Hysterectomies - it's gotta be done but over here for hand holding part two

[Oddsocksrus]

Over here for the hand holding.
One in five women in the uk will have to have a hysterectomy at some point in their lives.
Come and join us if you are waiting, pre op, bleery eyed on the ward or recovering afterwards.

[CremolaFirCone]

And Unskinned potatoes and watercress.
Savoy cabbage thinly sliced with a clove of garlic stir fried. Yum.

[Santaspelvicfloor]

Crem I could kiss you for your you will be better soon. I'm feeling frustrated and driving DP bonkers with repetitive moaning about how little progress I'm making (

[shewhowines]

Fillet steak and champagne then! Surely there must be vitamin c in the grapes.

Hoovering was the very last thing I tackled. I don't think that is very good for you, seriously.

I've felt great for a few weeks now. I don't feel any different to before the op, apart from slightly dodgy bowels still.

[Santaspelvicfloor]

I was saying today that fitness wise I feel pretty good...nothing a couple of weeks of walking a lot, wouldn't fix. However in terms of how it's all hanging together its a different story. I feel like the ligament holding my hips together and holding my guts in place has been removed completely

[Kevinsbowel]

I have just been drained of all sense of duty and responsibility, but that was always a risk :)

I felt insecure around the pelvis but tis better since I have doing the dreaded excercises. And as the swelling goes down, there is a kind of "boat settling into the bottom to the lock" effect as various organs bump their way down into the new space.

[Waitingaround]

she I didn't attempt the Hoover till the recommended 6 weeks and have found it fine
. It's any lifting that I find a bit if a problem- I feel it pulling and feel very vulnerable down below- so I avoid lifting anything heavier than half a kettle full at the mo. I have recently started pelvic floor exercises and I hope this helps. I did attempt mucking out a couple of weeks ago but this was very foolish and hurt a lot and I think set me back (again)! However in myself I feel much better than pre op (I think my bladder just needs to find its new home still).

[Santaspelvicfloor]

I'm finding remembering not to lift tricky, almost as tricky as the inconvenience of not being able to. I can go a couple of weeks without seeing partner (boyfriend is a silly term at my age) normally. I shudder to think how I'd cope if he hadn't offered to move in with me. Shopping without a car, carrying the shop in, if I had a taxi, getting Christmas decs out of the loft, cooking every meal, putting the bins out, walking the dog. (I'm still early days and might find out in a few weeks I guess!)

I felt quite good yesterday after a 'busy day' (My busy day consisted of nearly all day on the sofa but 90 minutes out.... Woohoo).

I'm planning a little trip out for a walk and a coffee as a treat

[Kevinsbowel]

Yay and it is also really nice for both of you, for your man to have a chance to show how much he cares.

Lifting, depends what it is. I find its ok if you can isolate the arm muscles and just use them, but that only works if the thing is physically compact. So I can pick up our 8 kg cat and chuck the bugger off my sofa but I wouldn't want to carry washing upstairs.

[Santaspelvicfloor]

I have carried a few things 'heavier than a kettle' from day one but am not sure I'll ever return to the days of humping bags of latter, cement or fertiliser as I used to.

It is lovely having him here but weird at the same time. I'm so used to my own space.

[greenfolder]

Am going for a little walk to end of road and back to see how that feels. Was going to post a letter but no stamps and shop is too far for my first outing. Hoping to build up over weekend so I can pick up little one from school ten min walk normally.

[CremolaFirCone]

Green how did you get on?

[Jacksmania]

May I join? Got my op coming up sometime in Feb, maybe March. I don't have a date set yet. Hysterectomy incl cervix and tubes, cystocoele repair (bladder lift) and possibly rectocoele repair. I usually hang out on the Ragged Bits thread. If I bring wine and munchies, may I join you?

[LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance]

2 days back in work and I fell fast asleep on the sofs this evening for an hour and a half! Guess who's wide awake now though!

Welcome Jacks

Would somebody kind please pm me who everyone is now please? I'm very confused by the name changes.

[Waitingaround]

Hello jacks

[greenfolder]

Well I walked to the bottom of the road and back twice, once in the morning and again in th ed afternoon. It was fine though my stomach felt heavy. Have to be careful because it's tempting to go for a long walk when I live on top of a hill and have to toil to get up it! It feels like New bits have stop being numb and have started to ache. Have to say though so far nothing has hurt as much as I thought it would.

[Santaspelvicfloor]

Hi jacks

Waiting is difficult. You know you have this fairly big event to prepare for and a loose idea but not a definite of when. I was more stressed beforehand and reading everyone's troubles was both terrifying and good at levelling my expectations.

[shewhowines]

Welcome jacks .
We're all sitting on the recovery sofa now. You are the only one waiting but we will be glad to hold your hand. Don't be put off by all the horror stories. I think most of us agree that it wasn't as bad as we thought it would be.

green keep at it. It's doing you good. How long has it been since your op again?

Apart from being tired, how's work going letsface and waiting ?

[Waitingaround]

Am enjoying being back at work and feel that I am now making a quick recovery. I'm tired today but been ok all week- although I'm in an admin type role at the mo I am standing and walking a lot so this has been hard but good for me I think.
. jacks I found the waiting the hardest bit and was emotionally all over the place- the op was easy and although I had a couple of set backs the recovery was fine

[Kevinsbowel]

Hey jacks,

I had a very easy time, almost no pain. Up from surgery at 8 pm, slept fine, walking up and down the corridors by 10 am next day. And it is very lovely to feel better from all the things that we bugging me before the operation.

Off for my four week check today, how did that go so fast?? Can't believe I will be back at work in only three weeks, I luffs it here on my sofa :(

[Santaspelvicfloor]

My DP has just left me. As in 'left me'. I'm in shock. I have my youngest DC to tell and Christmas to consider... Lovely timing

[Kevinsbowel]

No! I can't believe it. You poor thing.

Do you want to come over to "the other thread" to talk?

[Jacksmania]

Oh Santas - that's horrible :(
I'm so sorry :(



Thank you for the welcome everybody. Will tell more of my story later, but just wanted to say I'm in a different time zone (8 hours behind you all, I'm on the West Coast of Canada) so post at odd times. I'll be very grateful for the hand-holding, it's been a long road to where I am now.

for you all, for me. (Morning here.)

[Santaspelvicfloor]

Doesn't this post from yesterday look sad now: I can go a couple of weeks without seeing partner (boyfriend is a silly term at my age) normally. I shudder to think how I'd cope if he hadn't offered to move in with me. Shopping without a car, carrying the shop in, if I had a taxi, getting Christmas decs out of the loft, cooking every meal, putting the bins out, walking the dog. (I'm still early days and might find out in a few weeks I guess!)

It's the suddenness and the timing which has really thrown me. It is out of the blue for me

[Waitingaround]

Santas, don't know what to say really (but hugs) perhaps it's the reality of the situation getting to him at the mo, by that I mean it's a BIG step moving in with someone and caring for them all at the same time. It could still all be alright- he might need some space to think things through and then chat
Xxx

[Santaspelvicfloor]

I don't know if you're all in relationships with fathers of your DP but as a lone parent I won't put my child through this experience again. So coupled with the loss of DP is the knowledge that I am going to be very much alone for a very long time, possibly forever. I'd've actually been alone a lot of my life so I can cope but it's really really hard.