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******The 36th TAMOXIFEN thread******

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NedSchneebly · 10/05/2013 20:02

You all out there? Pop this way!

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Gigondas · 12/05/2013 20:22

Taking mini for chicken pox jab, getting the weeping thigh wound checked ( its not infected but part of it isn't healing and is still weeping) and trying to do essay.

GrinAt nerf war. You feeling better now?

AshokanFarewell · 12/05/2013 20:25

I'm having a break while oversharing lady watches telly. I feel bad for being annoyed because it turns out her son was killed by a car and then her husband died shortly after, so she's been through a lot. But I'm finding it quite hard work as she has shown me all her op scars, given me lots of details of her bowel problems and is reading one of those awful "real life stories" magazines so earlier got out of bed to come and show me a very graphic photo of a woman who had been bitten by a spider Confused Hmm she is obviously lonely and means well but it's a bit overwhelming as she fills every second of silence. I'm being deliberately vague as I bet she knows someone who died of bowel cancer, probably with some rare complications.

I hate Turkish delight but Galaxy is very addictive, I don't even like it that much but I can never have just one square!]

Gigondas · 12/05/2013 20:32

That's a bit much when you are sick -sad though it might be for her.

That's exactly what problem is with galaxy ash.

malteserzz · 12/05/2013 20:34

Ash you sound like you're being very patient with oversharing lady. I can see how that would be annoying when you just want a bit of peace
Gigs hope the jab and check up go ok and good luck with the essay
Topsy sounds like the crochet will keep you out of mischief

I'm going shopping with a friend tomorrow, need to do some planning too as I'm back at work on Wednesday have missed my class lots Smile
I have some dairy milk with Oreos if anyone would like some ?

notJenkins · 12/05/2013 21:20

I had a lady like that next to me ash and I kept the curtain firmly pulled round so as not to make eye contact and encourage her. I knew everything about her including where she was born and she engaged my visitors in conversation.

jchocchip · 12/05/2013 23:03

Home at last! Phew. Cat pleased to see us. Wishing you all the sweetest dreams tonight.

jchocchip · 13/05/2013 04:00

Hmmmm cat too pleased to see us, bouncing around expecting treats...

AshokanFarewell · 13/05/2013 06:17

Glad you got back safely jchoc and I hope the cat calmed down so you could sleep!

Not many late night posts so hopefully everyone had a good night's sleep? :)

Brew anyone? The breakfast trolley is coming round shortly but there is nothing worth sharing, except maybe the blackcurrant jam.

malteserzz · 13/05/2013 06:22

Morning As and everyone
Had a sleeping tablet last night and had a great nights sleep which I'm sure will help me get through today
Hope everyone else slept well tooSmile

malteserzz · 13/05/2013 06:23

Ash not As sorry !
Hope talkative lady is still asleep

Copthallresident · 13/05/2013 06:49

Morning Brew Some of Reubens blueberry and hazlenut tea loaf for trolley before Dh eats it all, caught him downstairs cutting himself a slice at 4.30 am Shock and some of that new CAdburys chocolate with candy jelly beans, sounds disgusting but actually nice. I am definitely a Cadburys girl, partly as result of being deprived of decent Cadbury's in Hong Kong, the CAdbury's there is made in Australia and is disgusting so we all used to fall on whoever bought supplies back from trips to blighty . At least am always sure of a warm welcome whenever I go out there even if it is cupboard love [ grin] Why did I write about 4 am worries, have been up since 4 am worrying. There will be a zombie on the Kingston one way system in a couple of hours .... At least we keep the cats out of the bedroom jchoc

I think half the problem is that I have been expending so much emotional energy keeping it calm and light for the Copettes that I have hoovered up their anxiety. At least have not heard a peep from little Copt so hopefully she slept.

ash yes there always seems to be one of those types on wards, especially gynae wards, almost completely put off ever having children after a stint on one in my twenties, it was very effective contraception!!

Hope your wound gets sorted gig good luck with essay

Little COpt up, ok breeeaaathe, calm........

AshokanFarewell · 13/05/2013 07:41

Good luck to little copt for her six hours today! :) and for you copt I hope you are able to relax a bit

And good luck gigs with staples.

A man has just been admitted, he swallowed his dentures! Shock

Gigondas · 13/05/2013 07:45

Go little Copt - sending her brainwaves.

Guess what? Up half the night with big gigs sick bug. So feel bleurgh. Stopped being sick I think. But was having delerious dreams about benedict cumberbatch in Star Trek. Smile

MaryAnnSingleton · 13/05/2013 07:55

oh poor gig Sad feel better soon x
ash eek about denture swallowing - does he have to wait for them to pass through ? yikes !
Lots of luck to little copt
I was in gynae ward after my breast op and they did chat a lot - I was impressed by old lady in there asking how soon she could have sex after her bladder stretching Shock !

