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MaryAnnSingleton · 01/10/2013 08:24

New thread !!

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amberlight · 05/10/2013 05:49

Trice, yes, worrying stuff re porn. On female was, the Genderbread diagram is my fave way to explain the dimensions of it. Easily googlable if you hadn't seen it.
Morning all. Already on a coach on Crete. Windy and dark so far. Zzzzz...

Gigondas · 05/10/2013 07:07

Morning all - Brew all round ? Will put birthday cake on trolley later.

Handbags on results I wouldn't read anything into it. My dad is dr and said they were trained to manage people's expectations so that always lever estimated time to get results, stay in hospital etc.

Mas I hope your is ok and gets back soon. Thanks for lovely card.

topsy happy birthday and enjoy the Mexican night. Hnd I truly hope this op is the last- think you have had more ops than me this year.

Amber enjoy Crete.

Got nice day at home then out for meal with friends later .

malteserzz · 05/10/2013 07:46

Foo foo I sympathise my dh woke me up too coming in from a night out and I didn't sleep properly after that, men !

Gigs and topsy hope you both have a lovely birthday with lots of wine and cake

I was meant to be going out tonight but am going to cancel, too tired and I feel like my immunity is low, got mouth ulcers and spots so feel it's best to stay away from potential germs. Think it will be take away and X factor instead !

notJenkins · 05/10/2013 07:59

Happy happy birthday to the birthday twins topsy and gigs hope you both have a good day. The HND feast sounds fab can I come ?

I am having a terrible time. Our lender has refused to allow us to port or mortgage so we in danger of losing our buyer / the house we really want. I am devastated and spent all evening crying to my shame. I am not a crying sort of person at all. I am feeling pathetic and broken. If I need more tretament and we can't move house we will be financially unable to cope and may lose our house. I honestly don't know what to do. We will be trying to get another lender on Monday. I just feel it is something I can't cope with. Scan results on Thursday. I really feel that nothing is going to go right for me as this year has been one blow after another. I am too ashamed to tell anyone in RL.

People keep saying the scan results will be fine but how the bloody hell does anyone know that and why would they be fine ? It is a bunch of cells no one has control over.

Hope you are all feeling happier than me. Sorry to be so miserable but I honestly don't know what I can do.

trice · 05/10/2013 08:19

Oh Notj, I am so sorry! Banks are bastards. I am not surprised you are crying, you have a huge pile of stress on you at the moment. Big hugs and Bracing pats on the back.

malteserzz · 05/10/2013 08:39

NotJ I'm so sorry no wonder you are upset, I hope you can find another lender big hugs x

MaryAnnSingleton · 05/10/2013 09:15

giant hugs for notj xxxx
Happy birthday to you gig and topsy gig am pleased you like d card- Mr gig requested badgers,fairy shit and little girls on it !

Mum has broken hip and collar bone,so hospital for a while- poor thing.

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handbagsatdawn · 05/10/2013 10:01

notj sympathies re crappy bastard unhelpful bank. Fingers crossed you will be able to find another lender on Monday x

mas your poor Mum. My Dad (78) fell off a ladder last year and to quote my Mum "I thought he was a goner"! It's funny how the parent /child relationship reverses at times like this, I ended up berating him for not knowing better (he had propped one end of the base of the ladder on a pile of bricks). He bounced back from his injuries very quickly, and I hope your dear Mum does too.

Happy Birthday to gig and topsy - wishing you a lovely day and lots of Cake.

Thanks for reassurances about quick result turnaround. Was having a bit of a down day yesterday and a wallow, coupled with issues we are having with getting planning permission and I was feeling sorry for myself. Better today.

reallyreallyworried · 05/10/2013 10:07

Morning all

MAS sorry to hear about your poor mum. Hope she is on the mend soon.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO gigs and topsy hope you both have a wonderful day. Look forward to hearing how much fun you had! CakeWine

NotJ sounds like your having a rough time. Sending you a big hug Smile xxx

malt a night in sounds like a perfect idea. Enjoy xx

Everyone else hope you have a lovely weekend.

I am off to Devon to spend a few days with family, before heading back for my bone scan next week. Hopefully a bit of time to relax and recuperate. Although currently feeling pretty good. Although I sense that might be because my armpit hasn't come back to life yet!!!! Hmmm!!

Xxxxx

BetsyBoop · 05/10/2013 10:15

Happy Birthday to the birthday twins Wine Cake

notj - that is crap :( I`would (as someone who worked in the mortgage industry many many moons ago) suggest you go through an independent mortgage broker. They can take on the hassle of searching around for you and will know which banks are most likely to make offers in your circumstances. Just because your current bank has an issue doesn't mean all others will.

