Recovering from a haemorrhoidectomy . . . warning: TMI alert . . .

[Puffykins]

Has anybody ever had a heamorrhoidectomy, and if so, please can you tell me how long recovery took? I'm on day 12 now, and am still in considerable pain - I can't walk anywhere except the bathroom for the endless baths I take, can barely sit up unless I'm on my special donut cushion and even then only last up to 45 minutes. I have two young children, and I just feel that this is so unfair on them. And I'm getting kind of depressed about my lack of progress. I need someone to give me hope. Please?!
(P.S. If anyone is considering having one: strongly consider it. I've never experienced anything more painful than the first 4 days post op, EVER. I would gladly have given birth every day rather than going through the pain I was subject to.)

Hey @AusLady! Feeling a bit better today. Less pain than yesterday, but something's not right. I'm pretty sure I have a new hemmie as I can feel a lump, although it's not painful, but I've got that feeling like I need a BM, but there's nothing to pass. I had stopped using the rectogesic a while back, but started again when the bleeding started up to try and help heal things. I'm not having any bleeding now, so might try without for a few days and see how things go. I'm desperate to use my hemmie cream (scheriproct), but the steroid in it can cause skin to thin, which is the last thing I need. Arghh! Feel like I'm in a catch 22 situation. I'm praying that I haven't got a new hemmie, but that fear is always there and that's the conclusion I jump to when things don't feel right. I'm just at a loss of what to do for the best

Not having my BM at normal time would worry me too, and we shouldn't be living life like that. I still worry about leaving the house before I've been, and just wish that 2-3 BMs would finally become 1! I'm pleased that you did go and there were no issues, other than the usual ache. My husband keeps telling me to think positive thoughts, and I'm trying, but sometimes it's just so hard isn't it? I'm ready to get off this bloody roller coaster, but am so pleased I'm not alone on the ride x

Just thinking that I'm 3 months tomorrow and my surgeon said that my internal stitches would last about 3 months before they started to dissolve. I wonder if that could be what's causing me the pain and discomfort as I also noticed an increase in mucus yesterday and I haven't had any of that in a while?

Hey @Disneylover1. Hope you are feeling better today? I think you might be right with those internal stitches. It's just hard to know when you can't see what's going on.
I'm very frustrated as well. Had bleeding again yesterday but none today. I didn't do anything different either so I'm unsure why. And BMS havent changed. If it happens again in the next week I think I'll email my surgeon and ask why it would still be happening.
I was researching the daflon 500.... think you need a prescription in Aus though.... So I'll just stick to my vitamin c and magnesium. Lol. So do you think you might have an internal hemmie? That is if you have one.... I'm paranoid about getting another one too . 🤞 we will be ok.

Hope everyone else is going ok too.

Hi @AusLady. Well, the past 2 days have been better than the previous 2. I started taking my morning fybogel again and yesterday's and today's BMs have been better. Still some discomfort when going, but the pain isn't as bad afterwards and subsides much quicker. I've stopped using the rectogesic though to see how I get on and there's been no blood, so that's good. Although, I know that could change any day for no apparent reason! Sorry to hear you had bleeding again - so frustrating, especially when you can't figure out why. I just feel like we're doing everything right with watching our diets, exercise, drinking water, supplements etc, but getting over this final hurdle of recovery is sooooo hard!
I haven't had the hemmie feeling again, so it might have just been some swelling as I was having a couple of bad days. Who knows? I'm surprised Daflon 500 is prescription only as it's a herbal supplement. Maybe things are more tightly regulated in Aus? I have no idea if it's doing anything though, but will keep taking it until I'm fully healed - whenever that might be!
Hope your return to work has been okay after your holiday xxx

@ AusLady and @ Disneylover1 I’m just fed up now, had a whole week with no bleeding at all, then just a little bit on wiping, now back to dripping in bowl afghhhhh and it feels sore again so I must of opened up the new healing skin! So frustrating!

Hi @Dizzyali77 - oh no, that's so annoying for you! I thought you might have been fully recovered now as you haven't been on here for a while, so sorry to hear that you're still going through it. It's the most frustrating recovery isn't it? Doesn't help that we can't see what's going on inside either. I'm hoping the bleeding stops again for you soon🤞

@Disneylover1 Thank you, haven’t been on much as I’ve been working everyday and longer days as it’s busy time now. And my daughter has been struggling also so it’s all been a lot stressful and hectic.

