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I am too fat, please help me to have the willpower to lose some weight.

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colditz · 21/09/2006 22:31

I did my BMI on one of those charts, and it was 34! I am horrified. I have always been overweight, but have never been this heavy in my life - bizarrly my 4 year old jeans have survived two babies and still fit, but maybe they are growing with me?

But this is more of a health thing than an appearance thing. I obviously am carrying too much weight and most of it is on my front and waist - not good. I am only 26. I don't want to be like this for the rest of my life. The minute I start to think about dieting, it makes me want to eat crap. I eat too much, even when it is good healthy food, I eat too much of it!

Please give me a pep talk that will keep me going! I am going to keep a food diary on here, to make me face it

1 fried egg sandwich
1 sausage
1 and 1/2 burger
2 and 1/2 white bread rolls
good handful of salad
5 small new potatoes
1 tablespoon fried onions.
2 cans lemonade
1 small piece of gateau
1 options hot chocolate.

I know. It's appalling.

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ledodgyrobespierre · 21/09/2006 22:33

I was/am the same as you and I started slimming world 4 weeks ago and have already lost 13 pounds, it's the best diet i've ever done as I don't even feel i'm on a diet and if anything am eating more than before. I do go to the group which deffo helps with willpower as the thought of being weighed every week really spurs me on. I definately recommend trying it if someone had told me 4 weeks ago I would be nearly a stone lighter I would never have believed them!

ledodgyrobespierre · 21/09/2006 22:37

Should say I stick to the green days on slimming world and you can eat as much of the free foods ie. rice, pasta, veg as you want so there's no weighing involved. If you want to get an idea of what it's about you can go to slimmingworld.co.uk and click on group members register and this weeks group password is lentil. I honestly have no connection with SW other than i'm doing the diet but I honestly can't belive how brill it is.

CristinaTheAstonishing · 21/09/2006 22:38

Colditz, it doesn't sound all that bad (what you had today). Depends if this is typical or not.

I had good results with WW.

ilovecaboose · 21/09/2006 22:39

I'm overweight (size 20 and expanding) and am 23. Have never managed to stick to diet/exercise plan yet.

However my DP's mum recently lost 5 stone at slimming world after years of being overweight. Puts me to shame really.

My auntie wants to go back to ww (she's been b4) and my mum's told me I'm going with her. So hopefully I'm really gonna stick to it this time.

Is there someone who you could go to a group with? Apparently (so I keep getting reminded) people who go to them are most likely to keep weight off.

WOuld it give you the kick up the bum you want?

moondog · 21/09/2006 22:40

oH cOLDITZ,AS WELL AS THE WEIGHT ISSUE (oops) that food will do you no good at all.

I love to eat and drink but am too vain to let it slide out of control.As I once read, 'Nothing tastes as good as being slim feels'

I've never done any serious dieting but I reckon the comradeship of a club would spur you on.
Weight Watchers is consistently rated.

There are a few 'lardy ladies' threads on MN.Have you seen them>

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colditz · 21/09/2006 22:42

I normally wouldn't have the fizzy drinks or the cake, but would eat just as much bread etc. I just eat too much. I can't see me losing weight until I can stop eating so much, but I will have a look at the SW thing so thanks LeDodgy.

It's ridiculous. I eat way past the point of full. I am never 'satisfied' until I have eaten far too much.

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colditz · 21/09/2006 22:43

I know, it is shameful. The sad thing is, I am not at all unfit, and if I wasn't so greedy I couyld look quite nice, as I don't have a flabby arse.

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moondog · 21/09/2006 22:44

They say it takes 20 mins to register feeling full.
Fill your plate,eat it,and tell yourself that after 20 mins if you really are still hungry you can have more.

Is overeating filling a void in your life?

ilovecaboose · 21/09/2006 22:44

I know that overeating thing
I can never leave anything on plate -and always finish up dp's too.

And eat when bored/sad etc.

Also spend large parts of day not eating and getting headaches/dizziness/sick feeling as a result.

God that sounds crazy.

