so, anyway- yesterday turned out a bit bad because i had done too much on sunday, planned to do as little as possible on monday but both dh and i didnt get enough sleep at night- both of us had a nap in the day while the other watched the kids - ok, but while dh was asleep ds was being quite demanding and i was trying to resist putting a film on to keep him quiet because i dont want them to have too much sreen time- so I was on my feet the whole time and the pain slowly crept up, dh woke up and said he had to go do grocery shopping for them but it was already their dinner time so I couldnt have a rest, had to neck more meds, sort them out something very below par for dinner and was stuck in a bit of a pain-hole for the couple of hours (!!) that he was gone shopping. The reason i am a bit vexed about it is because when he went to nap i said what shall we do about shopping and he said he would go before they needed it, so in my mind he could have taken one with him. Plus he got home too late for them to eat it.
its all ancient history now so I wont bring it up- it feels like it would be petty but it feels like he didnt care about what state I was stuck in as i had said i needed a break, not to be standing up anymore and he went anyway. later he said i looked tired and had i been crying, and he was surprised when i said a little over earlier coz he didnt think we had argued badly- no just he hurt my feelings badly enough I didnt say anything.
I had to go out and take a library book back after he got back- but by that time i had taken a couple of morphine and got on top of the pain again. can't believe i had to pay a tenner fines because i forgot to return it before my op! stupid me really.
siorry to vent and rant, just wantd to get it out somewhere. I really don't want to be in that position again but if I try to have a proper talk about it , it will probably turn into an argument and I don't want that. I will try to get put into the same position, try to be more transparent and say what i need, when to rest etc but it's very hard. He doesnt seem to work out that if i have been to uni or had to go out for something then i need a rest when i get back. the last few times i have gone out and been abit ragged on return- he has gone for a sleep becuse he is knackered and i have agreed coz i dont want to be mean , but been in pain becuse of it. Does anyone else find this a problem? you all sound like your dh's know what to do? He is very stressed at the moment so it's not his fault, he is not sleeping well and yesterday had toothache as well.
Anyways, how are the rest of you this evening? That sounds very promising 17
well come Ellie, I am pretty newish too, not an expert like the others on here
matilda have been thinking about your no-sitting situation, maybe you can single-handedly bring back the chaise-lounge? talking about it makes me really fancy one too actually.
Those bone spurs sound painful lost, do they not have anything they can do to them, that is really disappointing. I have heard about them occurring in feet alot too.
wonder how your pool-jump went pavlov, hope it was ok. Bet your dd really appreciated the effort.
matilda speaks very wise words fizzle re the bf stopping. I stopped slowly and I never got too much of that awful engorged feeling that some others i knew at the time got from stopping quickly. But if it's desperate and you have to, pumping just enought o feel comfortable can help you to avoid pain and discomfort, hot baths/showers, massaging while in there and some say cabbage leaves from the fridge helps too though i never tried that one! watch out for any signs you have mastitus as sometimes it can happen if you get a bit too full. hope you dont need any of this advice and it all goes smoothly. don't worry if you feel very emotional about it- it will pass in a few days, it's the disruption to the hormones, getting extra hugs of either the husband or the baby variety will help
hope you get a nice lie in tonight goodness, and all the rest of you sleeping well , xx