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DD was sick a couple of times during the night and I've sent her to school

110 replies

sandyballs · 28/09/2006 10:36

but I'm feeling guilty now. I know its not a bug, she has a cough and lying down in bed made her sick when she coughed. She seemed ok this morning and ate two bowls of cereal, should I have kept her off?

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ills · 28/09/2006 21:52

Lucykate how can you say100% she didn't have a bug as well. Probabaly the case but nobody can be sure. Sh could have gone to school vomited and infected all the other children. How would you feel if your dd/ds was in that class

Thomcat · 28/09/2006 21:54

I think a mother can judge whether her child is ill or just couighed and made herself sick.

Blossomhill · 28/09/2006 21:55

I am actually shocked that anyone would do this. If my children are sick for whatever reason and it wakes them up in the night then no way are they going to school. I want them at home with me where I can keep a close eye. You cannot really know 100% it's not a bug and so unfair to spread to others.
Same as if they have a temperature I don't send them in.

lisalisa · 28/09/2006 21:55

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lucykate · 28/09/2006 21:57

i can't say 100%, i'm just going off reading the op's posts and the fact that, as i said earlier, my dd suffers the same. every time she has a cough, she's sick. nothing to do with it being bug or anything, she has a weak stomach muscle, so i have in the past had to make the same decision about whether to send her to nursery or not.

Thomcat · 28/09/2006 22:01

Oh well I'm not getting into an argument on behalf oif Sandyballs and hr OP.

Lottie has been sick becasue she's downed a load of milk, coughed and then bought the milk back up as she's coughing.

I've sent her into school.

If that pisses you off then ..... well, then we'll just have to hate me for it, I'm obviously a terrible irresponsible nother in your eyes, fine.

Lottie has also seemed off colour, not quite been herslef and I've kept her off school, but I haven't kept her off for throwing up her milk when she's coughed.

nearlythree · 28/09/2006 22:02

Me and the dds had a bug in March that was a cough that made us throw up. It then later caused a high temp too. Dd1 was very ill, dd2 was admitted to hospital with suspected menigitis and I (at 7 mo pg) ended up on a drip.

You can never be sure what things will develope into unless you give it 24-48 hrs.

ills · 28/09/2006 22:02

Totally agree Blossomhill. Why would you want to send an ill child to school they are going to be tired, miserable, upset and not learn anything.

puff · 28/09/2006 22:03

I agree Thomcat - it's a sensible judgement call. Ds1 was sick in the night once, as he is so rarely sick it was a shock and I thought he would have to stay off school the next day. But, he was fine in the morning, right as rain, no
temp, no tummy probs so I sent him to school.

Kids do puke up with a cough in the night as they are lying prone (my nephews do this), but are otherwise ok.

I'm very anti parents sending ill children in to school (am ex teacher who has been on the receiving end of some vile lurgies - worst being a horrendous bout of impetigo where my face looked like one huge scab) but I'd probably have done the same as the OP.

Thomcat · 28/09/2006 22:06

NOONE IS SAYING YOU SHOULD SEND AN ILL CHILD INTO SCHOOL. WE ALL AGREE ON THAT

ills · 28/09/2006 22:09

BUT SCHOOLS ARE SAYING DO NOT SEND A CHILD WHO HAS VOMITED IN TO SCHOOL FOR 24-48 HOURS.

PcCOD · 28/09/2006 22:09

sotp hsouting fgs

PcCOD · 28/09/2006 22:10

or ill arrest youa ndg ive you all a curfeew

ills · 28/09/2006 22:11

sorry can i use bold

lucykate · 28/09/2006 22:12

ps, i have nominated oliveoil's post for quote of the week

oliveoil on Thursday, 28 September, 2006 12:01:22 PM

'I think I am a far better judge as to whether your dd could go to school, peering at my screen and tutting, than a real life mother who knows her child'

puff · 28/09/2006 22:12

hmm - our school doesn't say this and neither did the schools I taught in. If it was vomiting with diarrhoea, then yes they should definitely stay off.

ills · 28/09/2006 22:13

ours says D or V. Not shouting just using an abbreviation

Thomcat · 28/09/2006 22:14

oh dear, sorry was i shouting, i do apologise

Yes, but the i think a mother can make a sensible judgment call on whether their child coughed and bouht up some milk or if the child is being sick and could possibly have a bug. There is a difference. Perhaps you've never had a child that coughed and puked, I don't know, but it is very different to throwing up and it being the start of a bug.

anyway, boring myself now, going over the same point. Somone else is just going to come on and say 'outrageos disgusting can't believe your sent such a sick child to school, so irresponsible' , even though that didn't happen in this case or in my case, and it'll keep going round and round so i'm off.

misdee · 28/09/2006 22:15

but the title says she was sikc a couple of times during the night.

Blossomhill · 28/09/2006 22:16

The op stated that her child was sick twice in one night. So that could mean a bug.

ills · 28/09/2006 22:16

Me too off to bed. Just have a DD who had bad reflux and when has a cold and cough vomits if coughs to much. Always feel she is too ill to send in then anyway

misdee · 28/09/2006 22:17

is the cough contagious?

ills · 28/09/2006 22:18

she is 3 and is always tired as the cough woke her up multiple times.

iarose · 28/09/2006 22:21

if either of my two seem poorly overnight, but i'm not sure if there is something up or not, sometimes i just keep them at home for the morning to see how it goes, and have taken DS into school at breaktime before (he does have a habit of hamming it up to get a day off sometimes... then after a while he forgets to play sick and is ok!!).
A mum at my old school used to boast how her dd never ever had a day off sick, even if she really was sick, as that was how her dad had brought her up - to be stoic and just get on with it. She told me i was soft for letting DD have a day off with a bad cold!!!! It really pissed me off - how selfish on other kids to just spread every bug and germ around. Also I agree with what others have said that a poorly tired kid does not belong at school and it's not fair on them to have to be at school when not in good health.

LittleSarah · 28/09/2006 22:27

Hmmm...

Going to work and dd going to school V

Both of us lying on the sofa in PJs watching DVDs...