Hope you find something to suit you colditz and spur you on

Surfermum · 21/09/2006 22:45

I'm another who has done well with Slimming World. I just couldn't get the willpower together to stick to any sort of diet, in fact to start on one, but going each week to the group has really worked for me. If I hadn't been going I would have given up long before now. I've lost a stone and a half and feel great. It's not just the weight loss (and all the positive feedback I've got from that) it's all the healthy eating. It dawned on me today that I haven't eaten anything processed for weeks.

PhoenixGirl · 21/09/2006 22:47

Colditz slimming world is good for that. U can eat as much s you like of meat/veg depending on wot day u r on (red or green)

I'm the same as u ie i'm just greedy.

I've just done my bmi and its higher than yours and i'm 25.

CountessDracula · 21/09/2006 22:47

Maybe start by finding some things you like that are easy and not fattening and introducing them gradually

for eg I am on WW and I have

Blueberry bircher for breakfast (delicious and really really filling and good for you as is oats)

Usually a Tuna salad sandwich for lunch as I love tuna, or bagel with low fat cream cheese, unfatty ham, tomatoes and beetroot (yes I love it)

Supper all sorts of things but easy ones are things like lean chicken marinaded and done with salad, lean grilled meat and steamed veggies (lots of them), pasta with tomatoey sauces,

Also try and totally cut out butter, have only small amounts of cheese, switch to skimmed milk. Plus avoid carbs in the evening some nights.

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colditz · 21/09/2006 22:49

I think I overeat when I am bored.

I never overeat in the morning, I will have a cereal or seeded bread toast for breakfast, ham salad sandwich for lunch, then bang, crisps, bit of cheese, stuff, pot noodles... snacky crap that I don't need. Until i go to bed,. I wish I could be as strict with myself as I am with ds1!

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moondog · 21/09/2006 22:49

Do you drink Colditz?If you cut down yuo will get rid of trillions of calories...just like that.

CountessDracula · 21/09/2006 22:50

So do something else when bored

or eat a carrot or an apple

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colditz · 21/09/2006 22:52

Rarely MD, certainly not habitually. Maybe once a week.

I must find a hobby that I can't eat while I am doing it. It is almost a bad habit, to sit and chew like a cow on the cud.

Must eat carrots.

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moondog · 21/09/2006 22:54

I sew a lot.That keeps hands busy.

Join an exercise class.Going with a few friends is good fun.

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 21/09/2006 22:54

do you exercise Colditz? if this is about health then you need to look at exercise too. Exercise also helps you get on an upward spiral. I've been an on and off runner for years, but for the last 6 weeks have been really sticking at it - and the other day when I was out I just got the most amazing buzz (all those endorphins) and I was running along thinking "wow - this body of mine is incredible - I can do this, I can enjoy it, I can feel strong and healthy" and it really made me vow to keep it that way and not neglect it. Getting fit is so good for your mind, as well as your body.

Quadrophenia · 21/09/2006 22:55

I have very real issues with food and have too reached the point where you are at, I can completely empathise with how you feel. I have had to take drastic action and start slimfast which i know is faddy and not necessarily the right way to do it but I feel i have little choice. On other diets i deviate and kid myself and have consequently built up an incredibly unhealthy relationship and attitude towards food. With slimfast i cannot kid myself so am hoping to regain some control and with the weightloss, hopefully the inspiration to diet in a more sensible manner. I wish you well and will happily share my experiences with you on this journey if you like

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colditz · 21/09/2006 22:58

Is it safe to run when you are as heavy as me? I am a hypochondriac, and am scared of doing myself some damage, and I genuinely don't now how to exercise! I spent most of my PE lessons smoking at the far end of the playing field (don't smoke now though!)

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colditz · 21/09/2006 23:00

I must start looking after myself better. I would never treat anyone else like this!

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ilovecaboose · 21/09/2006 23:00

what about getting a pedometer (around £10) and walking?

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colditz · 21/09/2006 23:00

I have one. I average about 5 miles a day.

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moondog · 21/09/2006 23:01

I read that any woman over 11 stone shouldn't run (which did seem a little odd)

I wouldn't start with running.How about swimming?

If you see your gP,they may have an 'Invitation to Exercise' scheme which will allow you to go to a gym at a reduced rate,and have a suitable programme tailor made for you.

Megglevache · 21/09/2006 23:02

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