MaryAnnSingleton · 13/05/2013 07:57

am off to take Charles (my car) to have expensive work done on him - hoping the courtesy car is a swish one.
Am on cat injecting patrol later as parents away.

trice · 13/05/2013 08:41

I have had a terrible morning with dd. She is refusing to go to school. She just wants to spend the day in bed with me. Dh ended up smacking her bum, which is not something we normally do. She insisted that it didn't hurt and it just meant she would never put her socks on, she likes time out as it means she doesn't have to be with us and she doesn't care if we take her toys as they are for babies anyway!

She knows I have cancer. She is sleeping with me, bringing me get well soon cards twice a day and bringing me flowers and treats all the time. She is obviously really worried about me and missing me being her mum.

She has gone to school in tears after telling us she hates us.

Any suggestions? I don't know what to do for the best.

AshokanFarewell · 13/05/2013 08:44

gigs hope you feel better soon! Flowers

MAS I'm not sure, he's been taken away for more X-rays and a camera thingy. Good luck with cat injections - I expect it's quite difficult?

I was the cause of the latest ward drama as my cannula fell out and I ende up pouring blood everywhere. I've never seen so much blood from such a tiny hole! Anyway, all sorted now and the floor has been washed Blush

malteserzz · 13/05/2013 08:48

Trice have you spoken to the school about it and got them on side ? Maybe they can suggest something that she has to look forward to at school so she's more willing to go and can give her some support.

AshokanFarewell · 13/05/2013 08:49

Oh trice :( big hugs to you all. I don't really have any suggestions but hopefully by the time she gets home she will have calmed down. Does her teacher know what's going on? I would've thought school would help as it's a bit of normality. If it's any consolation I was the same when my dad was in hospital after his heart attack, I wanted to stay off school to visit but my mum sent me in and we had a massive fight. Hopefully once she is there with her friends she will have a nice distraction from worrying about you and she will come home having forgotten all about this morning.

topsyturner · 13/05/2013 09:03

Morning All

Good luck to small copt for today .
Ash the denture swallowing thing is surprisingly common !
Are you getting out soon ?
Jane , that's why pig/dog sleeps in the kitchen !
Mas do you need elbow length gauntlets for Smog duty ?
Gigs is Mr Gigs ducking out of night duty again ? Tell him I will withdraw his beer ticket allowance if he tries that one again !

Trice how old is DD ?
First off , you haven't damaged her .
I agree with letting her school know , my DDs school have been very supportive .
Secondly , your oncology team should have assigned you a social worker . They can advise you how to talk to her , and let you know of any children's support services that they offer .
There's also Macmillan you can ask advice from .

I do agree that school is the best place for her though . She needs to have as much normality as possible .

trice · 13/05/2013 09:06

I hope she forgives us. Selfishly I would like her to stay here with me and read stories and sing me songs. She gives the best cuddles ever. I believe that school will do her good though.

School have been great, she has been winning every school prize since they found out I was ill. They are possibly over sympathetic.

Dd has been ignored a lot recently with all that is going on. She has been out for tea with various kind friends virtually every other evening. Perhaps that is making her feel pushed out? Perhaps she is just upset by a shitty situation? parenting is hard enough without cancer on top. Dh is distraught.

AshokanFarewell · 13/05/2013 10:06

Maybe you could haves

AshokanFarewell · 13/05/2013 10:11

Oops! What I was trying to say is maybe you can have some special time together just the two of you when she gets home from school :) you're her parents and she loves you, she will forgive you. She probably just feels completely out of control because she can't do anything to make you better and is lashing out :(

New girl on the ward. She and oversharing lady are having a competitive discussion about how addicted they are to cigarettes Hmm

MaryAnnSingleton · 13/05/2013 10:31

trice of course she'll forgive you- she loves you and you can say these things to your parents and they'll love you whatever...I think school is the very best place for her to be and doing stuff as normally as possible- maybe the school should ease up on the prizes etc as she'll easily suss out that this is a bit too much and that might reinforce her feelings that things are abnormal.
ash competitive smoking stories ! hope teeth man is ok. Eek about cannula,that would have made me pass out for sure !
Smog is very good about his injections- too busy eating to notice !

trice · 13/05/2013 10:34

It's good you are managing to keep your sense of humour Ash. I hope this doesn't mean you have to listen to all the stories again!

I am tetchy and even more self obsessed than usual today. Perhaps this means I am feeling better!