Disnetylover1 and Auslady thank you both for your responses. It's defo comforting to know that your not on your own. I'm so sorry to hear your still not 100% Disneylover1, and I completely agree it's a slow and frustrating process. I really wish I never had this done. I can understand the down days and having a good cry. The last 4 days have been utter hell for me. After each BM I've been is chronic pain for about 5hrs after, then to add insult to injury I got constipated (don't know how as I have changed a thing in my diet or water intake) so that was killing me. Begged my partner to get me some prune juice yesterday and drunk 2 huge cups 😱 well you can imagine what happened. I went the other way 🤦🏻‍♀️. The only good thing about that is that I didn't have that chronic pain.

Hats off to you Auslady for returning to work at 4 weeks. I wish I had your strength. I don't even work, I have a 3yr old and 7 mo th old twins and I need my parents and partner to help out as when I'm in that pain from the BMs I can't seem to think of anything but the pain. I have taken on board the lip thing and keeping mouth relaxed, I think that's help, or at least it's giving me something else to concentrate on lol. Can you use Anusol? I didn't even know. What would you both say the best cream is to use? I've just been using Vaseline. I've also been having salt baths and they defo take a slight edge off the pain.

Hope you both are doing well. Today I'm in discomfort but no pain. I'm scared to have another BM and going back to that pain for hrs afterwards. I'm trying to explain the anxiety to my partner and he don't get it. I feel like I'm in a abusive relationship or being bullied at school (by my BMs) and once it arrives I know it's going to cause me horrible pain. It's a bad analogy but that all I could think to explain how scared I am to go to the loo 🤦🏻‍♀️.

When did you guys notice the pain reducing after your BMs? I'm 5 weeks post op now and I hate life as we know it 😭💕

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Hi @Disneylover1. Happy to hear that your hemmie feeling has gone. Must be a relief?! I still don't have bleeding so that's a relief for me.... Let's hope we don't have either again. I had a look at mine last night.... Lol, still lumpy looking, no hemmies. But as long as it's going to be 100% healed I don't give a flying fork what it looks like. 🤣
So I'm the same, bit of pain still while going but recovery is a lot quicker. But I can still feel my bum all day, you? Uncomfortable achy feeling. Not as much of a pain... If that makes sense?
I had an appointment with dietitian for Monday but I've rescheduled it for a few more weeks. I'm not prepared yet to change my diet as I'm still not 100%. I don't want to take any chances of increasing the amount of BMS I have a day. 2 is enough.
So I survived my first week back at work with BMS. I woke up late this morning so I didn't get a chance for a walk. Kinda puts me out now if I don't get a chance for a walk in the morning. Lol

Hi @Dizzyali77. I was only just thinking about you the other day and if your bleeding had stopped. I'm really sorry to read it hasn't. It's very disheartening to see blood again and especially because you had a whole week of no pain or blood!! I hope it's only a quick set back and your pain and blood free again soon. Do you have anything to put on your bum to help it re-heal?
I hope your daughter gets better very soon.

Hi @Vangallie. I use anusol sometimes, it's fine for you to use, but it doesn't take away the pain. I used it and rectogesic more for helping with the healing of wounds. Try a heat pad as well on your bum when you can't get in the bath.
If you found having a really really soft BM helped with the after pain try drinking just half glass or a glass of prune juice a day? I stopped drinking prune juice because it was foul lol, but I drink a berrie juice in the morning and an orange juice through the day.... Just to be sure I won't get constipated!!
The same thing happened to me at about 3 weeks post op, constipated but nothing had changed in my diet. That's when I was worried I'd created a hemmie.... which I hadn't and my doctor told me to drink a glass of prune juice a day.
I know my BM pain receded gradually but for me I noticed a bigger difference at about 2 months post op. And I think I'm back to the gradual increments of healing again!! 😫
I totally understand the anxiety of having a BM. I told my husband I didn't want to go to sleep because I didn't want to wake up because that would mean another BM. It's a horrible feeling!!! And as much as anyone can sympathise regarding the pain we have with BMs they dont really understand how bad it can be. And how emotionally draining the whole operation is. I don't think I've cried so much in my life!!!
I'm glad to hear you're actually not feeling any pain today. That's great news!!
Just remember to breath deeply while having a BM cause it too helps take your mind off it Just a little bit. Lol.
I hope you feel better. ❤❤

