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------------ MY HUSBAND IS MISSING ---- Last Seen Macclesfield

129 replies

choosyfloosy · 02/12/2006 15:11

Hi, I'm a long-term Mnetter but have changed my name recently.

My husband left the house (in Oxford) at 4pm on Thursday saying he was going to put petrol in the car. I haven't seen him since. He has spoken to his brother, most recently at 7am on Friday 1 Dec. His car has been found in Macclesfield and he was last seen at a chip shop in Macclesfield at 4pm on Friday. He has an illness and came off his medication 3 weeks ago.

The police etc are on the case, but I'm a great believer in pursuing all avenues. If you have any information, please post it here or call the National Missing Persons Helpline free on 0500 700 700. Also please, if you live in the area, please talk about it to people you meet. Someone MUST have seen him.

My husband is 6.4 with grey/black hair (think George Clooney) and very strong features with large deepset eyes. He is probably wearing glasses and may not have shaved for 3 days or so. He is probably also very warmly dressed.

Thanks x

OP posts:
lulumama · 05/12/2006 17:29

tea time bump

Jam77 · 05/12/2006 20:02

evening bump x

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choosyfloosy · 05/12/2006 20:20

NEWS. OK, Dh was 'sighted' by the police at some point this afternoon in an unspecified location. They felt he seemed fine, and he doesn't want to be contacted or to talk to anyone. So that's it.

Of course I am really, really relieved that he has turned up and OK. But otherwise, having held it togehter for five days, I am destroyed. I have no idea when he will want to come home, if ever.

I've asked for the main thread to be deleted.

I cannot thank all posters, bumpers, lurkers and thinkers enough. THANK YOU.

If you are thinking of donating to charity this Christmas and haven't decided to whom, allow me to recommend the National Missing Persons Helpline, who were brilliant.

OP posts:
lulumama · 05/12/2006 20:21

choosy.......((hug)) hope he comes home... what else to say?

Lilliput · 05/12/2006 20:24

You must be so relieved and yet frustrated that you can't talk to him. Please let everyone know how things turn out, I hope he finds the strength to come home. Still thinking of you.

Paddlechick666 · 05/12/2006 21:19

choosy, had same with my dh, police advised even if they sighted him all they could do was ask him to get in touch with home.

this is so awful and frustrating for you.

the only thing that worked consistantly over a period of several weeks with my dh was unconditional love and support.

hard as that was to offer sometimes, if i flipped out on text or email (i was lucky in that i knew he would check both) it only served to push him further away.

good luck, get in touch with me if you'd like to talk.

pc666
ps: relieved that he's been sighted and is safe

Dingdongdebbsyandbibbyonhigh · 05/12/2006 21:22

so glad he has been safe and sound.Sending you a huge hug choosy (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
and one for your dh who i hope finds the strength to come home ((((((((hugs)))))))))

whatwouldjesusdo · 05/12/2006 22:20

sorry you are going through all this, choosy, and send you best wishes to sort everything out.

MerrilyTooBuzzi · 05/12/2006 22:31

So pleased you had some news. Hope for better news to follow in the next few weeks for you and your family and he'll get in touch.

HumphreyCushiONtheFirstNoel · 05/12/2006 22:36

choosy, so glad your DH has been sighted safe and well. I hope he gets in touch with you soon. Sending positive vibes and best wishes.

bizzi · 05/12/2006 23:15

Still thinking of you and so sorry for your crap position. Thank god he's safe and now I wish you all the strngth you'll need to keep going for your boy's sake, he needs you. I do hope your dh comes home to you both soon.
Big hugs. xx

mamama · 06/12/2006 00:14

Phew. Glad he's been seen safe and sound. Still thinking of you though. {hug}

fortyplus · 06/12/2006 01:03

choosyfloosy - I was really pleased when I saw your thread had been deleted as I thought it meant he was back home with you.
I'm glad you know that he's safe, but will keep everything crossed for you that he comes back before Christmas. xx

PeachyIsNowAChristmasFruit · 06/12/2006 08:05

Sending you lots and lots of hugs to sustain you over the next few days. I hope he gets back in touch soon. You seem such a caring, warm and suppotive lady.

Leander · 06/12/2006 09:14

oh choosy im so glad he is safe,I hope you and your dc are ok, sending you big hugs and hope things work out. xxx

sahmtotwo · 06/12/2006 09:31

Choosey (((((((((hugs))))))))) to you.
I am pleased he has been sighted and appears well.
I prayer that he will come home to you soon and you can sort things out.
I will continue holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Hattiecat · 06/12/2006 10:35

Big hugs to you choosy - i heard about him on the local news (silk fm) yesterday and heard you being interviewed - really felt for you. i hope this all sorts itself out for all of you.

XMASisFULLofFestiveMusicLovers · 06/12/2006 10:57

Thankgod for that choosy, only just seen this thread & I live in Macclesfied. You dont expect to see a little town like macc on ere.
Hope all is well. Big relief

littlemissbossy · 06/12/2006 10:58

I was one of the lurkers, very pleased to hear that he's been seen and I hope he's home soon

SHHHHsantaiscoming · 06/12/2006 15:58

choosyfloosy glad to hear he's been sighted well and ok. Just hope he is home before christmas.
Hope things work out for you and your family. xx

lulumama · 06/12/2006 16:27

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ClementClarkeMoore · 06/12/2006 16:35

Glad to hear he is safe and well but I really feel for you.

Why do people do this? I know I shouldn't judge but just look at the upset he's left behind. How can things be so bad that you can't just say 'it's over'? Was he depressed?

StrawberrySnowflakes · 06/12/2006 16:38

so glad you mind is at rest re him being safe but .that he wont come home right now.. for you and children that is.xx

Steppy1 · 06/12/2006 16:46

..what a relief for you...

....but this must be like an emotional roller coaster ride for you. I really hope everything works out for you and your family....

naughtynoonoo · 06/12/2006 20:09

choosy - I have been following your threads and was the first thing I looked for when I log on. Glad he has been sighted and home he returns home to you and children soon, take care now and god bless x

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