Hysterectomies - advice and hand holding over here PART FOUR

[AtSea1979]

New Thread...
Over here for the hand holding

One in five women in the uk will have to have a hysterectomy at some point in their lives

Come and join us if you are waiting, pre-op, bleery eyed on the ward or recovering afterwards or just need a bit of advice.

Oops, haunted phone there, sorry

I'm assuming he does realise the actual procedure and mechanics of what you've just had done?

Ok, full penetrative sex is off the menu for a while (that's a whole other thread and mind-set) but to sit up, crouch, keep in one place under physical pressure must be quite uncomfortable for you apart from anything else.

I would search out some literature on hysterectomy and medical procedures and give it to him to read

along with a box of tissues and maybe some arnica for his bruised arsecheeks

He said he's read it but as far as the physical side is concerned he's holding out for best case scenarios where my libido etc won't be affected but I don't think he fully understands that I should be doing nothing, at all, because of the lack of external scar I guess.

Please don't get me wrong, he's been wonderful, I'm just finding it hard work, pressure, to work at it. When tbh I just want to be selfish!

It's not about being selfish though, this is about giving your body time to heal and adjust.

Crikey, you can't even shit properly yet and he wants a shag?

Show him this thread, most of us can barely get in a bath, I'm really angry for you.
He needs to back off, he's the one being selfish.

We need a like button !

Exhausted doesn't even cover it! First day of doing absolutely everything (except going to work). I have had to call in a favour to get the kids out to their gang show rehearsal tonight though. Couldn't quite stretch that far. Certainly feeling sore and achy now. Not looking forward to doing it all again tomorrow .

Aww Mary I know how you feel. I'm a single parent and its hard trying to recover and do everything at the same time.
My DP tries to help out but it's not enough and I'm exhausted and clearly delaying my recovery but needs must.

Rubbish nights sleep, have noticed post-op that if I over-do it in the day I can't sleep at night . One DC packed and off on camp now, other 2 off later after school. Me? I've already had one nap this morning and predicting it won't be the last .

Mary, I'm finding that too - had a 'back to normal' day on Wednesday, crap nights sleep

Good luck to your camp-bound DC, and enjoy your nap

I'm off to the hairdressers very soon for a feel-better-and-brighter colour and cut, can't wait

glad its not just me then Jenny. Enjoy your haircut . DH intent on spending our child free weekend getting the house around to put up for sale. Think he's on his own with that one...

The hot flushes appear to have kicked in. That's not helping me sleep. Want to go a few months without HRT so I can see what menopause side effects are so I know what the medication side effects are.

Oh no that's not good atsea. I had a couple of hot flushes the first week and I've been fine since with no there's. Hoping I don't need it.

Got my letter today confirming I had ovarian cancer grade 1 so no further treatment needed.

That's great news Pizza, obviously not the bit were u had cancer but that u beat it

yay pizza
Persuaded DH to chill out today, so feeling loads better. Enjoying a child free weekend, had lunch out and potter around. I have let him cut the grass though . Sitting in the garden now enjoying the sun.

A bit of a relief for you then, pizza, nice one

Almost 8 weeks post op now and I have moments of feeling better than I have done in months! Having bursts of energy and enthusiasm, it's great.

A think about HRT, has it affected the size of anyone elses norkage?

Not on hrt yet, please tell me it hasn't in increased your boobs, I'm already of "K" cup....... Smaller I could cope with

Well, I know I've put on weight and lost muscle tone, but yes, my breasts have definitely grown more than I thought they would. . .

Hopefully it's just fat and once I start fasting and exercising again they will shrink again - FF is plenty for me, K would stop me running I reckon

Ah, here you are :)

Nearly seven weeks post op now! Back to hospital this week for biopsies, a pelvic wash and to have my omentum removed via keyhole surgery. Won't be a great loss I'm sure as I didn't know I had one until three weeks ago.

Surgeon says I will be ok to go on holiday on 31st as long as I don't climb any mountains. No plans to.

Scarlett my surgeon did the wash and removal,of that fat thingy at the same time for me, hence I need no follow up treatment. I read up on it and some doctors in USA are removing it to stop TUPE 2 diabetes, it improves your insulin resistance apparently !

Hi, I'm now 2.5 wks post op and I think I'm going to have to give in and go to hospital tomorrow. Been bleeding fresh blood (about the amount of 'normal' period) for 7 days now. I was hoping it'd dry up itself, surely if I've pulled a couple of internal stitches it'd have clogged up by now?

That doesn't sound good, AtSea

Let's hope it's something very simple, I'm glad you're going to get it seen too

Better safe than sorry - hope it's something silly

Hope so, I'm just a wimp at the thought of them routing about down there!

Fab news pizza

Hope you get everything srted easily atsea.

Which HRT are you all on ?? I am taking livial.

I'm not been given anything yet, had a few hot flushes but have been alright. Should I be ? I'm 47 ......