Hi @Vangallie - sorry to hear that you've had a bad few days. It's a horrid recovery and there feels like there's no end in sight sometimes. I remember the chronic pain after BMs that lasts for hours well! Then once is disappeared, I would feel good. My day was one of 2 halves - morning BMs followed by 4-6 hours of pain and ache, which then would disappear and leave me feeling human again for the second half of the day. You do dread each BM though as you know the cycle will start again. Gradually, it becomes less and less though and you go from pain to discomfort, but it does seem to be very gradual. Another tip I read for keeping your lips relaxed when you're going is to breath out through them so they flap like a horse! I found that worked for me. Do you use a step or anything to raise your feet too? If you get your knees above hip height, BMs are easier to pass, and putting them on a step helps do that. The anxiety over going to the toilet is horrible though - fear of the pain, is it going to bleed, what is the pain going to be like afterwards etc. I'm 13 weeks today and still have some anxiety and slight discomfort when going and afterwards, but it's niggling rather than chronic, so I can get on with my day. I'm self employed which helps as I can flex my days around my bum if I need to. Hang in there - it does improve, but can take time, as many of us are discovering.

Hey @AusLady - yes, no hemmie feeling and no bleeding, so I am relieved about that. Still very lumpy and bumpy and not at all attractive, but I really don't care as long as it all heals up and I don't have any more problems. I still have a bit of discomfort when going and am tender around the hemmie removal site when I go and when I clean up afterwards. I'm hoping that will toughen up over time. Still using wet cotton wool pads at home, and take wipes with when I go out - just in case! I can still feel my bum all day too, even when the post BM discomfort has subsided. I hate that as it keeps it on my radar constantly. Do you ever get a throbbing/pulsing sensation? I've had that a bit recently and hope it's not a bad sign.

I've not booked to see my dietitian yet either as I'm not ready to reintroduce insoluble fibre. However, I'm pretty much eating what I did before surgery now, but have just adapted some of the veges and make sure I peel everything. My lunch of soup, cheese and crackers and the peeled pear was a post surgery thing, but I actually really enjoy it, so don't mind that for lunch. I work from home, so it's easy to make and I can vary the soup, cheese etc. I'm waiting for my bum to be completely pain free during BMs and afterwards before introducing insoluble fibre and then if there's a problem, I'll cut it straight out again!
I know what you mean about the walking. We're having bad weather here at the moment - more February than May! It's cold and wet, but I'm determined to get my walks in when there's a break in the weather. I can do the lengths at home if needed, but much prefer to be out with the dog. We got caught out yesterday - headed out with blue sky and walked towards black clouds which then opened on us and we got drenched! Do you know what though? It didn't bother me as I was out and living, not home, curled up in pain and praying for recovery. As frustrated as I am about how long it's taking, I try to remember that I'm much better than I was 6 weeks ago. I still have down days as it's hard to be strong and positive constantly, especially when you have a set-back, but we WILL all get there!

Hi @Dizzyali77 - sorry to hear that things are still bad for you, especially when you have so much to cope with at work and home. I hope this current bleed is just a blip and will clear up quickly. I know you said you were going back to see your gastro consultant who wanted to do some sort of internal check - did that happen?

