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PMT, depression, self pitying miserable cow - what is wrong with me?

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rickman · 17/09/2006 21:50

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FrannyandZooey · 17/09/2006 21:58

Rickman. I wish I knew what to say. I am glad you felt able to post on here about it. What help are you getting? Any medical help? Counselling? It sounds quite severe and like you need to take any help available to you.

Jaffacake1 · 17/09/2006 21:59

You poor thing!!!

maybe worth going to docs for a chat - if you have nice lady doc - forget it if he's male they do not have a clue.

could be PND rather than PMT...and that needs help..If it is PMT oil of evening primrose (79p Tesco) worked fab for me,, you just take more the crosser you are, sort of.

Count to ten and remove yourself from the stress, could your partner give you a nice massage, take the kids away etc?

It is so hard to take time out for yourself, but for your own sanity as well as those around you, you have to do it.

Hope this helps. I am thinking of you xx

bigbabygapmum · 17/09/2006 22:03

I think you need to tell your doctor. I fought taking medication for a long time for depression but looking back it was the best thing I ever did. I took it for two years and have been fine for ages since. There comes a time when your reserves get so low you can't manufacture the feel good serotonin you need so you have to take it artificially for a while till reserves get back up. Give in. You are important so get yourself some back up.

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rickman · 17/09/2006 22:04

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rickman · 17/09/2006 22:05

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Jimjams2 · 17/09/2006 22:09

Do you think you're just coping with the maximum you can handle so it doesn't take much to push you over? I feel like that at the moment and when something extra gets added (even something tiny) find I turn into a bit of a loon.

If you want to look at cycles keep a diary for a few months, check with your cycle (I definitely get PMT) but also check with the moon (seriously). For a long time ds1's moods were very affected by the moon (partly because it affected his sleep).

3littlefrogs · 17/09/2006 22:17

Yes, it could be PND. Do go and see the doctor.

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rickman · 17/09/2006 22:20

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Jaffacake1 · 17/09/2006 22:40

Har!

I love sitting there and doing nothing. Then I start noticing the state of our carpet (new 3 mths ago, what a waste of money why in the name of all things holy did we buy a cream one) and realising the baby has sat there in a pooey nappy for an hour, then I need to get the dinner on, and I can't even be bothered to wash the baking tray so tonights fish tastes vaguely of last nights sausages..........you get the picture, everyone feels like that. That is life. Thank the lord I can still smile at it, I still enjoy it. If you can't then acknowledge it and get help. Do NOT struggle on, PND is an illness and it needs medicine. Well done for talking on here about it, and next, make a docs appointment.

And tell your friends properly you are not coping, it sounds like they need to listen to you better.

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rickman · 18/09/2006 07:37

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bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 08:05

Glad you feel calm There's nothing like a good moan! And you were listened to! There's no face type thingy for a hug but here's one anyway - sorry I can't do your housework for you - that would really make you feel better! I have wanted to hoover upstairs in my house for TWO weeks now - some things just need to wait.

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rickman · 18/09/2006 10:29

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lucy5 · 18/09/2006 10:37

Hi Rickman, I can only sympathise and empathise. How old is your Youngest? I only ask as I got pnd {mild] when my dd was about 15 months. I also suffer with terrible pmt. The only thing that works with me is magnesium and vit b6. Might be worth a trip to the Docs.

lucy5 · 18/09/2006 10:39

OOps , sorry only read the first post!

lucy5 · 18/09/2006 10:41

My Doctor told me, pnd can strike up to 3 years.

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 10:41

If you feel that bad maybe you should put yourself first and think about stopping the b/f? Baby will benefit in other ways - a happier mum? What do you think? Can you manage? If you are at the end of your tether...?

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rickman · 18/09/2006 11:21

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charliecat · 18/09/2006 14:03

Found this Rickman, really, dont worry about rambling in my ear AT ALL.
As an onlooker you do seem to cope fantastically. Maybe you need to let things fall apart a little for people to notice? Or explain that you know it LOOKS like your doing ok but really really your not, but it really looks like you are coping well.
Better then most I tell ya
Do you feel ok for the rest of the month?
I dont speak for 2-3 days before I come on. Because if I do it will be swearwords and FFS type comments.

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rickman · 18/09/2006 18:45

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Dior · 18/09/2006 18:57

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rickman · 18/09/2006 20:12

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charliecat · 18/09/2006 20:15

Get bashing them on the head and get them shifted off to bed rickman This time of day is notoriously torture.

hewlettsdaughter · 18/09/2006 20:21

rickman, sorry you are feeling crap. I hope you get the help you need.

On the bf front, if you do decide you want to stop, there are some good tips here (I have just stopped bf'ing my 2 year old).

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