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Hysterectomies - it's gotta be done but over here for hand holding PART 3

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LackaDAISYcal · 27/03/2014 13:26

New Thread...
Over here for the hand holding

One in five women in the uk will have to have a hysterectomy at some point in their lives

Come and join us if you are waiting, pre-op, bleery eyed on the ward or recovering afterwards or just need a bit of advice.

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LackaDAISYcal · 01/05/2014 22:34

I know exactly how you feel kingfisher, but I just can't help myself. It doesn't help that I have had lots of well meaning "my mum/sister/auntie/friend/colleague/employee had a laparoscopic hysterectomy and was back at work after 1/2/3 weeks" It's making me feel like a malingering waste of space.

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LackaDAISYcal · 01/05/2014 22:53

four days after my op I went for a pootle round a local museum and cooked for 9 people Blush

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gingeme · 02/05/2014 08:05

Morning all. Luckily it looks to be à normal period that should last about 5-7 days so should be gone by the 12th. As for reading/doing nothing I can see it driving me mad ! I cant just sit Im not that kind of person but on the plus side Im getting à gardener in to totally re turf my 50 foot garden and take up a load of crazy paving so it will be nice to watch the transformation over the weeks Im off Smile

Beastofburden · 02/05/2014 11:35

Well I had a laparo and I enjoyed every second of my six weeks off work and added a week's holiday on the end for good luck. Hadn't had six weeks off since I left school.... Enjoy it, dammit, we are worth it! and we do need it, this is not trivial.

ScarlettOHorror · 02/05/2014 13:16

A lady I know has told me it's all "mind over matter" and her sister was back at work within two weeks. If I let myself lie around being waited on I am just being lazy, apparently.

I'm going to lie around in my nightie watching TV, which I never have time to do usually. The last mini series I watched was Twin Peaks a billion years ago.

gingeme · 02/05/2014 13:50

Yes I shall try to enjoy it. We have lovefilm so plan to watch films and box sets till my eyes are square with a shuffle around every now and then. I'm planning on taking the summer hols of and be ready for back to work in September. I've told my CM Mums this and they all seem pretty ok with that. Smile

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LackaDAISYcal · 02/05/2014 17:13

hopefully the weather will be nice and he can take his shirt off ginge...whilst you sit on the patio ogling watching him work Grin

I may have accidentally mopped the kitchen floor today Blush

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marymoocow · 02/05/2014 22:23

Apparently I'm having a new bathroom fitted while I'm offShock. In my defence we have no other 'facilities' and not sure how comfortable I'll be with strange men wandering around the house while I am recovering.....

marymoocow · 02/05/2014 22:24

Oh and that's on top of having new windows and front doorSmile .

gingeme · 02/05/2014 23:12

Oh Daisy stop it ! The floor can wait Angry
Lol ooh yes I hope he has a couple of halpers too Wink

We had a new bathroom in Feb but the guy who did ours is a friend of DH and nothing to ogle at really !!

TheOriginalNutcracker · 03/05/2014 06:46

I can't decide if I'm looking forward to the rest or not. I'm a lone parent and I find it hard to except help from other people so that will be hard.

Tried to chase up my op yesterday but no joy Confused

Shewhowines · 03/05/2014 08:24

Depends on whether they are 60, fat and balding...

You may regret this hankering for them to take their tops off!

gingeme · 03/05/2014 08:31

Grin shewhowines I'm still waiting for a couple of guys to give me quotes but the one who has seems a bit yummy Wink a good tonic for a convelessing 40something !!

gingeme · 03/05/2014 08:32

nutcracker push your pride aside and accept the help your offered. It will do you good in the long run when your up and fit again being a busy single parent Smile