@AusLady Thank you, it’s driving me nuts this recovery, soreness has eased but blood is dripping again when I go so something has happened in there. I haven’t got anything to use but I have ulcerative colitis and I have to use suppositories for that although I haven’t used one for a while as I thought it was making bum worse but I think I’m gonna have to try to use them again.
I go back to see my gastro dr ( not surgeon who did surgery as he’s discharged me) in four months and he wanted to do a camera last time but we both agreed I needed more healing time but I think when I do go next I think he will be wanting to do it but I just hope it all settles down by then.
Only thing I’m doing different is working longer hours and everyday as we’ve gone into the busy season but I dunno if that makes an impact and huge stress with my daughter and the eating disorder.
Hope your all well and have a good weekend 😊

Hi Everyone,

It’s been a few days so I thought I would check in. I wish I could say I was 100% and have a fabulous new butt hole but alas that isn’t the case. 2 weeks and 3days since operation. Pain is almost non existent. Sharp pain here and there if I sit too fast or get up too fast. Swelling still there, stuff sticking out still and every time I have a BM it’s horribly itchy, I just jump straight into the shower and spread my cheeks to get warm water on it ASAP. Once I throughly clean it I soak it in warm water but I can tell it swells back up after every BM, although not a huge amount but still uncomfortable. I am pretty sure these will turn into skin tags my doctor told me about and I am going to have to have them removed too... ouch. I have managed to get on more soluble diet and now have only 1 BM every two days. This helps because once BM hits I am crippled and a grouch. I can walk and I am 100% off any and all medication. For a while now.

Every passing day is a new beam of hope that this journey is almost over. I am usually very active, hot power yoga and I have a very demanding high pressure job that I love, including two kids, young ones so my life was in bit of a over drive filled with poor eating choices, overworking and perpetual mom guilt for feeling like I don’t do enough with my kids. Phone glued to my hand, taking business calls day and night so this has been a huge eye opener and a great lesson for me to slow down and that when I do nothing breaks... not that badly anyways. Tomorrow I am going out for a movie and this is my first step into the wild since surgery... I have no urgency related issues but I worry about having a BM and being uncomfortable afterwards. I also feel like I can’t eat whatever I want in fear of constipation so that’s a downer.

So to sum it up,

2 weeks and 3 days po.
•Still sore here and there.
•Absolutely no bleeding but still a bit of an odour, not as strong but I am very sensitive to BO so I find it hard to have this smell on me. Even after washing very good, comes back within min.
•left over tissue still sticking out and probably will turn into skin tags which the doc promised to remove easily in office.
•BM is not as frightening but is still dreaded.
•have not ventured out into society yet but will update.
•sitting on my bum is tolerable but still feel very apprehensive about this.
•there seems to be a significant improvement from week 2.

I hope @Disneylover1 and @AusLady are feeling better after the last few posts. You are our beacon of hope and no pressure but your recovery journey is my guide right now. Keep us posted. Thank you so much 😊

Hi everyone. So how was your weekend @Disneylover1? I hope all went well? I seemed to get slightly constipated? My BMs had to be given an extra few pushes.... I dont know why that was so I had a half glass of prune juice yesterday which seemed to help for today. But I'm like, FFS!!!! Is it because I didn't eat an apple on Friday cause I ran out of time..... or did I drink 250ml of water less then I should have, or did I not walk enough??? It's bloody doing my head in.
So I was looking on Amazon for that Daflon 500, and i can't get it shipped to Australia?? Lol. But I can buy it from EBay for $75. No thanks. Not sure why it's so hard to get here? I cannot find any reason on the net.
My BMs have not changed in the pain metre though. So other then the constipation I am no better or worse. Bleeding has stopped.... atm. Lol
I too got caught in the rain at Hervey Bay, I was glad that the weather was warmer up there though cause it was at night. Lol. Or I wouldn't have been happy. 🤣
One other thing, I seem to be waking up through the night for a wee, and then I'm awake for a couple of hours!!! Grrrr.... all this bloody water I'm drinking. Hope you are well. ❤😘

@Dizzyali77, is your job very physical and you think that is why your bleeding has started again? Or could it be from ulcerative colitis? Are you able to take Vitamin C or will that muck up your bowels? Vitamin c is really good for wound healing. I think the stress of your daughters anorexia would also play a part in your recovery. I really hope she can overcome this hurdle soon. And I also hope your bleeding has stopped again. ❤❤

Hey there @Womaninpain. You sound like you are definitely on the road to recovery!!! Awesome. Lol. But tell me.... what are you eating that you only have 1 BM every second day??? 🤔 I want 1 BM every day.
And like you, 1 thing this op showed me was that my health and family do come first, not work. And yeah, work will always be there when you return. Lol. How did you go at the movies? Where you able to sit all the way through it? Thank you for your concern regarding my recovery. I think my recovery will be slow but I will be 100% better soon. How far down the track will you get your skin tag/s removed. I couldn't think of anything worse at this moment! 😂😂 😘

