Hi minty and mrs both of you sound exactly how I did back when I was first diagnosed. I didn't cry once about my diagnosis. I knew I was going to put up a fight and for me it was about just making it through each bit of treatment. One step at a time.
I did however have meltdown moments, when I cried over the silliest of things. I became over emotional at the drop of a hat. Losing my hair was probably the only time I really cried because of the Cancer and what it was doing to me.
I think when you are in the throws of diagnosis and treatment, with lots of hospital appointments, you don't have the time or the energy to cry about something that you can't change! You will however cry over things that make you think about the future. The one thing I have discovered during this is that I think about the small pleasures in life, and live each day to the full. Something as simple as seeing my youngest charge trying on his school uniform, brought a tear to my eyes! Not something that has happened before! And I have seen many charges start school.
I think being diagnosed with Cancer is a huge emotional journey that goes on for a long time. But I think it teaches us a lot about appreciating life.
As for friends and family. I found that although they all kept saying they were there if I needed them. Only a few people actually stood by me. Others dissappeared into the back ground. People are scared of the unknown, and don't know what to say. So they opt for saying nothing. But try not to let it bother you. Make the most of those who are able to help you through this. They are the ones whose friendship you will cherish!
Things do get better. Xxxxx