MAS sorry to hear about your mum :( It is true that as your parents age the rolls reverse. They go through petulant teenager (they think they know best, but acually we do!) to child (they increasingly need you support for day to day things) to baby (24/7 care). My Dad especially spent a very long time in the "teenager" phases Grin

Shootingatpigeons · 05/10/2013 11:22

Thanks Cake Wine Wine Wine for gigs and topsy HAPPY BIRTHDAY Wine Wine Wine Cake Thanks or should that be Margheritas for topsy

hnd lots of healing vibes and good wishes that this will finally sort out the troublesome boob.

trice Funnily enough I was feeling a bit ugh yesterday so had quiet day with knitting watching crap telly and happened across an hour long programme Miley Cyrus had made about herself. No she isn't a slut or a victim just a product of a very weird upbringing and the current persona is very much calculated by her, seeing herself as having to distance herself from her past and out do Madonna and Brittney (except Brittney has the added motivation of being manic Sad) to be the next big thing. She was actually measuring the shock factor of her awards performance against the Brittney \ Madonna ones and was very gratified by the column inches. Very odd young woman, totally self absorbed and full of herself. Interestingly the pigeons reaction to it all is more prudish than me, and to find it a bit sad. They didn't like Hannah Montana either.

MAS my grandmother lived with my parents through her teenager and toddler phases. I remember one visit with 3 year old big pigeon when they were basically at the same stage of development. After a tea of fish fingers they went for a walk and watching them toddle unsteadily down the lane it was rather sweet.

Dad seems to be recovering well from his broken collarbone, so I hope your mum does too.

handbags I am sure that it is just the results coming back early, there have been so many long waits on the thread that it is nice to hear that a hospital can be flexible and get the wait over with a bit more quickly.

nj that is rubbish but pretty much the experience we have always had when moving, there is so much can go wrong. I ended up just taking the mental attitude of not expecting anything to go right so it was a pleasant surprise when it did. We had offers in on 7 different houses before this one, and 7 buyers on our old house. I see at least one of the houses we nearly bought every time I drive anywhere, and I have viewed most houses in the area. It was the gazumping era though. And even on the day we moved in here we had to sit parked outside the house in the removal van until 5pm because someone down the chain had not come up with some of the money. We would have had to camp out the night but our solicitor was also our close friend and intimidated all the other solicitors into some deal to get us in. However I hope you find a mortgage on Monday. You do not need all this stress on top of dealing with waiting for your results. You can never know they are going to be clear but the odds are that they will be.

Paranoia box seems to be filling up, will need my big bum to keep a lid on it

amberlight · 05/10/2013 11:27

NotJ, I second Betsy's suggestion.Find a good broker. They will help sort it. Hugs.
Have got to point in cruise where I'm aware we come back to mammogram for me. Why doesn't it get easier?
MAS eek re your mum. Reading everything but can't write much.

Shootingatpigeons · 05/10/2013 11:32

Amber we are thoroughly enjoying your cruise

topsyturner · 05/10/2013 12:05

Morning All

NJ did the bastard bank say no because of the cancer ?
I agree with the others about finding an independent broker .

Am so jealous of Ambers cruise hi jinks Grin

Thanks for the birthday wishes .
Am taking DD to horse riding , then drama club . And also squeezing in a trip to Tesco (the real one , not Gigs lovely Parisian one !)
But am really looking forward to my night of Mexican yumminess this evening !

Gigs happy , happy birthday to you
We made it to another one , yippee GrinGrinGrin

foofooyeah · 05/10/2013 12:20

malt sorry your feeling low. I had too much on today so called in the cavalry nd got another mum t take youngest to football so I can rest as big family late lunch today

NJ so sorry to hear about mortgage, bastards! But when something similar happened to e years ago someone sad t just wasn't for you ths time, and yes in the end we ended up with a better place. Not easy to hear at the time.

mas sorry about your mum, it's so worrying.

Happy birthday birthday twins!! Have some Wine and Cake

Love and light to everyone else a my brain has now stopped working

amberlight · 05/10/2013 12:30

FWIW in reality on this cruise I am spending half of it caring for DH. And too scared to ask for autism help as inexperienced 'help' makes things much worse. I didn't go, or say anything about the cruise, to show off. I have a horrible feeling some of it sounds that way. Talking to friends keeps me sane in the scary bits.and the exhausted bits Blush though the scenery is nice, yes.

