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Hysterectomies - it's gotta be done but over here for hand holding part two

992 replies

Oddsocksrus · 09/12/2013 22:57

Over here for the hand holding.
One in five women in the uk will have to have a hysterectomy at some point in their lives.
Come and join us if you are waiting, pre op, bleery eyed on the ward or recovering afterwards.

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Kevinsbowel · 13/12/2013 15:22

I can see what waiting means about maybe he has found it too much and over reacted. My other half has been doing everything and he has got very very tired. Is there any possibility on what he said, that he might want to go back to your previous arrangement?

Kevinsbowel · 13/12/2013 15:26

On being alone forever, no, I can't believe that. You might be wary of anything that involves your DC for the next five years, maybe. But they will soon be old enough for you not to be worried.

Bug hugs.

Santaspelvicfloor · 13/12/2013 15:51

I'm not good with bugs.... What sort of a bug is that hug? :)

Kevinsbowel · 13/12/2013 16:13

No idea, made it up.

Kevinsbowel · 13/12/2013 16:14

Oh.. Just seen bug hugs...

If you want typos, I just emailed my GP my HRT prescription. You have No idea how many goes it took the iPad to understand 25 mcg of estrogen....

greenfolder · 13/12/2013 16:51

Santa that is rubbish- so sorry- have you got someone to help with the heavier stuff?

Santaspelvicfloor · 13/12/2013 16:59

Two daughters. I'm still sitting here trying to fathom it out. It has come from nowhere for me

CremolaFirCone · 13/12/2013 17:29

Just wanted to say how sorry I am Santa .Sad What a terrible shock.
We are here for you if you need to vent. Stay strong.

thekingfisher · 13/12/2013 18:38

Santa I'm so sorry you are in this position - I agree with the others is there any chance he has just got overwhelmed with things as they have suddenly changed?

A hand to hold here - wishing you and your dc hugs

Jacksmania · 13/12/2013 19:53

Sending bug hugs too. Mine are love bugs, though, so they're harmless. :)

God, that's just utterly shit, I'm so sorry :(

CremolaFirCone · 13/12/2013 19:54

Jacks , have you any indication how long you'll have to wait? I had to wait ages and for me that was one if the hardest things. I felt a little like my life was on hold. Confused

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 13/12/2013 20:42

Thanks for the pm s. Think I've got it sorted now.

Bloody hell Santa that's properly shit. Sad What a shiity thing.

Santaspelvicfloor · 13/12/2013 20:50

The good news is that physically I don't feel as shit as I thought I might after a busy day with barely any lying down.

Still not clear why he has done it. I think cold feet is the best answer

shewhowines · 13/12/2013 22:05

Oh Santa how awful for you.
I suppose it was a big shock from dating to full time family life, with no gradual middle bit. In fact it was heavier going than full time family life, it was family life and looking after you and doing everything on his own. Our dps found it really hard and they were used to the family life bit!
What a bummer. How long had you been together?
Thanks for you. Hope you manage to get some sleep.

Santaspelvicfloor · 13/12/2013 22:07

3 and a half years! Not just a passing relationship however we did both have commitment issues so didn't live together.

shewhowines · 13/12/2013 22:19

That's an awful long time. Have you got good friends or family who can rally round and both physically and mentally support you for a while?

Santaspelvicfloor · 13/12/2013 22:27

Yes. I do have. I feel slightly overwhelmed by offers right now.

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Oddsocksrus · 14/12/2013 07:40

Brew for Santa! I am so sorry, what an awful thing to do. I hope that everyone in RL is doing what you need.

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shewhowines · 14/12/2013 11:45

How are you feeling today santa ? How old is you're dd?
You need sometime to take stock and get your head round it all. Like the hysterectomy, it will feel better eventually, but it's going to be horrible for a while. You WILL get through this.

Keep strong.

Santaspelvicfloor · 14/12/2013 12:30

Thank you. DD and I are watching The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel

I feel I've joined the recovery schedule a little bit. We've spoken today and that has helped understand it all. The end result is the same. That is something I will adjust to and need to just accept the next few weeks are a recovery time until I can start to live a full life again.

Waitingaround · 14/12/2013 13:11

Hugs again xx

greenfolder · 14/12/2013 18:08

Went into town today for a coffee and wander around the shops. Too much excitement after 2 weeks in the house. Had to go to bed after.

thekingfisher · 14/12/2013 18:52

Well I'm out on the dazzle tonight!
Going to take it easy though it's a Xmas party at friends house although a big do! Friends are driving and have cab booked for 10- so only a couple of hours....
Hopefully not too much for 17 days post op !?GrinWineWineWine

thekingfisher · 14/12/2013 18:54

Dazzle? Razzle - not sure I'll be dazzling quite yet....

Santaspelvicfloor · 14/12/2013 21:53

I went to a friends for dinner. Lovely friend and I spent a lot of time on sofa but was still wiped out. She can't get her car near my house so dropped me nearby. Storm outside and I declined her offer to borrow a mac or have company to walk to the house because I felt fine. By the time I reached the front door I was wet and shivering and crying with tiredness.

Warm in bed now. Awful storm raging

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