Hey @Vangallie, how is your recovery going? Hope you are feeling better? 😘

Hi @AusLady,

Hope you have better luck with your BM, from what I read before from the previous posts general anesthetic messes your stomach up.
My diet right now is mostly, small oatmeal at 11ish with maple syrup and blueberries, I am really not a breakfast person and I am not hungry until about 11 or noon ish. Before my operation I used to have a big lunch but since operation I changed more to soluble diet like you ladies suggested. So oatmeal around 11am. Then I have 500ml of water with 2 tsp of organic matcha powder. This is something I always drink to help me with headaches, allergies and period pain. It also burns your metabolism 30% faster which helps fight weight gain!! It’s super healthy too. Then around 4ish I get hungry again and I’ll have a pear or pineapple or a few mixed nuts. Then for dinner I’ll have whatever the family is eating but I’ll eat a lot more salad or easy carbs, quinoa etc. But I do drink a lot of water. I did get back on stool softener after being off a couple days because I was scared my BM would be hard but it turned liquid again so definitely no stool softeners for me and just more blueberries. Generally I used to have 1 BM every morning but now 1 BM every 2 days in the morning.
I should mention this surgery made me lose a few kilos. Mostly in the beginning when I had no appetite whatsoever.

I went for avengers end game. I am a huge fan. Half way through the movie the fire alarm went off forcing us to evacuate. Once the firefighters turned off the alarm and deemed it nothing we went back in but the movie was still going on so we missed some scenes. Then after about fifty more min into the movie they paused it and asked if we wanted a rewind and by this time it was already 1130 and I was like no way but general consensus was yes so then we went back about an hour and a half and finished everything by 130 ish. So I sat from 9 then had to stand for about 30 min then sat down again till 130. I didn’t feel pain but it was uncomfortable and there was some pink ooze. The good news is today my butthole doesn’t smell as bad. Lol. But there is some swelling, I think from yesterday... so I spent the whole day lying down and taking it easy.
I do think yesterday was significant since it was my first outing and it proved easier and although slightly uncomfortable you can still function. From tomorrow, I am back at work, although my work is very flexible since I can set my own hours and often work from home on conference calls a lot, I do have to show up to some meetings. I didn’t schedule a big day, I am nervous, I haven’t tried my suits and dresses, I am just not sure how they will feel on my bum. Since I still have the swelling I don’t want to wear anything too tight or restrictive.

I have four week check up scheduled with my doc and I guess she will tell me at the check up when she will slice off my skin tags. From what she told me it’s something done at her office and not at the hospital. She said it was an easy and just slightly uncomfortable procedure but we all know that’s probably not true. I will keep you guys in the loop for when I get it done, what went down and how I feel 😅.
Have any of you used public toilets? I still have the terrible itch after BM and I am wondering how I am going to resolve that without sitz and cleaning it thoroughly with water...

Hi @Womaninpain - you're doing brilliantly well with your recovery and sound more like my recovery from my first operation. I was 100% by 4 weeks and flew to Florida for a 2 week holiday at Disney World at 5 weeks and my bum wasn't an issue at all - no pain, discomfort, swelling, blood, odour, itching etc. It sounds like you won't have the long, drawn out recovery that some if us are having, and I really hope that proves to be the case for you :)

The cinema sounds like a bit of an ordeal with the fire alarm etc, but at least it showed you that you can function in the real world still. I was barely leaving my bed or the bathroom at 2.5 weeks, so you're doing great. I did go and see it last night though - 13.5 weeks post op!

The swelling does go down, but it takes time, and the itch disappears too, but is horrible as you can't scratch it! For public toilets I carry baby wipes which are just water, and also some damp cotton wool pads in a ziplock bag. I also have a little handheld mirror so I can check on things back there.

Regarding the skin tags, I would see how you get on with them before having them removed. I had them and they didn't really bother me, but thought I'd get the biggest one removed when I had my second op and that areas has caused me more discomfort than where the hemmie was removed. Personally, I won't have any more cutting down there unless it's absolutely necessary!

