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Fag Free Few................New Fresh Thread

523 replies

charliebat · 16/10/2006 19:32

Hello

OP posts:
notasheep · 13/11/2006 22:59

Crikey-its busy on here
Hello all of you.
Its soooooooo bloody hard to quit and we all know that on here.
Nicotine will not make us happy,calm us down,make that meal enjoyable! but it will brainwash us to make us think that is the case.

My Mother is 77yrs old and fit and well,i hope to follow suit.If i have a fag i will cry.

Alice,Smokegets and Kelly its fantastic that you are on here-one day at a time and before you know it will be Christmas
The Nicotine Monster will try all it can to be fed-when i first gave up i would shout and swear at it to go away,its working

OMG!!!!!!!!!!! I have just seen a ghastly photo on whyquit-CC have you seen it on the smoking meter page?

notasheep · 13/11/2006 23:00

Cigarettes CAUSE the stress

SGIME · 13/11/2006 23:04

IM - yes indeed I am posting under a different name! It is my attempt to keep anything else here unpolluted by any other threads/chats/whatever!!! At mo. this is BY FAR the most important to me. ..when I have some days or weeks under my belt I will "come out"!!

The concern and support her is fab, and am looking forward already to the day when I am in a better place to repay this to other wannabees free of this curse.....22h 33m and 18 not smoked!!

SGIME · 13/11/2006 23:05

Nota - is it the one of the bloke in bed with his partner and child bedside? Or is there something worse???

Kelly1978 · 13/11/2006 23:07

notaheep, I kept teeling myself that, why do I find it so ahrd to belive now!! When I quite i felt that ciggies caused the stress and now I feel scared of the strss by quitting

notasheep · 13/11/2006 23:08

Yep that one,cant get it out of my head

How are you?

notasheep · 13/11/2006 23:13

Kelly-I am the serial quitter,I have lost count how many times i have stopped so i know ALL the excuses.
My dp smokes-i use to use him as an excuse

Read Why quit/Allen Carr till you know it by heart!!!!!!!!
You need to get your head in the right place then you WILL do it

notasheep · 13/11/2006 23:15

Cigarettes are THE DEVIL

SGIME · 13/11/2006 23:17

Nota - am really fine thanks! - was a bit fearful of the post-run demand, but a friend popped round shortly after so that helped to keep my mind off it.

Kelly - that IS part of the mind trick. You've recreated something in your mind, that doesn't actually exist! You are responding to an anxiety of how you will react to something. Your reaction WILL be nothing like you fear it will be.

notasheep · 13/11/2006 23:24

SGIME-well done you on your first day,have a smug moment.Get into bed and say i havent had a fag today!!!!!!!!! and wake up tomorrow and say today i wont smoke.
On a very serious note Day 3 WILL be your worse then its all down hill,the Nicotone will be gone,then you just have your brain to deal with

SGIME · 13/11/2006 23:28

ihr and 4 mins to go..am in bed already! ...and yes will have a VERY smug moment then!! So looking forward to tomorrow morning. Trying to contain the giddyness and get all fanfarish...it starts again tomorrow!

notasheep · 13/11/2006 23:32

And remember you are NOT giving anything up,if you think like that then you will feel you are depriving yourself of something.

Allen Carr quote(first of many probably)
if we were designed to smoke we would have a chimney coming out of our head

Have a good day tomorrow

SGIME · 14/11/2006 00:29

23h, 59mins - "IT's Just Another Day.."

Kelly1978 · 14/11/2006 01:47

'not giving anything up' how does tht work - sounds good and true at same time!!

SGIME · 14/11/2006 02:18

I know it as "giving yourself something back" i.e. you lived without cigs before, healthier and happier..all you are missing is a life of anxiety and negative thoughts about yourself and your inability to stop smoking.

If you look at it as a 'trade off', stopping smoking wins EVERY time.

aliceband · 14/11/2006 07:59

I started smoking aged 11, my ds now in year 7, which is what i was in when i had my first puff. I would be appalled if he started.

charliecat · 14/11/2006 11:43

You not giving anything up in the sense that smoking is dragging you down.
You will be regaining your lungs, your self esteem and the achievement that you have won the battle that many, sadly never fail to achieve.

notasheep · 14/11/2006 14:20

SGIME- How is day 2 going for you?

Ifriend-i think we are in the same cafe with those weak kind of moments and with same pattern of stopping.I am sat here now with a strong black coffee and a passing thought of having a fag HOWEVER i am being all grown up,sensible and cant kid myself any longer.
Nicotine brainwashes

SGIME · 14/11/2006 17:08

I smoked today. Lapsed.

Just stubbed last one out at 5pm ( had 4) and re-set clock.

Work. Got very ratty. Smoking didn't help of course. Again, a sense of relief as it went under the running tap. Staying busy tonight. Having a veggie dinner, fruit and some juice.

Feel like I should be apologising. But best apology would be to not do it again. Off to get some mints.......

SGIME · 14/11/2006 17:09

So hate this struggle.

charliecat · 14/11/2006 17:54

Well Id be lying if I said id never done that.
A lesson learnt for you!
Well done for resetting the counter and getting on with it. Its a life long learning curve

SGIME · 14/11/2006 19:19

Thanks Charliecat. I also know what went wrong. No gameplan, no planning ahead, just wondered blithely into it...God I sound like a Strictly Come Dancing Judge........."2"!

Just thought 'as I want it to happen, it will.' Well bollocks to that. It ain't happening again.

charliecat · 14/11/2006 19:21

Its not bloody easy Ill tell you that, its a sight lot easier to run after a fag and smoke it than it is to deal with 10 hours of nagging brain cells telling you that you really DO need it/want it and it wouldnt be that bad after all!

southeastastra · 14/11/2006 19:31

sigme sounds like me! hehe. i think i need to have a week where i can concentrate on it and not have everyday distractions.

imaginaryfriend · 14/11/2006 21:22

SGIME, try to go with the failures and not let them deter you completely. I've had tons and tons of them but kept on starting again and suddenly it stuck. But reading about your struggle brings it all back to me. It really is very hard to go cold turkey. But you can do it.

SEA, I think it's all well and good waiting for that 'perfect week' in which to quit but for me that moment never came, in fact just became a way of me postponing the inevitable.

My brother's partner downloaded a load of those quitting smoking t.v. ads where people dying of lung cancer talk about it. Every time he fancied a puff he put one of those on on his computer. I did something more in my head, I conjured up a horrible moment of being diagnosed with cancer and the hatred I'd feel for myself that I might have caused it by smoking.

notasheep, yes, that keeps happening to me at the moment too. Strange considering we've both gone for a good month now with rarely thinking of fags. Maybe this is a common phase? I do think I've heard of people starting again at the 3 month quit mark. And I know I've found myself drifting back almost despite myself. But those cravings I'm having are nothing like I remember having in the beginning ... grusome!

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