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I don't want to drink today. Anyone else?

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zippy539 · 03/09/2006 08:52

Fed up. Drinking far too much on pretty much a nightly basis. Inspired by Dinny's thread last night I've decided to take a one day at a time approach to cutting right back/stopping. I'm posting this because I decide this pretty much every morning but usually give in later in the day - but if I've made some kind of public committment then I have a better chance of sticking at it.

If anyone else would like to join me in not drinking today, that would be lovely.

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dinny · 13/09/2006 20:44

Naswm, keep thinking if I don't succumb tonight then am at work tomorrow and then can have few drinks on friday as always go out with yoga gang after our class (to undo all our good work).... that's the only thought keeping me going! how have you been?

naswm · 13/09/2006 20:47

ok dinny,. IOverall not bad at all. But my prob is when I do drink, I dont stop at one or 2 . The the vicious circe starts..........

Berrie · 13/09/2006 21:02

Still haven't had it. MMm delicious crisp white wine. Actually, too busy holding the sieve for the berry slop we're starting the secondary fermentation. Sanity - your childhood sounds idyllic! Can't wait until the children are big enough to help with the labels - hadn't thougt of that, I hate it! Mmm chocolate berries, hadn't thought of that either! You had any yet?

Berrie · 13/09/2006 21:05

Dinny, is he in bed yet? Poor you - don't like hot choc either but if you can do it so can !

moomooland · 13/09/2006 21:22

Keep hanging in there if you can. Finding it (immensely!) difficult tonight too and it's only my third night.... but I'm holding with the thinking too that if i just get through tonight and hopefully tomorrow then i can have wine guilt-free at weekend and can treat myself to really nice bottle from what i've saved during week (dreaming of this already). Swear though that if hadn't made my "declaration" this morning i'd have cracked by now ... even the bailey's minis in the fridge were starting to wink at me. Going to head to bed soon only way tonight, keep strong x

Sanity · 13/09/2006 21:23

Well seeing as though I supposed to be off the booze, and starting to lose my baby/beer belly I am trying to avoid...but I can highly recommend...sounds like your having fun, ooh takes me back, we had an old mobile home in the woods in the garden, that was our wine cellar...hundreds and hundreds of bottle in there, it was a real cottage industry!

dinny · 13/09/2006 21:53

dh came home and moved (sleeping-on-floor) ds back into bed. so, had a hot choc Options at the point I would DEFINITELY have poured a glass of wine, since then have had some Badoit (while dh having glass of red) and am now having decaff Yorkshire tea (anyone tried it? it's the biz).

weirdly have also stopped the complusion to eat crap all evening - feel much more stable, blood-sugar-wise. must be less wine, you think?

well done everyone, and Naswm, know exactly what you mean - I'd rather not drink than have one glass, always leads to more. have you thought about doing a class or something in the evening, break the cycle/break up the week...?

Berrie · 13/09/2006 22:05

Thanks everyone. I wouldn't have managed it without you all. I'm so proud of myself and trying not to be smug with DH. Night x

dinny · 13/09/2006 22:13

WELL DONE, Berrie! You have every right to be smug

naswm · 13/09/2006 22:17

Ok I'm the poor relation tonhight then ..........

dinny · 13/09/2006 22:20

tomorrow is another day, Naswm (how did you come up with your nickname, if you don't mind me asking...?)

don't be hard on yourself. D x

Berrie · 14/09/2006 07:24

Morning everyone! Feel a bit rough this morning do you think this is cold turkey?
Naswm don't worry, could so easily have been me! Today is a new day, oh yeah Friday too... Monday is a new day - that sounds awfully familiar!

dinny · 14/09/2006 08:08

hey hey, it's Thursdy today, love! lol

yes, it is cold turkey - I had a real headache and foul temper first couple of days. all the toxins coming out! of to work a late shift tonight so will see how you're all doing if I get a chance.

Berrie · 14/09/2006 08:09

See - told you I was feeling rough, Thursday isn't it! - wishful thinking there!

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zippy539 · 14/09/2006 09:18

My god - everyone is doing brilliantly. I reckon nights 2 and 3 are definately the hardest.

naswm - don't don't feel bad. I swear if I had come across this thread three weeks ago, I wouldn't have been able to read it cause I would have felt so guilty. I would have assumed that everyone on this thread had super human will power, or just didn't drink to the degree that I was. TBH I don't think either of things are true (though reading between the lines I think I was probably the worst drinker - a bottle of wine a night was not unusual ). I was feeling so awful and so guilty but felt kind of helpless about it all, like I didn't have any control. It was only stumbling on Dinny's 'tea-total' thread that made me stop and think that I could do something about it. This thread is for everyone from lushes like myself who probably have a bit of a problem to folk who don't have any real dependency issues but just fancy cutting back/stopping for a day. I don't really know what I'm saying here - I suppose just please don't feel guilty but don't feel powerless either. We're all here to support you where ever you are on the lush/virtuous sliding scale. If your drinking is making you unhappy (mine certainly was) then keep coming here and sooner or later you'll feel able to stop - just for one night. And you'll feel so bloody proud of yourself you wont believe it. I'll stop banging on now, and sorry if this post is out of line or I've got the wrong end of the stick. Your posts from last night just sounded exactly like mine would have a couple of weeks ago that I felt I had to stick my oar in.

Okay, here I go again. I'm not drinking tonight. Anyone else?

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zippy539 · 14/09/2006 09:20

Naswm - sorry, jsut reread my last post which I wrote in a hurry and I sound like a sanctimonious old cow. Sorry.

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ParanoidAndroid · 14/09/2006 09:47

I'm not drinking today either. Thank you zippy for starting this thread

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zippy539 · 14/09/2006 09:53

Cheers, paranoid. I'm so chuffed it's still going. My threads usually die an instant death

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Berrie · 14/09/2006 10:07

Yeah Anteater! Join in! Can't believe the boost I get from just having a tiny bit of control over something.
Sorry Naswm if I sounded a bit patronising. Well done for still being here, I think I might just disappear if I slipped.

Berrie · 14/09/2006 10:09

Well done ParanoidA you are my third night partner!

anteater · 14/09/2006 10:11

All aboard

Berrie · 14/09/2006 10:17

Zippy, don't feel ashamed, I've been a bottle a night girl in the past. My drinking is beginning to creep up again post pregnancy and breastfeeding so this feels very timely.

livelife · 14/09/2006 10:28

How much is too much?

heavenis · 14/09/2006 10:30

Zippy I too have been a bottle a night girl (sometimes more). I had real crappy headaches last week but put it down to eating healthy food. Maybe it was a combo of both. My last drink was 3/9 and I'm really please with myself.

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