Hey @AusLady - how are you doing? Has the slight constipation cleared up? It's so frustrating trying to figure it all out isn't it? I'm now at 3 BMs in the morning instead of 2 and not sure why. Have a big one to start, then medium, then a small one to finish. Why it can't just all come out together, I have no idea!!! Pain when going is a lot less though - none with the first BM, then just slight discomfort with the second and third BM, and no bleeding still, so I'm grateful for that. Do you find that your BMs get looser as they progress? My first one is nice soft formed pieces (5 on the Bristol stool chart), but by the time I have my third, it's a lot looser - more like type 6. I find the looser stuff more uncomfortable to pass than the soft formed stuff So, I'm now on a mission to get it all like number 5, and then eventually 4-5. I'm not sure if insoluble fibre would help with this, but still a bit scared to add it as I don't want the bleeding to start up again. Also, do you ever get a throbbing/pulsing sensation in your bum? I do occasionally, and am not sure why or if it's normal.

I wonder if the Daflon is because it's a European supplement and there just isn't a distributor for Australia? May be a business opportunity for you there

Busy week for me this week with 5 wedding, 3 consultations and a load of preparation to do for a last minute booking for a Great Gastby themed ball for next Tuesday, so I need my bum to cooperate!

@Vangallie - how are you doing now?

Hey @womaninpain, hope your return to work went well? You could try proctosedyl for the itch? And I didn't think you ate much to only have 1 BM every second day lol.
So pleased you are feeling really good and the movies was a success! Even if it went a lot longer then you'd planned.
And yeah I've used public toilets lol. I carry baby wipes in a zip lock bag in my pocket as I don't always have a handbag. That could help with your itch? But basically you have to put up with it.... till it decides to go away!!! 😫
But with the skin tags, I know Disneylover1 has pain where hers was removed, but I know someone who had there's removed and said it was fine? But I'm with @Disneylover1 lol... ain't no knives going anywhere near my butt unless vitally important!! 😁. But please let me know how you go.❤❤

Hey @Disneylover1, glad you are feeling better!!! So I'm the opposite to you with the BM pain, 1st is always more painful and 2nd (sometimes 3rd) less so. I had a really good day yesterday. All BMs were pretty painless, and my butt had no aches or irritation all day. Then this morning my 1st BM was back to same as Monday and achey most of the day!! And my BM times were all over the shop. 6.30 am, 9.30 am then 12.30 pm!!! Doesn't bother me like it used to though.
My BMs used to be the same as yours, 1st firm and rest looser as they went. But now they are all the same in consistency and amount. Well the last few days anyway, who knows what tomorrow will bring.
Ummm, I can't say I recall a throbbing sensation in my butt? I sometimes used to get a sharp pain which I read was the nerves that had been cut firing up again. But I have noticed in the last week I'll sometimes get a pain in the specific area I had one of my hemmies removed, never in both spots at the same time. I always had the pain in the whole anus. Strange.
I know what you mean bout the insoluble fibre, I'm still not going to eat it yet in regards to skin on fruit, nuts anything too hard cause I don't want to accidentally scratch anything. I do eat hummus though on cruskits.

I think all in all I'm about 95%. Soon to be 100%. 🤣🤣
I hope your week and bum go well this week!! ❤❤

Hi @AusLady! Yeah, I think I'm about 95% too, but how hard is the final 5%?! Nearly 100 days since this operation (I know because of my food/BM diary), so you'd think we'd be well past any issues!
However, I'm pleased to report that I stall haven't had any more bleeding (Hope I haven't just jinxed myself!) :) However, this mornings first BM was quite large and with how much I was stretching and how it felt, I was sure I was going to see blood on wiping, but there wasn't any, which was a huge relief. Felt quite tender though! I'm hoping that means things are definitely healing and getting stronger and now it's just a case of getting rid of the tenderness. I also thought that I might have cracked the 1 BM goal as there was a lot and I felt really empty afterwards, but 2 hours later there was another smaller one which felt like sandpaper coming out That left me very tender a sore, but still no blood :) I don't think it's anything I ate making it feel like that, I think it was probably due to feeling sore due to the big stretch from the first one. It was a 'rocket' BM too - you know those ones here your bum just seems to spit them out at the speed of a rocket! Or is it only me that gets them? So, maybe a combination of speed and a sore stretched bum made it hurt more? It took a while to wear off, but once it did I felt fine. I think the skin has healed but just needs to toughen up now. Wonder how long that will take How I long for days of pain free BMs! We will all get there though and I'll be so happy and relieved for all of us when we do :)