BubaMarra · 03/05/2014 11:54

Hello everyone, I can barely see the keyboard as I contracted eye infection from my children so excuse my typos (In my previous post I said that colostomy bag was not really an appalling idea. I meant appealing obviously).
Scarlett, good that you got the date for your op. Do you mind me asking what investigations did you have when they discovered pre cancerous cells? As for anaemia, I believe Beast is right - there is not much you can do in short time and even if there was, a heavy period would cancel it out. My mother was severely anaemic when she had her hysterectomy 15 years ago. Fibroids were causing her mega heavy periods. She received blood transfusion after the op, and as Beast said she thinks it contributed to her fast recovery. Which makes sense, as anaemia makes you feel exhausted even without having a major abdominal procedure.
Daisy, take it easy. Listen to your body and act accordingly. But you do realise that you just qualified to be used as one of those examples in the future "Oh my friend/colleague/etc Daisy cooked a dinner for 9 people four days after hysterectomy, it can't be that bad" Grin I wish I could easily cook dinner for 9 under best circumstances!
Nutckracker, I know it's hard to accept help from others. But this time you really do need it. I find it hard to ask for help also, it's just not part of my mindset. And in hindsight it's something I wish I had changed long time ago.

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LackaDAISYcal · 03/05/2014 22:47

mary, tell them you have had a hysterical operation and they will be stopping to make You cups of tea Grin But at least you will be on hand to oversee the work.

lol Ginge...you forget "and then she had to retire to bed for four days afterwards to recover". Better day today, puttered around, and "helped" DD tidy her floor. she only has a small room and you couldn't see a spare inch of the carpet. The most energetic thing I have done is hang the washing out. Tomorrow we're off out for a picnic and to go to local attraction. Fingers crossed for nice weather and somewhere to sit in the shade!

Bubba, eyes sound ouchy. Have you got some cloramphenicol or optrex infected eyes?

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LackaDAISYcal · 03/05/2014 22:48

oops, sorry, that was to Bubba, not Ginge Blush

I needs my bed!

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BubaMarra · 04/05/2014 12:54

Yes I have cloramphenicol which helps. Hopefully it will be gone by tomorrow when I go to the hospital to have cold knife conisation done.

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LackaDAISYcal · 04/05/2014 20:40

Bit of advice needed re infection. I have had the end of a stitch sticking out a wee bit on the wound below my belly button, and I could feel the stitches that were under the skin. The little bit fell off yesterday, and though the wound has healed, there is a tiny bit of redness where the stitch was poking up. It has been a bit itchy/ittirated today. There was also a little lump at the bottom of the wound which I assumed was the end stitch. I was having a prod about earlier at the itchby bit (as you do) and when I touched the little lump at the end, it went pfffft, and felt very much like when you pop a zit but it is all under the skin. It's now feeling a bit tender and is a little bit burny and sore. I'm hoping it was the stitch dissolving/coming away, since the other one has gone, but of course I'm worried it was a little abcess that has burst and is now merrily poisoning my insides. As the wound is fully healed at that point, how would I know if there was infection there? My temperature is 37 so within 'my' normal.

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gingeme · 04/05/2014 21:27

Hows the eye buba ?

Shewhowines · 04/05/2014 22:49

buba good luck for tomorrow. Don't worry too much tonight. It will be fine.

lack yes! keep an eye on the temperature. If that changes or if it gets redder or sorer, get it checked out. Catch it earlier rather than later.

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LackaDAISYcal · 04/05/2014 22:54

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Bubba Flowers

Keeping an eye out she, thanks Smile

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ScarlettOHorror · 04/05/2014 23:12

Buba, good luck bab :)

You asked how I found out about the cells, I had a hysteroscopy and they found some polyps and took a biopsy. A week later I went for what I thought was my pre op to have the polyps removed and a consultant came and told me they'd found pre cancer and I was being referred to Liverpool to have a hysterectomy. I went there last week and they told me severe pre cancerous cells and uterus the size of a 16 week pregnancy. So I am fretting that they will find worse things when they open me up.

I have appalling, waking up in a pool of blood despite billions of pads type periods and constant pain in my stomach so I'm looking forward to an end to periods. What I am most scared of is coming round and them telling me they have found cancer. Sigh.

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LackaDAISYcal · 05/05/2014 00:53

scarlett, I think if they were concerned that there was any chance of cancer rather than precancer, they would be sending you for CT/MRI scans and would tell you of their concerns and do further tests like a D&C to get further samples. My team have been pretty honest and upfront with me the whole way through. It is such a worrying time though

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LackaDAISYcal · 05/05/2014 00:55

and chances are that if it is cancer, it will be confined to the uterus, and the surgery will have got it all. Womb cancer is one of the best types to have, apparently; though it certainly doesn't stop the worry Confused

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