Shootingatpigeons · 05/10/2013 12:49

amber no it doesn't look as if you are showing off, just sharing some amazing sights Smile it is normal to share on facebook. i love looking at people's travel pictures and I have especially enjoyed yours because they are places i spent quite a lot of time in in my 20s, my friend was living in Athens. Travel is difficult for all of us, so many new tastes smells etc to cope with, the uncertainty and unpredictability, so must be all the more exhausting for you. I love travelling because of the amazing things you see and experience but it certainly comes at a cost. Usually by the time you get home you have forgotten the exhausting and worrying bits and only kept he good memories of what you have seen and experienced.

notJenkins · 05/10/2013 13:01

amber I am really enjoying the pictures too and showing off would be the last thing on my mind. Please carry on and I hope you can enjoy the remainder of the cruise.

Thanks for the support I have an excellent independent advisor on the case and to my shame I sobbed down the phone to her yesterday. I am just a bit broken at the moment and feel like I am on the edge of some sort of breakdown. Next week is my last week before I am due back at work. I just want to lie in bed with the covers over my head. There is only so much coping I can do.

The dc are going to my parents for the night to give me some space. I am far too ashamed to tell them what is going on. Going to a different lender will cost us £6k as we are in the middle of a fixed deal. That is if we find a new lender. I keep trying to think of positive things and gaining prospective but it is hard. None of this is my doing but I may suffer for years because of it.

I sound so bloody miserable sorry.

Shootingatpigeons · 05/10/2013 13:57

nj Sometimes it helps to have a good cry / punch the pillow and it can be hard to cope when bad things hit all at once but do remember that this will pass. Don't let it tip you into feeling completely negative because then it is the state of mind and not the reality. If you think that is what is happening do go and see your doctor / talk to your nurse. They can help. You are not alone and certainly don't have anything to be ashamed about. I am sure the lender is being as ridiculously harsh and overcautious as a lot of lenders are at the moment. They are the ones that should be ashamed, for having brought it on themselves in the first place and now for making it so hard for decent hardworking people as a consequence.

Shootingatpigeons · 05/10/2013 14:05

I have a Facebook problem (I know #first world problems #nothing more worthwhile to worry about? ) my wall is filling up with hearts for one of those Breast Cancer things, all my HK friends are in on it. But it is one of those "This is only for women, because this is breast cancer research week. One small act of solidarity between women." I am ignoring it at the moment but it is getting to the point where they will take offence as I am "the one that had Breast Cancer" ( here I am with my badge again Wink) and they are lovely well meaning people. Gah!

smee · 05/10/2013 14:46

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to tipsy Topsy and Gig!! Cake Smile

Your poor mum, MAS. Is she in a lot of pain? Sad

NotJ, grr about the bank. You're allowed to weep I reckon. Really hope your advisor can sort it.

Sorry to hear you're feeling low, Malt, but have to say that even the idea that you thought you might go out is impressive on Tax. Take heart, be over soon xx

Sad Amber, that doesn't sound relaxing.

Trice that's horrid about the porn video. Did DS tell you about it? That's a good sign if so.

Yay for Dora being gone. Grin Grin

Hope Betsy, Foofoo, Kitkat all okay today too.

I'm sure I've missed so many, but waving.. Smile

BetsyBoop · 05/10/2013 15:38

big unmumsnetly for notj

amber I've loved seeing your holiday pics, not showing off at all

malt - "go with the flow" is a good plan I reckon, so if you fancy a night in go for it. I must say I'm increasing knackered on tax, and definitely couldn't even think about managing a night out at the moment Grin

pigeons - did you see JS is spouting off in the DM again today - apparently she missed chemo (seriously weird!) and is repeating the "cancer badge for attention" nonsense nothing to do with her wanting attention/publicity for her new book about her cancer "journey", oh no. Is she pocketing the cash or donating the profits to cancer research I wonder?

Hope everyone is have a good weekend. Having a seriously lazy one here :)

malteserzz · 05/10/2013 16:00

I can safely say that I will not miss chemo one bit ! Just read that article online hmm
Amber I have loved your cruise photos, not showy offy at all

Proud of dd who has done her first duke of Edinburgh award walk today whilst I've hardly moved from the sofa

Hope everyone has a good evening Smile

smee · 05/10/2013 16:17

Well done to Malt's DD. How far did she have to walk? Smile

I just had a read of that JS article too. She does admit to finding it tough, so have forgiven her a bit. I sort of get what she means about missing treatment, as in context it's largely about the nurses. I was quite upset when I finished chemo, as I knew I wouldn't see one fantastic nurse again. Still couldn't wait to never go back though!! She's still got that nonsense about badges at the end though.. Hmm

How are you feeling, Betsy? Hope not too achy.

kitkat1967 · 05/10/2013 16:49

Hi all - just a quickie to say I am OK but hit the Tax crash today so mainly just been sleeping on and off. Got the horrible metal mouth too.

Have read everything though but too tired to post - hugs to everyone - hope to recover quickly due to low dose.