Hope everyone has a good weekend x

Well, it looks like I jinxed myself as the blood is back 😭 Not a lot, just a smear, but it's there which means things haven't progressed as well as I'd hoped 😞

Hey @Disneylover1.... sorry to read you've had a bit of blood again! Its soooo frustrating hey? I too had the same through the week but all cleared up now. For today anyway. 🤞 I haven't had the same pain free feeling I had on Tuesday which is really upsetting. I was hoping I was on the last hurdle... 😫😩
Lol, I know what you mean about the rocket though! It's sometimes good cause it's all over so quickly, but then I worry I may have torn something. And am always relieved when I don't see blood.
I really wish we were both pain and blood free, I can't wait for that day we are!!!
I seem to be down to 2 BM a day, but the 2nd can be quiet late in the morning. No constipation though. Thank God.
I hope end up having a good weekend. ❤❤

Also @Disneylover1, have you seen this or heard about it

www.pranicura.com

Hey @AusLady - I know, it's crap isn't it? Just when you think things are FINALLY heading in the right direction, something happens again to set you back It's been 14 weeks for us FFS - surely that's long enough! I just don't understand it as I healed within 4 weeks last time, so what's causing this time to take soooooo long? The pain afterwards isn't as bad and doesn't linger as long, so I can get on with life, but I just want to be able to forget about my arsehole altogether!
I'm glad that it isn't just me that has rocket BMs lol! They are strange aren't they? Almost like our bums are protesting their presence and just want to get rid of them as quickly as possible!
My 2nd BM seems to be getting later too, which I'm not happy about as I like to have both out of the way before I leave the house. I've not yet had a BM in a public toilet or when I've been at a venue working, and I'm a bit anxious about that. I'm hoping the next one comes in the next 40 minutes as we need to leave to decorate a wedding then. If anything, I was hoping they're gradually get closer together and finally become 1 BM, but they seem to be going the other way!
Glad to hear that you're constipation free still and hopefully we'll both have a good weekend x

@AusLady - no, never come across pranicura, but will have a look in to it. Will look at anything that might help!

I thought of you @Disneylover1 when I read about pranicura so thought it might be helpful?
I've used public toilets so I'm not anxious about it anymore. But I have been lucky they are all clean and well maintained.

You sound how I feel!!!! Very pissed off w e still have pain and bit of bleeding with BMS! 14 weeks!!!! It's not bloody cricket!!!
Yes my pain recedes not long after BM now too. But I've still got that achey feeling for rest of day. 😡

Hi @AusLady - how was your weekend? My BMs were still painful, like passing sandpaper, but no more blood. Then yesterday I had a surprise afternoon BM in addition to my normal morning one! What's that all about? Anyway, this morning's BM was less painful, so hopefully that's subsiding again. I just don't know what caused the sudden increase in pain over the past few days, and that's one of the most frustrating things about all of this. If we knew, we could avoid or correct.

Other than that, my weekend was pretty good. The post BM pain subsides pretty quickly and I don't have any ache or anything that lingers for the rest of the day. The sun finally came out yesterday too and looks to be sticking around for a while, so that will make getting out for walks a lot easier. I've also dug out my old aerobic step and am going to use that a bit in the evening whilst watching TV. Just stepping up and down on it to mimic having a walk and get the blood pumping.

My thoughts have turned to sex though as it's my 19th wedding anniversary in just over 2 weeks and I'd like to celebrate properly, but I'm still worried about going there in case it causes problems. As crazy as it might sound, my hemmies were always worse after sex/orgasms and I'm sure it's all related due to increased blood flow in that area etc, hence the apprehension and worry about getting physical again. I'm so grateful that my husband is patient and supportive.

Hope you had a good weekend, and that this week brings us both some progress x