishes to you all MB

littlerach · 02/12/2006 19:26

I am so sorry to hear yuor news.
i will keep you in my thoughts, and I hope you find the strenghth that you need.xx

SpookyMadMerryChristmasMummy · 02/12/2006 19:29

am thinking of you MB and sending my love to you both...XXXX

NorksBride · 02/12/2006 19:31

So very sorry to hear your news. Have been thinking about you a lot over the past week. Thank you for taking the time to let us all know.

Fondest wishes to all the Martians.

SaintGeorge · 02/12/2006 19:32

Oh mb

popsycal · 02/12/2006 19:34

oh mb
i have been thinking of you, your kids and your dh

i am glad you hve come back as so many people care bout you all

i am so sorry mb
you know where we all are if and when you need us
much love
popsy

snowleopard · 02/12/2006 19:35

My thoughts are with you MB. I hope MN will able to give you some of the support you need.

colditz · 02/12/2006 19:36

I'm so sorry MB.

motherinfurrierfestivefrock · 02/12/2006 19:37

Oh fuck.

MB, the only thing I can say from any experience is that treatments like acupuncture - yes I know it's dippyhippy stuff - might help counteract the horridness of chemo. I know it helped DP's mum.

And of course there isn't anything else I can say.

Please take anything, anything you can, that's useful from MN. Whatever you want, we're here.

pageturner · 02/12/2006 19:39

So so sorry to hear this. Been thinking about you all.

Please come back to MN. let the lovely people here help you as much they/we can. Much love. x

PeachyIsNowAChristmasFruit · 02/12/2006 19:41

Oh MB

Poor D, yourself and your chldren- I am thinking of you all. I am sure you already know of the Bristol Cancer Help Centre for the purposed mentioned in the post below.

I am sending hopes that the journey will be as peaceful, full of love and free of trauma as possible. XXXX

7swansaswimmingup · 02/12/2006 19:41

oh mb im so sorry

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Blandmum · 02/12/2006 19:43

we discuss treament options on monday at 9.

I reality this is just to make the time better, and possibly a little longer. The cancer is very agressive and has already spread. The cosultant said a'good' outcome would be a year or two.

I know enough to know that it isn't going to be that long, but I am not going to take that away from dh atm.

The nurse told me that they an control his symptoms so as to give us 'good' time. He cried about the kids. Such a kind sweet man. He doesn't deserve this.

I don't think I will come back after this

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BethleCAM · 02/12/2006 19:43

I'm going to pray for you and your dh MB

I've always read your wonderfully intelligent posts esp. about education.

StrawberrySnowflakes · 02/12/2006 19:45

i can understand you want to be with your dh, but dont sever ties here, you may need to 'speak' to someone anonomously, let of steam, whatever..you are going to need an ear wether it be in RL or her...am thinking of you all.xxxx

Posey · 02/12/2006 19:46

Sat here for 10 minutes trying to find something useful to say. There is nothing I can say that will help, except that by seeing how many people are sending you love and prayers, you will gain a little strength to help you in the days ahead.

Chandra · 02/12/2006 19:46

MB I'm very sorry to hear the pancreatic cancer diagnosis, it has touched our lives in 4 occasions, there's a difficult road ahead but I woould like to pass on to you two things that were told to us and which were totally true:

  • Pain control has developed so much that your DH will feel so good he will try to convince you he is no longer ill.
  • Don't waste time, any time, in irrelevant things, spend time together, go out if he feels reasonable well, concentrate in putting to good use every single minute with him.

Many, many hugs MB

theXmaskedposter · 02/12/2006 19:47

love to you and your family

xxx

santasdoingtheironing · 02/12/2006 19:48

I cant belive that I have never met you yet I am crying
I havent prayed in a while but tonight I know that I will pray for the strength which you both need.
Take Care xx

Earlybird · 02/12/2006 19:51

Oh MB, I am so so sorry. It's hideous. I wish there was something we could say/do to comfort you and your dh. Thoughts and prayers are with you. xxx

JoolsToo · 02/12/2006 19:51

It's just not fair! It's all bollox! None of you deserve to go through this!

You are all in my thoughts. I pray that you can enjoy the time you have together.

JTx

pedilia · 02/12/2006 19:52

there are no adequate words, thinking of all of you xxx

myrrhthamoo · 02/12/2006 19:56

Oh mb, I don't have any words. Your love for him shines through in your posts. It's just so bloody unfair. Make the most of this time together. I'm so sorry.

NotActuallyAMum · 02/12/2006 19:56

MB you gave me so much help and advice regarding school issues when my dsd came to live wih us, I'll never forget that

Don't know what else to say, but PLEASE don't forget all of us on here if you need any help

Best wishes to you all

xxxx

BettySpaghetti · 02/12/2006 19:58

So sorry to hear this.
Thinking of you all xx